My husband has just finished his job and his collegues have taken him out for drinks. Should I be annoyed that he hasn't invited me out? I'm just sitting here by myself. I would invite him, we only live 10mins walk from where he is. Please tell if I am just being silly!
2007-06-01 08:08:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You aren't being silly, but you should let him go out with his friends for an after work drink or two. It's important that you both develop friendships with other people outside your marriage and family. Maybe you could say something to him like ask him if other wives or girlfriends go. If they don't, you probably won't feel comfortable hanging out with him and his buddies from work because you won't know what most of them are talking about.
My co-workers and I started a club called the 501 Club. We all meet at 5:01 on Friday evenings at a bar for happy hour and have a few before we head home. It's a great end of the week activity. Harmless and fun.
2007-06-01 08:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not only being silly. You are being unreasonable.
My wife is in a bell choir and goes out with her friends afterwards, and I am happy for her. She needs other outlets in her life besides me. I can only give her my perspective on things, and I don't always have the same interests as her.
You need to be the same way. Just because he isn't inviting you doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you. Maybe is friends end up talking about football or people that he works with. These topics may not interest you or have any meaning to you. Why limit him if he isn't doing anything wrong?
Be supportive. Tell him to have a good time, and you'll see him when he gets back.
2007-06-01 15:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're being silly, but i get silly in the same exact way. it sucks being so sensitive about everything...believe me, i understand. Look at these opportunities and make the most out of them...maybe take that time to get some candles and romantic music set up for when hubby comes home from happy hour-I guarantee next time he won't stay as long when he has you and a hot night to come home to. :)
2007-06-01 15:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Luvitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and my co-workers and I go out for drinks every Friday. Nobody brings their spouse, kid, gf, bf mother or whoever else lol. It's just an after work relaxer... I know most people who do this and think it's perfectly normal as do I. My fiance doesn't mind either.
2007-06-01 15:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by evelinka420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, would you invite him with the girls?
better yet, call the girls up for drinks!! =)
Its good to do your own thing.
On the other hand- if this is regular occurance and he has NEVER invited you. Id ask why. But dont invade his space, ya know?
2007-06-01 15:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been nice if invited you but it's a guy thing. You know men, "No one else is bringing their wives, why do have to bring my wife." LOL Don't sweat it. You go and do some girl friend stuff, like talk about what an ****** he is for not inviting you.
2007-06-01 15:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by FeelYourPain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a break. He deserves time out with his buddies. When my husband got promoted he went out for drinks with his colleagues and I wasn't offended at all that I wasn't invited.
2007-06-01 15:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Annoyed, yes. Mad, maybe. Guys need time to unwind sometimes, without their wives.
At the same time, though, there's NO reason why you should just sit patiently at home, like the good little 50s wife, and wait on him. Call a friend, leave him a TV dinner in the freezer and go to dinner. Call it your "unwinding" time. =)
2007-06-01 15:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are being young and silly. You are being one of these young *** girls that get married and have to do everysingle damn thing with their husband. You can't even go and take a BM without the wife wanting to be right there.
That's a divorce waiting to happen. You need to find out why you are so dependent on your husband for emotional support, it's not healthy.
2007-06-01 15:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by bettercockster1 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're being silly. It's probably just the guys. And if it's not, then you need to look more attractive so he can show you off.
2007-06-01 16:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋