What's more effective? a) Show your partner that you really care a lot, that you feel jealous when HE's flirting with someone, and show that you're hurt when he does wrong or... b) Pretend that you dont care even if he's flirting with other girls, pretend that im not affected.. that i have no insecurities??..What do u think will work the best? Coz in my past i had relationships, i had problems about jealousy...some man doesnt like jealous girl, some thinks they can dominant you when they see that youre affected... Advice pls. whats the best to do? to keep him and make myself precious to him? thanks a lot!
2007-06-05 22:38:22 · 8 answers · asked by bluestardustglitter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jealousy is a negative emotion and it can be very destructive. Many also consider it a sign of immaturity though I admit that sometimes even mature people feel jealous. Ignoring an issue is almost as bad.
I think what's most effective is a quiet chat. I agree with your first point, always show you care and love. There's also nothing wrong with appearing hurt. I'd explain gently that a particular behaviour or event is making you feel jealous and unhappy, that you are feeling hurt. It's possible that he doesn't realize this so help him to understand. Hopefully when he does understand you can talk about it more and perhaps he'll adjust his behaviour though, admitedly, there are never any guarantees.
In terms of your final question, what to do so you can keep him, that's a different issue. The Chinese have a saying ... if you love something set it free, if it's yours it will come back, if it's not yours it will not come back. If you have to play games to keep him you'll lose him in the end anyway.
The best way to have a lasting partner is simply to be loving and caring and to fulfil their needs as best you can. And the best way is to leave them free to decide for themselves. I like to think of it as needing to earn love every day, doing something that will endear your partner to you and make him/her happy. In that way your partner never has any reason to leave.
2007-06-06 00:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Shutterbug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that your partner is your husband, how does he look now? That's what many people try to perceive when they are on a date, how would they be as a husband/father? If you can't stand what he does now, odds are, you are not going to be any happier later. Skip the 'dog trix' for him and show your dust as you fly outta there.
In short, he's there for you, not for flirting with others. Dump him.
2007-06-05 22:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men always look at pretty women just like women look at cute guys so as long as he doesn't take the woman out let him have fun and shut your mouth and don't say anything to him. As you said some men don't like jealous women.
I know that I don't like a jealous man.
2007-06-05 22:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. Guys don't like paranoid, insecure girls. Just act like you don't care about him flirting with other girls (although personally i don't think he should be flirting with anyone else) and can live without him easily.
2007-06-05 22:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lebanese men are real GENTLEMAN ... they have amazing personalities (In general).. they know how 2 appreciate a woman & make her fall head over heals with them (they have a way with the ladies lol)..... Respect is another thing most of u guys have 4 us (the lebanese ladies) & that is what makes u so special =)
2016-04-01 05:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do never act in love...
express ur feeling with whole heart
if u r jelous ...show it off.n if u can adjust with their behaviour ....go on with that....
and yaar...there is no particular way to love a person...
it cannot b opted from a list
try to understand ur partner very well...
do care him...
enjoy
b relaxed
2007-06-05 22:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by chippa181 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different in every relationship. Watch his reactions
2007-06-05 22:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not show your desperation,if you want to keep the relationship going.No one likes insecure parteners.
2007-06-05 22:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋