Marriage & Divorce - 1 June 2007

My husband dont think i dont need to get paid.
Everytime I clean my house and my son and my husband dont clean after themselves. I have to clean after them.any opinion about this?

2007-06-01 06:31:30 · 47 answers · asked by Tracy B 2

and she confessed without getting caught. However, it was almost 6 months long, extremely intense and she was ready to marry the other guy. She didn't make a clean break and stayed in contact with the other guy until recently. Said she still loves the other guy (although you don't know this) but came back to you (the husband) to try and "reconcile". Could you trust her again, even with lots of counseling? Could you get through this or would you end it? Do you really believe that this would have been the only time, even if that's what she told you?

2007-06-01 06:22:04 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love my wife but i feel that i cant trust her. she had been acting suspicious and i looked in her sent email folder and found about 1000 emails from a guy from a mmorpg. i was looking thru them and found that they made plans to meet about a year ago, hotel reservations and all . i confronted her and she says they made the plans and met but she never had any physical contact they just had dinner twice, he lives out of the country. i also did some research and found out they had been calling each other long distance on our cell phones for over the past year.
i have been together with this girl for allmost 10 years and marrried over 2 years , i love her to death and i want to believe her and forgive and forget but i cant get the thoughts out of my head. i even went so far as to make her swear on a bible about the physical part with this guy.
i feel like ive had my heart and my trust trampeled beyond repair. help pls

2007-06-01 06:21:27 · 53 answers · asked by destroyedfromtheinside 1

2007-06-01 06:19:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 20 years to a wonderful woman. Last year I started a business had partnership problems which is leading to the disolution of the business. The financial burdan has been overwhelming we lost over 80k that we owe to the government and cant use bankrupcy to resolve because of equity in home.
On top of that we are both having our midlife change she is 42 going on 60 and I am 44 going on 30. She hates sex and I want it 24/7. I am Pagan, well more correctly Hindu, she is convinced I am burning in hell for that.
I am happy with my life, she is not and spends half the time depressed. The fighting has gotton unreal, She believes I had affair which never happened and I even proved that to her, so we changed the fight to solid money, but in her mind it is still question of my fidelity.
I woke up one day and relized how different we are, and yet I still love her with all my heart, but I feel like we both need to have a redo.

2007-06-01 06:14:11 · 11 answers · asked by Patrick S 1

Be honest!

2007-06-01 06:14:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Several times I have found porn mags and pics that my husband hid. He says he will get rid of them, and then I find them again. I have cried to him and told him how much it hurts me and makes me feel like I am not enough for him. At first he said I wasn't having sex with him enough so I had sex with him more. This last time I found the pictures, before I told him I found them I asked him if he were still attracted to me and if he was satisfied with our sex life and he said yes. Then when I asked him why he was still printing porn pictures, he still tried to turn it around to something I am doing wrong. I am beginning to think he won't stop and I am just not enough for him. I am not unattractive, believe me I turn my share of heads. I can't trust him anymore and I am beginning to think this will lead to something else if it hasn't already. How do I handle this?

2007-06-01 06:11:59 · 23 answers · asked by tauremini_80 1

he went drinking at lunch with some people from work. he came home drunk and i went shopping and took his phone with me. i got a text from a girl he works with i pretended to be him and texted back a few times to see what she would say she didnt text anything incriminating so i called her and asked her why she was texting my husband[after i told her i would kick her ***] she said that he told her that he was divorced and that he tried to kiss her. she said nothing happened that she has a boyfriend.when i asked him about it he said he doesnt know why she was texting him and that he didnt tell her he was divorced or try to kiss her he said she was a temp worker and she has only been there for a week and he doesnt even know her that well the reason she has his number is explainable im really hurt over all this but want to trust my husband he is not really the cheating type but i have trust issues my ex cheated not sure what to believe please help

2007-06-01 06:09:00 · 18 answers · asked by sunshinednmi 1

There is a guy that has shown quite a bit of interest in me over the past couple of months, but he never verbalizes anything. He always initiates meaningless conversation. I think he may be trying to figure me out, and I've probably been sending him some mixed signals just because we've known each other for a few years, and his change in behavior took me by surprise. He recently went through a divorce, and I know that I would want something more serious than he is ready for right now. But I'm tired of trying to figure each other out and playing mind games, as we are both grown. I am definitely interested in being with him and know that if I never pursue him, I'll always wonder what could have been. I am ready to just tell him to give me a call once he is off the rebound! I don't know how else to handle this. Is this going to offend him? What would you do in the situation? Any advice is appreciated and thanks in advance.

2007-06-01 05:59:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my partner and i live together , he is the only son and lives with his mother as well who is a widow.
since i came into that house ,she never handled me well like a "human being " which she even told me straight on my face.

My partner has a history of psychological problems and he has been adviced many times to leave that house and go far away from her but for the love of his mother he never did that.

every relationship he has ever had, she made sure that it could not last.

sometime she even insults my partner in my presence and says to him to most unspeakable things a mother could say to her child.

she said to me that her greatest wish is that her son stays single with no family and children for the rest of his life just like he made her stay single when her husband died.
for the sake of my partner i say nothing to her even as he watches her insult me .

Is this really normal? am i too quiet ?
someone help me please

2007-06-01 05:57:46 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and me had an argument on monday at breakfast
we still havent spoke to each other all week she has went to her mothers after work to get the kids her mum watches them
she comes home around 9pm and goes to bed ive txt her phone today to fix things an ive had no reply what should i do
its not fair on the kids we have been together for 10 yrs 2kids
and 1 on the way im honestly ready to call it a day advice welcome realy truly frustrated

2007-06-01 05:57:17 · 4 answers · asked by jackmeeko 2

Ok I am seprated My X still pays all the bills. Imean everything.. Even if I want to go out with friends.He does this because we have three young children at home 2,4.8. I have never work once I had children.. I am stay at home mom.... We didn't want to change their lives so much. It was already messed up with us fight all the time and him leaving.. We thought for now this was better for our children not going to court right away..So my question is I went out with two differnt men and both of them had a promblem with my x still paying for me... We are not friend we do not hang out.. We only talk for the kids or about bills..Both of them said they felt funny that another man was still so involed in my life... What do you think and why...No mean answers like get a job,,. We have a disabled son I am home to make a better life for my kids.. Thanks...

2007-06-01 05:53:26 · 16 answers · asked by Mamabear 2

We R secreatly married.I can't stay without him,But How 2 make him understand?I LOVE HIM...........

2007-06-01 05:42:11 · 10 answers · asked by sush 1

I am a 25 year old and a new father and soon to be husband. Me and my fiance met about a year ago and she just gave birth to our daughter. We are not getting married because we have a child but because we love each other. It just so happens that I am in the military and I will be getting out soon. I am orrigionally from Pennsylvania. She is 19 and just graduated high school ayear ago. I live in a state (Arkansas) where good paying, skilled jobsare very scarce. The majority of jobs in the area are low paying factory/warehouse jobs. I am forced to look out of state for decent paying jobs. My wife to be grew up in a small town and has lived a very sheltered life. She says that shes willing to move away with me if we have to. Her parents never said it was a bad idea but I can tell that they are not to crazy about the idea of me taking a job out of state. What should I do?

2007-06-01 05:25:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm turning 30 this year and had a major meltdown. I have been drunk everyday for the last 6 months, hated my job, wanted to end my life, lost our baby and had a couple of affairs on my wife. I recently came to terms with what I did and sobered up. I also told her everything and she is confused on what to do. How can I gain her trust again?

2007-06-01 05:14:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know I had great advice from all of you out there... I am wondering if I should be lowering his child support payments if he cannot afford food, gas, rent, car payments, bankruptcy payments, 1000.00+ in parking tickets and numerous pay day loans..I know he can file with the courts to have child support reduced ,,, if this happens should I comply before it goes to court or see what a judge would say???
As of yesterday the father of 3 will not see or speak to his kids until he straightens out his life... blaming me for taking his blood away etc. etc. acts like he is the only person who has separated from his kids... he had plenty of money when we separated to live on ... he blew it on bad choices and now can't afford to see his kids because he has no money for gas etc. food for them etc.

2007-06-01 04:53:11 · 32 answers · asked by Realistic 1

me and my husband been together since we were teens we are now married with two kids. should i be the wife of the year and have a three some. it would be a surprise for my husband. i think he would enjoy it. lol

2007-06-01 04:37:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

well a couple of days ago a girl, who had a sexy voice started calling the house and thought i was somebody else(she looked my name up in the phonebook and thought i was another John Sacro) the John Sacro that was her boyfriend, so i decided to play the part, of course i didnt tell my wife, because she is a very angry person, untill one day the girl called my house and left a really long love message, and my wife heard it, and i said "its not what it looks like" then she said "ha like you would cheat on ME" and she said it in a smug way.... i am a little heavy and my wife is way better looking than me and i have happy to have her and i would never be unfaithful, but its was just the smug way that she said it, i talked to her about it and, she said it was because she trusted me, that's bull s hit!!!! she said it because she is better looking than me, i wouldnt think that it would hurt so much that she DOESNT think i would cheat on her, should i get a bunch of friends that are girls?

2007-06-01 04:37:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is always yelling at me for something.it seems like i always cop the blame and everyone else who does the same things never get told off. The other people at my work have noticed him picking on me in particular aswell. what is his problem?

2007-06-01 04:35:13 · 7 answers · asked by jenny 1

Your bf/gf told you a person of the opposite sex that they used to work with tried to crack on to them, but it took them 5 years to tell you about it? And when you query it further at a later date (say the next day) they say oh I just made it up.

2007-06-01 04:32:34 · 11 answers · asked by Angielicious 1

into the basement with me. The dog sheds a lot, but I clean it up pretty good. My workshop is there, but she never comes down to see me. It makes me kind of sad.

2007-06-01 04:30:33 · 22 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

My ex was abusive and tried to hurt me physically and scare me when I left the marriage. He was arrested and is on a year of probation. He is now calling me and asking for me to go to counseling with him for a month once a week. I am about 8 weeks away from my divorce being final. He says that he wants to show me now that he has changed and his priorities are better now. He says he has had 9 months of counseling and is a different person. I don’t believe him. Everything in me says NO to this. But then there is a very small part of me that wants to give him this chance in counseling. I am not moving back in with him or anything. But I just do not want to open that door again. Of course there is small part of me that still loves him and all the good memories. But I have changed so much. I am stronger , more independent and vocal. I can’t go back to being passive and allowing someone to control me. He says that he would not control me but I just can’t trust him. I am afraid that if I say no he will do something. I do not want to live in fear any longer. I was just wondering if anyone has ever been here before?

2007-06-01 04:24:58 · 13 answers · asked by renee125 2

What age do you start thinking of marriage
why do you feel the need to get married
when do you pop the question
How do you prepare yourself
How do you know she is the right girl

2007-06-01 04:17:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

After two years of being together,he explains it's not as when we first met. everytime i try to initiate sexual intercourse he claims to be tired or not in the mood. He also says, he's getting old. When i ask if there's someone else, he reasures me that's not the case and that he's just tired or he has moods. it makes me feel that he's borde of me in a sexual way or perhaps he is seeing someone on the side. but i am not sure, cos it's possible that i am parronoid too, as i am also a sensitive person. Otherwise, he's 38 and i am 31, we just got married and the love is definitely still there between us, so any advice from you lovely people out there?

2007-06-01 04:16:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is constantly checking the computer and my myspace and going to every one I knows pages to see what I leave them for a comment.... and just in general whose page I look at.... I do have a lot of guy friends but I have never cheated and never considered cheating and never will cheat on him... I really do love him with all my heart and I wouldn't want to do anything to compromise our relationship.... but all my life I have had more guy friends than girl friends... I have even remained friends with a couple of my ex boyfriends... I see how the ex boyfriends could be a problem... because I realize that I wouldn't want him talkin to his ex... so I have slowly cut that out....He also checks my phone bill to see any numbers he doesn't know and where I made calls from... like what city and so forth... I'm talking to my friends and yea some of them happen to be guys... BUT everyone knows I'm HAPPILY married... is he trying to control me??? Or just start trouble??

2007-06-01 04:16:46 · 16 answers · asked by luvsick143 2

After having our first child 4 weeks ago and our 3 year aniversary approaching, my wife would like me to upgrade her .5K diamond with a 1K diamond. Should I do this?

2007-06-01 04:10:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex split up with me a few mths ago. For about 2 mths after I tried to get her back, told her I wanted to still be with her etc. She resisted all attempts to get back together and didn't want to meet me.

When I rang her 3 wks ago she wouldn't meet up as she said she was seeing someone.

About a wk ago I tried a different approach. I dropped her an e-mail and told her I was fine with things ending, was seeing someone else (I have been but ended it) and would like to stay friends. She called me within a day of reading it. She hadn't called me herself since we broke up.

She didn't mention our relationship. She asked if I was seeing anyone, I said yes. She said that was not seeing anyone. We agreed to meet up for a drink shortly.

Is this a case of now I am acting like I am not interested she is wanting to chase me again or is it about just being friends?? In my experience, staying friends is rare!

How do I play this people? I think I need to be cool? I want her back!

2007-06-01 04:05:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is constantly checking the computer and my myspace and going to every one I knows pages to see what I leave them for a comment.... and just in general whose page I look at.... I do have a lot of guy friends but I have never cheated and never considered cheating and never will cheat on him... I really do love him with all my heart and I wouldn't want to do anything to compromise our relationship.... but all my life I have had more guy friends than girl friends... I have even remained friends with a couple of my ex boyfriends... I see how the ex boyfriends could be a problem... because I realize that I wouldn't want him talkin to his ex... so I have slowly cut that out....He also checks my phone bill to see any numbers he doesn't know and where I made calls from... like what city and so forth... I'm talking to my friends and yea some of them happen to be guys... BUT everyone knows I'm HAPPILY married... is he trying to control me??? Or just start trouble??

2007-06-01 03:48:21 · 26 answers · asked by luvsick143 2

Why do men become unstable when it is time to make a commitment?

2007-06-01 03:42:46 · 25 answers · asked by Donna S 1

he served me with divorce papers? We have been separated for 5 months - he walked out - and treated me like crap. I tried very hard to save the marriage but he does not want it.
He went to the lawyer to get advice - but when I went to see my lawyer he flew off the handle. He opened up to his friends about separation, but when I did he was very angry again.
And now I am hurt after getting served, so my tone of voice with him is of anger and disgust. He insists that I be friendly with him. WHY DOES THAT MATTER TO HIM?????

We'll be divorced in a few months anyway! Is there something I am not seeing?

2007-06-01 03:40:01 · 8 answers · asked by Centered 4