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I am a 25 year old and a new father and soon to be husband. Me and my fiance met about a year ago and she just gave birth to our daughter. We are not getting married because we have a child but because we love each other. It just so happens that I am in the military and I will be getting out soon. I am orrigionally from Pennsylvania. She is 19 and just graduated high school ayear ago. I live in a state (Arkansas) where good paying, skilled jobsare very scarce. The majority of jobs in the area are low paying factory/warehouse jobs. I am forced to look out of state for decent paying jobs. My wife to be grew up in a small town and has lived a very sheltered life. She says that shes willing to move away with me if we have to. Her parents never said it was a bad idea but I can tell that they are not to crazy about the idea of me taking a job out of state. What should I do?

2007-06-01 05:25:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

10 answers

Do what is best for you and your family. Of course her parents will miss her, and it will be hard on her as well, but once you get settled and make some friends, everything should be ok.

2007-06-01 05:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1 0

I would just suggest that you be very carefull. On one hand you have to make choices that will allow you and your wife to financially survive alone, but the hardships of being a very young mother raising her first child so far away from the help of her familly can be quite a strain. I recently moved away from my family for my husbands job and it was almost to dificult to bear. However, my husband was not supportive and helpfull with our children. So, if moving is what you have to do; then you need to make sure that you give your wife breaks from the children, take her out, and really do your part at home as well as at work. 19 years old is still very young I am sure that she doesn't even realize how much her familly means to her just yet, but she will soon.

2007-06-01 12:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by heath 2 · 1 0

You need to make the decision that is right for YOUR family. Her parents will miss her terribly but will be ok. The only time I would take parents into consideration for a move like this is if their health is failing, and there are no other family members there to care for them. In that case, then you should stay close or arrange for them to move with you. Just make sure that you are making this move for the right reasons. The wrong reasons could get you into serious trouble.

2007-06-01 13:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have a much better idea seeing how JOBS are scarce, you have a new baby, and are getting married. STAY in the MILITARY! You get bonuses for re joining, you have full medical coverage for not only you but YOUR FAMILY. What better way to be able to "FULLY SUPPORT " your family? I certainly would think about staying in the Military if I were your age and now with new wife and baby. Jobs are very hard to come by---------most of them do not pay good money and most of them do not have benefits unless you are willing to pay "alot" of money for the benefits and once you do that you then have no money left to support your family. For right now I would say the Military seems to be the choice.

2007-06-01 12:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by nickle 5 · 0 1

You do what is best for you and your new family.
I am 27, met a man over 5 years ago and we have a child. I grew up in a small town in WV. Moved to where he was born and raised and things are wonderful. My parents hated it because they missed so much of what was happening to me and my daughter. But they never said anything, they supported my decisions and I have never been happier. I wish you the best and so many congratulations to you for everything.

2007-06-01 12:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Oh boy,..... she might be willing to go, but give her 2 weeks and she'll be crying for mommy and her hightschool friends, quite honestly, she is very young and probably inmature in comparison to you. Any woman needs ther network when giving birth to a child.

This is a hard situation. If I was you, I would use the G.I' bill and attend a local community college and work part time on odd jobs while you get a dregree and yoru life in track to be able to properly provide for your family.

If you take her our of her enviroment is will be a disaster. She will be home sick and will cry all the time and we'll be on you case 24/7 for lack of any other entretainment.

Good luck

2007-06-01 12:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0 1

This is a decision you make with only your fiance. It should be a decision that will make you both happier and reasons that could make it better for your new baby. Good Luck

2007-06-01 12:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1 0

Family comes first

2007-06-01 12:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 1 0

do what is best for your family now, not what is best for her or your parents. you, your wife and baby are a unit now. congrats on the wee one :)

2007-06-01 12:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 1 0

We parents don't last forever do what you feel is right.

2007-06-01 12:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by maram 4 · 1 0

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