Telling your family and friends every detail about what your spouse says about them.Telling them every detail about what goes on in your home...
2007-06-05 17:16:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't tolerate that - it's an invasion of privacy
2007-06-05 17:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well, not a deal breaker.....just that you have a very immature partner who likes to run their mouth to feed their character flaws. They either cannot make up their mind on a situation, until they talk it out, or they just do not realize that "what happens in Reno, stays in Reno."
You need to just talk to them and let them know that 'you feel' betrayed when all that goes on at home is being shared and evaluated by family, much less just friends. Where is the marriage privacy? Ask them?
Suggest that they are not mature enough to have a spouse, their best friend, and they need to think if marriage is what they really want....because they are pushing you away.
This has been going on longer than you two have known each other. It is the way some large families operate...getting into each other's business and talk, talk, talk about it with friends included. NO PRIVACY AT ALL.
GOOD LUCK.
2007-06-06 03:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a deal breaker. A person shouldn't betray their spouse's confidence. It will only cause conflict between the couple and also with the family and friends and the spouse.
2007-06-06 02:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider it a deal breaker, but you and your spouse are meant to be a team, and as a team you work together. Everyone needs to vent out once in a while, but you don't need to go into every detail. To me I would try and resolve this problem/situation with my spouse.
2007-06-06 00:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by vidots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if it's a deal breaker in as much that I wouldn't have likely made the deal to begin with. I generally don't say things in private that I wouldn't say to someone in person but I mean can we have some privacy please. That would have been a stumbling block to the marriage in the first place.
2007-06-06 00:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. The only "deal breakers" in a marriage are infidelity and abuse.
You're suffering typical marriage issues - get counseling and work it out. It's no excuse to divorce.
2007-06-06 00:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your spouse has some issues with you that you both need to straighten out...because now you're telling total strangers (here) about what's going on in your marriage. You 2 need to have an adult conversation about your relationship.
2007-06-06 00:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse is your confidant, your secret keeper. You don't go ratting them out to your family. Something needs to be sacred between you. They have all the dirt on you and you on them, it would be a breech of trust to go blabbing to your family/friends.
It is one thing to go to your family member(s) in confidence for advice or support, but in most cases how you present your spouse to your family is how they will receive them, so please give your family a good view of the person you love.
2007-06-06 00:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made a deal with my wife before we got married.
We agreed that if any member of either of our families had a problem with us being together, then it was THAT PERSON's problem and NOT OURS.
We have been happily married for five years and still going strong.
Pay them no heed and don't keep dredging up other peoples opinions, even if they ARE family.
2007-06-06 00:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by tabulator32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone has diarhea of the mouth.....
Not a "deal breaker", but definately something that must be addressed ASAP.
2007-06-06 00:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a problem but not a deal breaker.
2007-06-06 00:26:18 · answer #11 · answered by Queen Burn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋