we are a couple having a baby, our friends lost their job and home and asked us for shelter. we said okay, they said that they would help us out with baby and house chores.
as the owners and providers should we pay for their stay?
2007-06-05 16:46:12 · 8 answers · asked by k10394 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to work out a deal with your friends. I know that's not easy but I'm sure they're sensitive to the fact that you're going to have a baby, which is financially taxing, but right now, they have nowhere else to go. Maybe you could make an agreement that you will pay for a certain amount of time until your friends can back on their feet. I'm sure they hate the feeling of having to impose on you, but at this time, I don't see how they could afford to pay you and get enough money to get a new place of their own. You do need to set some guidelines though, including things they can do to help out and most importantly, when they have to leave. Having a baby is very challenging without having to worry about houseguests for a long time. I commend you for being a great friend though!
Good luck with your baby! :)
2007-06-05 16:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kathryn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! If you are going to allow them to stay with you, you definately need to first get a lease agreement in writing as to what they will pay and what they will do in trade. I think it is only fair that you ask them to provide you with at least enough money to pay for thier share of the utilities and food and they can help with chores and babysitting for "rent"...when they actually do find jobs, though, you need to redo the agreement and make them pay at least a couple hundred dollars in rent.
The reason I say this is...I had a friend who did the same thing and allowed a friend and her daughter to move in with her without a lease agreement. THings were good for a couple of months and then they went sour, but the friend refused to move and it took my friend another 3 months to evict her. In court the judge told her that you MUST have a lease agreement even if you are doing something for a friend. So...good luck.
2007-06-05 23:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should be responsible and find jobs not put it on you to give them a home. Especailly when you are having a baby they should have found someone else to stay with. Bringing a baby into a home is a very stressful situation and you should really ask them to start being adults and provide for themselves. Do not pay their way through life you have your own life to pay for.
2007-06-06 00:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by tgray8104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with helping out friends, but don't let it turn into enabling friends. They should be given a time limit, to find a job and save to get their own place. If they have not achieved this by the time limit they have to go. They will find somewhere else to go. It has happened to me several times and they have always found somewhere else to stay, so don't let them use you. Insist they go sign up for food stamps to help out with that. Make sure they are looking for work everyday.
2007-06-05 23:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest strongly that you offer them a place to stay for a set period of time, say 2 months. In that time, they need to get jobs and get another place to live. If you need help with the baby, pay a professional.
2007-06-06 00:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this your first child? if it is, you have no idea the amount of stress that you are going to be under with the baby, let alone having extra people in your house. my hubby's sister lives with us for a few months and my hubby tried to move his father in too, all while i was about 8 months pregnant. I went completely ballistic! if you can handle extra people, go for it, but it sucks. i understand that they have no where else to go, but jobs are not hard to come by. you need to set rules for them. they both need to have jobs, pay part of the bills, and have a definite date of when they will be leaving.
2007-06-05 23:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
2007-06-05 23:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
none of the above. you should awnswer that for yourself.
2007-06-05 23:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by wesley3335 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋