Her mom is dating a guy she's known for only a year. He was married but shortly after he was cheating on his wife with her mom, going on vacations and everything together. My friend is 19 and she has 2 younger twin brothers that are 7. Well just recently, like one night her mom broke the news that she's moving in with him. He also has kids of his own and has them over sometimes. Well my friend is in college and is worried about moving in with this man her mom just forced on her and her brothers. What should she do? He's always over their house telling the twins what to do and her mom just goes along with what he says to them. My friend really doesn't know what to do. So what do you think she should do with her living arrangements or how should she stop this from happening?
2007-06-05 16:48:45 · 10 answers · asked by lilkitt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her mom has a history of jumping into relationships without thinking about the consequences. She usually ignores the twins when her new bf is over and one is thought to have the developing stages of autism.
2007-06-05 17:02:48 · update #1
I left a lot of other bad details out!
2007-06-05 17:09:33 · update #2
Whew....................Trouble.
Run.............get out and find a new friend.
Bye!
2007-06-05 16:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You friend has options. She can move into her own place and/move in with a room-mate. She can share what she knows with her aunt{s} and/Moms best friend and state her concerns for the younger siblings. Maybe at this time, someone will be able to step in and help the 'littles' until Mom figures out what going on in her life. Chances are good that he's going to end up cheating on her like he did he 'now' ex. It's always a "SAD DAY" when a Mom chooses a man over her children. One day, she will regret it. It's unfortunate she doesn't know this guy well enough to know if he's capable of hurting the 'twins' and even if he's not doing it now, whose to say he won't lose his temper in the future. I'm sorry for your friend. My prayers are with her and her siblings and hopefully MOM will get her mind off the guys pants zipper long enough to see what she's doing to the children. Good Luck
2007-06-05 16:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by happy dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't stop it from happening. Her mother has the right to do what she wants to with her life. Your friend has the choice of moving out(she's a grown up now) or staying and being there for her brothers. And you don't actually say what the guy is telling the boys to do, and if its pick up your room, eat your veggies and do your homework, then there isn't a thing wrong with that. If he's being verbally abusive then your friend needs to talk to her mom about it, and tell the guy to knock it off. She can also report abuse to children's service, but she needs to keep in mind that that could mean the boys being removed from the home.
2007-06-05 17:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should give the guy a chance. If she really cares about her moms feelings and being happy. But this is as long as its a healthy relationship and not harming the boys. She can always get a place of her own if she needs to. Good luck to her.
2007-06-05 16:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say probably nothing would help she could talk to her mom but in the end her mom will do what she wants. The best thing is for her to voice her concerns and just let her mom know she only wants her to be happy.
2007-06-05 16:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by RoseyRevisited 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are a number of motives....your dad and mom might evaluate you too youthful to have a boy chum, you would be immature and actual taken great thing approximately, they might have a have faith situation with you in line with previous habit, possibly you have a historic previous of identifying on the incorrect styles of boys. those are a number of the main motives, there are so lots greater.
2016-11-05 02:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to talk to her mom about her concerns but keep in mind that this guy can be come your step-dad. i myself was raise by my step-dad and i see him as my dad, just give your mom's boyfriend a chance and see how everything goes.
2007-06-05 17:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
support your mom and dont be afraid to voice your concerns just remember if she is happy and if the boys are in good health mental and physical then all should be well.
2007-06-05 16:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by imalwayswatchin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cannot change her mother. She can move to her own house. It is time for that anyway if she is college age.
2007-06-05 17:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant do anything about it
she should try to talk to her mom and voice her concerns with out starting a fight
2007-06-05 16:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by rage6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋