I am a problem for myself?

Question

I am a woman,58yrs married,no children,no attractive .I help my husband in our business which is doing ok. He is quite fond of one of my friends of around 50 and waits for her .He tries sex with me on day she visits.Other days he is not interested and is irritated if I suggest it.What could be the reason?

Answer 1

The reason he does sex with you on the day she visits you keeping her in his mind, at that moment he see her in you & enjoys sex only thing about her only. Try to become more sexier in life for him & see if it works out.

Answer 2

You have to change your outlook, and try to be bit smart and stylish in your day to day life. As you dont have child, you should be able to hold more over him, still he may be having some other thing in his mind that he acts in such a way. If you are attractive you can enjoy life your own way.
There is no age limit for enjoying sex, only keep your self young with your thoughts and body figure.

Answer 3

aww Im sorry to hear things arent going to swell in the bedroom department. a marriage is sometimes a hard thing to keep going.
The only thing I can really think of is trying to spice it up in the bedroom department, tyring dressing up in skimpy clothes using sex aides (toys) etc..

Of course you will also need to talk to him, find out how he feels and what he thinks will help..

Goodluck, I hope things work out for the best

edited to say after reading the other posts I will admit Im not sure what the original poster was saying exactly, I personally dont think hes cheating, just obviously gets excited by the friend, you will have to let us know more, is he wanting a threesome with her and you, or do you think hes cheating? or is he, as I thought you were saying, just excited by her when she visits... thanks

Answer 4

I know you want to say something but just be prepared for him not to tell you the truth. I can't see him ever admitting something like that. I guess before she gets there, make a comment about how you guess he's gonna want to have sex today. It will make him think on how you know that. I hope that helped. Tough question.

Answer 5

i think your husband has some problems. he obviously likes this other women and thinks about her while having sex with you.

time to talk to him, make him open up and tell you what he wants, and you tell him the same, then you can try to meet each other's needs.

don't give up when he ignores or tries to say nothing's wrong, coz it's important and it sounds like you are a good person.

communication is key, so try, try and keep trying.

all the best.

Answer 6

Have you thought about divorce? Don't you want to be happy? I'd rather be by myself then with someone that doesn't love me.
He only wants to get you in the bed after seeing her because it sounds like he is all worked up over her in his mind and since he can't have her, he's pretending with you. Sorry but that's the way it sounds like to me.
Good luck!

Answer 7

i am only 19 and wouldnt begin to have the experience you have but from my experience always be self sufficient and never worry of an unfaithful partner because it only derives stress when if they are caught the only option is to simply move on.

Answer 8

Give him time for re concilating it, Time & patience is the only assurance to make a person forget everything!

God bless you!

Answer 9

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yes, you are a problem for your-self,

believe you me,
at 58, sex shouldn`t be the reason any-more,

there is no reason for your husbands behivour,
it as such,

Answer 10

hey take what you can get, you don't really have a problem so have your friend come over more often.