There is a guy that has shown quite a bit of interest in me over the past couple of months, but he never verbalizes anything. He always initiates meaningless conversation. I think he may be trying to figure me out, and I've probably been sending him some mixed signals just because we've known each other for a few years, and his change in behavior took me by surprise. He recently went through a divorce, and I know that I would want something more serious than he is ready for right now. But I'm tired of trying to figure each other out and playing mind games, as we are both grown. I am definitely interested in being with him and know that if I never pursue him, I'll always wonder what could have been. I am ready to just tell him to give me a call once he is off the rebound! I don't know how else to handle this. Is this going to offend him? What would you do in the situation? Any advice is appreciated and thanks in advance.
2007-06-01 05:59:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually men like direct women. Tell him just that and then enjoy.
2007-06-01 06:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out for a coffee or a drink. Be casual, not intrusive, keep things light and breezy, show interest but not clinging, and see where it leads you. He may or may not be ready for a serious relationship, but at least you are showing him that you are interested and open to the possibility of having one with him. Sometimes after a divorce, it's hard to get back in the game, so maybe all he needs is a bit of encouragement from you, and you will both be on your way to something special.
2007-06-01 06:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just answered your own question----------talk to him , tell him how you feel /think and tell him when he has been divorced for a year and he thinks he might just be interested in the two of you getting togetherthen he should let you know-in the meantime nothing says you cannot be "friends"
2007-06-01 06:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe action speaks louder than words. Sometimes men are afraid of being hurt again and they feel as thoug the object of their affection will hurt them as well. Maybe what you should assure them of is that you will not hurt them. I think people should say what they intend to say and not make you wonder.
2007-06-01 06:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by candyladyfor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to go to lunch (lunch has a time limit). Sit down and ask him if he is interested in you. Talk about all the history of him, you, his relationship, etc.
See where it goes. He might turn out to be a great friend.
2007-06-01 06:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should arrange a meet, as he would be emotionally broken...
as a friend u should comfort him first....
rest will follow up with time...
take good care of him
2007-06-01 06:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by vipin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would approch him better than regretting it in the future.
2007-06-01 06:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by maram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋