does housewives get paid to clean the house?

Question

My husband dont think i dont need to get paid.
Everytime I clean my house and my son and my husband dont clean after themselves. I have to clean after them.any opinion about this?

Answer 1

It is supposed to be a mutual understanding that if a parent stays home and the other works, the stay at home parent takes care of the household and the other brings home the paycheck. Now being paid to clean your own home is not something that generally happens, these things just need to be done by somebody, so it might as well be you. You share this home with your mate and (while this is not a tactful way of saying it) if this is a problem for you, then think about what he does to earn that pay and your obligations to the family if these things don’t get done. Remember his salary pays for everything both of you own, his salary pays for your lifestyle and if he didn’t marry you and had kids he will still live in a house, pay for his meals and live the lifestyle you have without you. It does not hurt if the husband doesn’t help out with the household things that what kids are for, yell at them to help you.

If, both parents work and there is a problem with sharing the chores, then you have to put your foot down and tell your son and husband that the household is falling apart and you need their help with the cleaning. If this doesn’t resolve your problem then let it pile up and hire a cleaning service. Two salaries should be able to afford a cleaning service a few days a week.

Other than that and for what is worth good luck.

Answer 2

A girl I know thinks this way. She doesn't want to put her husband's clothes away after she washes them or make dinner. She said it isn't the 1950's. I explained to her that the reason women did everything in the 50's is because they didn't work and that was their job. Just like her, you have elected to live a 1950's lifestyle so taking care of the house is your job and how you get paid is that you have food on the table and a roof over your head. If you don't like it, get a job and everyone can do an equal share. However, that doesn't mean you work a 24 hour shift. My rule is my work ends at 5:00. Any mess made after that time, I'm off of work.

Answer 3

You ARE being paid. I assume you have no other job. Therefore your husband is paying the mortgage, the utilities, the phone, the cable, the car payment, etc. You are therefore essentially trading your work in the home for all the things your husband is providing. Of course, you are married and your husband is supposed to provide those things, but on the other hand you are staying at home and supposed to keep it clean. If the mess is excessive, then you should ask them to help you out. Also, your son should definitely have his own chores. All children should have chores of their own once they reach the age of 4. Now, depending on your situation I would say it might be nice to have something, say $100/month that you can do whatever you want with. That way you don't feel like a slave to your husband. If you want to buy yourself something small you don't have to worry about asking your husband to ensure you don't overdraft the account. Both my husband and I work outside the home, but we still do something like that. We can't possibly both know the exact balance of the account at all times and we shouldn't have to call to ask the other if we can buy lunch or a t-shirt or get a haircut.

Answer 4

A lot of housewives don't get a 'wage' to clean the house. It's a pity we don't get more recognition for our part. A real wage would be fantastic!

My Dad would hand over his wages every week to my Mum who dealth with all the household and finances. Sometimes we hear of men who sup all their wages down the pub before they get home so the wife has to go out to work herself so bills can be paid.

Do you work as well as your husband? If so, then it would only be fair to split the housework after you both get home from work. If you're a stay at home mum, then it's understandable that you will do the bulk of the housework. Then it will be fair on you if you can either 'clock off' when your husband gets home from work or share jobs equally when he gets home.

As for your son, it depends on how old he is. If he's very young then you could show him how to do housework by making it into a game. If he's a lot older, he could possibly earn some extra pocket money by doing jobs for you. Make it clear though that there are certain jobs that are expected and won't be paid for like keeping his room in order, getting his school-bag organised for school (you're not responsible for his homework and making sure he has the correct schoolbooks as per his timetable - he is), also for him to make sure his laundry is picked up and put in the basket for washing. If it isn't - tough - they can lay stinking in his bedroom.

Answer 5

Being a housewife is the most underpaid, unacknowledged, and underestimated profession there is!

It entails the following:
* House Cleaning
* Shopping
* Chauffeur
* Child Care Professional
* Laundry
* Ironing
* Seamstress
* Referee
* Manager
* Tutor
* Phone Operator
* Chef
* Computer Skills of all types
* Analyst
* Therapist
* Social Worker
* Interior Designer
* Handyman
* Personal Assistant
* Animal Caretaker (in some cases)
* Nurse
* Coach
* Financial Planner
* Photographer
* and anything else I left out that may apply to other situations

If you put all this down on paper and added the salaries
it would be over $131, 471 annually.

Try and tell that to your husband and son and you'll get a good laugh.
I suggest making a resume and handing it to your husband along with a detailed list of ALL things you do in the house and say, "Honey, I have done a lot of soul searching and it turns out that my experience can fetch me a good living in the real world. I think I'd like to go to work since you guys don't appreciate all what i do for you at home. In fact, I have finished my resume- would you like to see? Oh and here is the list of things I usually do around here...of course you and I will split them 50-50 since I won't be staying at home anymore. Which ones would you ,like to choose to do? oh and pick up (son's name) from soccer as I'll be at an interview."

That should shock the hell out of him.
Maybe he won't want you to go to work and they will change.
Maybe he won't care and you just go on to your new job and let the live in filth till they all pitch in or he apologizes and asks you to stay home again.
Worst case scenario- you start working and get some personal spending money, make new friends, and escape the daily grind. how bad can that be?

Answer 6

That's married life! If you have a problem with your son and husband not cleaning up after themselves then you need to talk to them about this and set some rules. Do you have another job or are you a stay at home mom? If you aren't working and your husband is the one bringing home the paycheck then technically he is paying you. He pays to keep your family going. Pays the bills, etc. Have a talk with them if you need the help.

Answer 7

Yes I have an opinion...you are wrong. Sorry to say but doing housework is a part of owning a house. It's doesn't generate money so there is not paycheck to give out. If you don't like the fact that your son doesn't clean up, then you can only blame the job you did in raising him. If you don't' like the fact that your husband doesn't clean up, they you can only blame yourself for picking him.

In other words, all your problems are your fault and you should stop blaming others.

Answer 8

Sorry to say but that is what happens when you are a housewife. You are the stay at home person and do the cleaning and cooking. As long as your husband is out in the world working and bringing home the paycheck to pay the bills. I don't think that you should be paid to clean your own home but you should atleast have the children helping you.

Answer 9

I don't feel a housewife should be paid to clean the house..I mean, I'm a stay at home mom..He works hard to make the money for our family..It's my place to clean the house, cook good meals, wash the laundry and so on..
However, I do feel if I want to go yard saling with my mom or kids..He shouldn't have a problem giving me some money to go..Which he doesn't and never has had a problem with it..
But, I'm not a high maintence type of person either..I don't ask for things for myself..perhaps a bottle of soda and a pack of cigs each day and I'm fine..

Answer 10

Hell it should be a shared job between everyone in the house. I personally would start putting there things in a box and tell them that if they want it back they have to buy it from you. It works great and they will be a lot better at leaving there things around. Try it!!!! You can also do it as an auction and others in the family can out bid the item if they want it. So some else in the family might get there item. Left behind you leave it you lose it!