esp. in time of crisis and differences?
2007-06-05 03:50:09 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With lots of LOVE!!! Couples need to accept that they have differences and learn how to reach a compromise. In a time of crises, couples need to seek for advice. I always suggest to evaluate yourself and start fixing your own flaws before telling your spouse theirs. Remeber to forgive, forget and never bring it up again.
2007-06-05 03:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by amiari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know almost everybody has told you communication is this key and they're right. There is also love. First a couple needs to put some time apart for talking. No phone, no TV, no kids just talking. When you do talk, both of you need to be honest, open and receptive of each other. Both need to stay calm and not blow up when the other person has issues concerning the others oversites or problems. Need to talk things through and not leave them unresolved. My wife and I made a commitment to each other to never go to sleep without resolving any pending issues (we've been married over 17 years and it still works). When having a conversation both of you need to keep an open mind and not just blow up and walk away. Need to resolve any issues. This is where the love part comes in. If you love one another, when discussing an Issue each person needs to be able to give as much as they want to take. Each person has to be aware of there others needs and point of view. For example the husband can say something like "well that's how they do it in my family." Here we have a situation where the other person has to be aware that that's what he's learned and that the only way he knows how. The other person has to be accessible and sensitive to the other person and try and work out a medium point where you both will agree half way. Sometimes this helps because once the other has seen how it can be done better or less expensive or whatever the other way, they may learn something new and find out that there are other ways, but again it's a give and take situation held together with a strong bond of love. I could go on and on, but through rough patches and good and great times, my wife and I have learned to almost master this.
Good luck in building a good marriage.
2007-06-05 04:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and Intimacy is the foundation of a good marriage. Without these two a marriage would only stand on one leg and then tumble.
When you communicate, you get intimacy, when you get intimacy you get pure love making. This of course will keep the ball rolling.
Communicate and listen as well, listening is a very important part in a woman's life. without it a woman will go to somewhere else and find that. It doesn't have to be sexual nature.
In time and crisis, holding and being with each other will build a strong marriage. In fact most strong marriages comes from a background were spouses have gone through a crisis. It makes the relationship stronger because it builds commaradarie. I watch your back and you watch mine kind of thing.
Differences comes into play in all kinds of relationship. You have to embrace his/her differences and not assume that they will change. Don't want them to change. let them be and embrace the differences. thats whats great about your relationship.
Make sure to hold your spouse with open arms not closed. This will of course give them the opportunity to move around and be comfortable. Holding them with close arms will just get them tired and choking.
Give them unconditional love, for example love them for whoever they are regardless of their flaws. Once you start giving them conditions then it becomes chaotic.
...all in all hold your spouses hand throughout the hardships of life and tell them how much you appreciate them. Say thank you, it's that simple!
2007-06-12 12:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cerealkiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most married people experienced the joy of a happy marriage with loving, respectful children molded with love into responsible adults. That is the dream of most men and women in almost every country and culture. There are ups and downs along the way but the most easy way to keep a happy marriage is its basic foundation of love and understanding and that summarized all the tips and all the ways of keeping an enduring marriage life.
2007-06-05 04:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by henry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good marriage is one that is God-centered. If the Lord is part of your life, your marriage will be able to survive the bumps and bruises that life throws at you. Join a good bible-based church or synagogue. Participate in the activities for married folks. you will make like-minded friends and you will find that your God-centered life will be able to withstand the ups and downs.
Good luck and may the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord cause his face to shine upon you and give you his Shalom/peace. The peace of the Lord surpasses all understanding. Amen.
2007-06-12 10:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by maninthemirror327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Have a date night, just the two of you...with no distractions from children or other friends.
2. If you're always joined at the hip, find one activity that you can do separately from each other.
3. Pray and worship together. Attend a marriage conference!
4. Learn that you can't change your spouse. You can only change yourself or how you perceive your spouse.
2007-06-12 02:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support and honesty are my two main things. In a crisis, the support is a big one....you need to be there for each other in whatever capacity the other person needs. Good luck!
2007-06-05 03:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Amy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing is communication and getting to know someone up side down it can take two days two mos or two years or never. the communication is the one thing and friendship is one that should be lasting and the work from there and you can pretty much realize if that is good then you are ok. there are some that deceive women and when it comes down to it pretty hard to tell. but then again that is how it s started.
2007-06-12 03:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is training the other person to put up with you. At first this might seem harsh; but in reality it is training. For example, if your wife complains every time you walk in the door; you will loath walking in the door. If you complain every time she doesn't feel like sex; she will never want the subject to come up. So focus on positive reenforcement with your parnter and train them to do the same. The way you train them to do the same is that you tell them what complaining, etc... does for you. Give them hints on how to deal with you. Let them know what boundaries you have.
2007-06-05 04:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 2 years and I think love & respect are important for a good relationship. I also think it's important to spend time together & communicate, communicate, communicate! Don't forget to give each other personal space.
Best wishes w/ your marriage:)
2007-06-05 03:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Proud mother! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋