what do i do if my do my mom is cheating?

Question

i usually pay the cell phone bill online for my parents and i stumbled on the call logs and saw that she was calling my dad's close friend all the time. she even calls him when me and my sister are in the house and says that its one of her girl friends and then goes to her room. ive always had a weird vibe about him. i know i have to confront her but how should i do it? i'm going off to college in 2 months and i really dont want to see my family break up? and i dont want my little sister to find out about this. is there any chance of my parents surviving this?

ive looked back now and shes been talking to him constantly for a couple months now. and alot of times when i call her work they say she left but she gets home like 2 hours later. what is the best way to confront her?

Answer 1

Stay out of it and let your dad figure it out. It's not your place to say anything. If you dont want your family to break up, keep it zipped.

Answer 2

I would just find a time when the two of you are alone and say, "Mom I've been meaning to ask you. How long have you been cheating on Dad with Bob?"
If she denies it then just go, "Denial isn't just a river in Egypt, but its your life. I was just curious. From your behavior I assume you don't want to know how I found out."
Then drop the whole thing. Her guilt and paranoia will do the rest.

Answer 3

You've never caught her cheating, maybe there are things they are talking about since he is her husbands best friend. Does your dad have a birthday or special occasion that they may be making special plans for him. You should keep quite because you don't really know and you may ruin surprise for your Dad. She is always at home, I wouldn't start any trouble because if it would cause them to divorce when your older, you will live to regret what you have done, even though you think you would be helping. Let Mom and Dad take care of their own business, that way your not involved.

Answer 4

I been on your fathers end of the stick, lots of people knew that my husband was cheating on me and no one had the guts to tell me. Your mother is stupid for not only doing this but actually thinking that she was sneaky enough to get away with it.
Gather your evidence (phone bills and any other prof) talk to your father, he deserves to know. He will probably deny it at first, then get angry but in the end he will accept it and do what is best for you, your sister and himself. Maybe they will work it out, but if they don't it is not your fault, your mother did all this not you.

Answer 5

I dont think there are any accidents. You found out for some reason. If it were me, I would confront her and force it into a crisis and the situation will either break or change. Thats just me though.

Answer 6

there isn't really anything you can do about your parents break up if they do. usually if that's the way they feel they are going to do it no matter what. the best thing to do is talk to your mom and just Tell her you know about the phone calls and you want to know whats going on cause you do have a right to know. and then tell her if there is any possible way they can work things out cause you would hate to see your family break. but that's the only thing you can do the choices your parents make well that's what they are going to stick with. well good luck with everything.

Answer 7

Tell your mom the same thing you are telling us. Tell her that if she's gonna continue this crap you will have a talk with your father. You don't want to see your family break up? would you rather see your dad be miserable because of her cheating?

Answer 8

you are an adult now getting ready to attend college, your parents marital problems are none of your business. All you can do is let your mother know what you suspect and ask her to keep you out of it as you are not willing to be put into the position of choosing between her and your father, but you also must tell her that if your father would ever ask you that you intend on telling him the truth. I know it is difficult to feel there is a possibility your mother is betraying your father but you must know, there marriage is their own to work out and my bet is that your father already has some kind of suspicion anyway. Best of luck to you!

Answer 9

Confront your mother directly. She's going to probably be angry at you, so tell her that it was obvious because you pay that bill. If she wants to pay the bill in the future, fine, let her. Then I'd wait to see what she has to say about it all before deciding the next step. Hopefully she will be very embarrassed. At that point I would suggest marriage counseling. If your mother raised you with good morals, then I'd probably say something like: Mom, this is against your own morals, and against your character. I hope she agrees with you.

Answer 10

STAY OUT OF IT!!! This is between your parents and if you confront her or interfere, you might open a can of worms that you want nothing to do with.

Its possible that your father knows and is turning a blind eye to preserve his marriage. By bringing it all out into the open, you might be forcing them to act in ways they normally wouldn't.

Its also possible that your parents have an "open marriage". Maybe they both have physical relations with other people and have just chosen not to tell their kids.

Its also possible that your mom is cheating, your dad doesn't know and that he would be devastated if he found out. Maybe you keep your mouth shut and the affair is never discovered and no one gets hurt.

Bottom line is that you don't know what goes on behind closed doors or what your parents are ok with that they choose to keep private. No snooping, no meddling.

Also, remember that she is still your mother. She gave you life and then gave her life to raise you. No matter what she does, you need to respect her as a parent and love her because she is your mom and would never forsake you for doing something foolish.

Answer 11

I have read some of the replys you got and some of them are really horrible. I would say that your mum may have real reasons to be talking to your dads friend and maybe they are inocent reasons and nothing to worry about at all. I dont know how you can ask her but I think you should ask if she is happy with dad and sort of take it from there. It may be nothing at all I hope it is. x