My ex split up with me a few mths ago. For about 2 mths after I tried to get her back, told her I wanted to still be with her etc. She resisted all attempts to get back together and didn't want to meet me.
When I rang her 3 wks ago she wouldn't meet up as she said she was seeing someone.
About a wk ago I tried a different approach. I dropped her an e-mail and told her I was fine with things ending, was seeing someone else (I have been but ended it) and would like to stay friends. She called me within a day of reading it. She hadn't called me herself since we broke up.
She didn't mention our relationship. She asked if I was seeing anyone, I said yes. She said that was not seeing anyone. We agreed to meet up for a drink shortly.
Is this a case of now I am acting like I am not interested she is wanting to chase me again or is it about just being friends?? In my experience, staying friends is rare!
How do I play this people? I think I need to be cool? I want her back!
2007-06-01 04:05:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How long were you dating?
If she ever had the chance to fall in love with you, I think she is probably still in love with you. It's easy to try to be strong when you think/know your ex is still longing for you and calling you all the time. But once they move on and start seeing other people or attempt to get on with their lives, the break becomes very real and very painful.
If she loved you, I think she does not want to lose you now, judging by her behavior. If you love her, go for it, slowly. If she never loved you, her behavior might indicate hidden control and/or manipulation issues. Either way, I would be both careful and honest. Games are rarely worth it and one or both of you are likely to get hurt. Good luck!
2007-06-01 04:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This reminds me of some advice a friend gave to another. To break up with her boy so that he'll take a breather and calm down from a certain behavior that started to develop that she didnt like. Anything that maybe you were doing that she constantly would have felt defensive about? Thats something that you'll have to really think about.
Also, ya girls are just possessive enough that they dont want others to replace them even when they are over them. I'd say see what happens, but most likely, move on.
2007-06-01 11:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a game. But , you never know. Pretending in relationships, as weird as it is, works! Think about this, "Do you really want someone who is only interested, only when your pretending?". If you were/are needy ..then STOP! If not and your perfectly independent (whatever that is) then don't worry I guess. If you and anyone are meant to be then slow it down. Heard this.."No one takes a picuture with the fish that jumped in the boat", from "Two and a half men"..CBS...(tv show) but itsTRUE!
2007-06-01 11:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by matwior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple man. This kind of woman is a controlling one(thre are many of them).She want that you think all the time about her,even if she is dating someone else;she wants to be your owner like a master.
Forget that kind of woman,be happy with another one.The past is the past. Come on man!
2007-06-01 11:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just liked the idea that you were seeing someone which made it feel safe to see u? maybe she does just want to be friends. u need to talk to her and feel her out. see if she is interested in getting back with you. if all signs point to yes, then tell her that you have missed her and that you would drop anyone one you were dating for the one chance to be with her again. she may think you really do love her and would do anything to be with her. but then again she may just want to remain friends, she was just giving u time to get over the relationship you had. this is tricky so it sounds like u just need to talk to her.
2007-06-01 11:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly she only wants you because she thinks you're unavailable. If you went to her then next day and told her that you are no longer seeing anyone then she will probably lose interest. You should just move on with your life and try to forget about her.
2007-06-01 11:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted some attention from you she wasn't getting before. People tend to want what they can't get. You wanted her when she wasn't available , now she is curious about you, Since ( seemingly) your not available.
If you really want her and care, and she is worth it. Be clear about what you think is happening and if she is not clear about wanting you and trying again. Stop wanting her. and don't attempt anymore.
2007-06-01 11:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋