we just had oue third child and he has really become more verbally abusive
2007-06-01 17:03:40 · 15 answers · asked by tashiba p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to let him know that when he degrades you that it really hurts your feelings and that is not what a relationship is all about. Try taping him making these comments to you and let him listen to them. If things do not change honey you need to get away from him because it will then turn into physical abuse and believe me you do not want to be there, and your kids need to not hear or see these things going on.It will hurt them very much and as they grow into adults this may be what they will do to their partners.
Trust me if you tape him talking to you like this when he is in a good mood replay it for him and he will understand what an idiot he sounds like.
To hurt one you love is not good whether it be verbally or physically. Verbal abuse is much worse then physical abuse to me because after along time of it you will begin to believe and think that about yourself.
If the above does not work try counseling and if he is willing to go then you know that he does love you.
My best wishes are with you.
2007-06-01 17:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by marianne d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can stop this madness.Marriages suffer at the hands of men becaues women let it go on.I'm understanding that you love your husband dearly in that you have given him three children.On this wise he should respect that,but it's clear he doesn't.Therefore just tell him in a respectfull way that you are his wife and he should show forth respect to the fact.Tell him "Baby, I love you and I want us to be happy.But if you got something on your mind that we should talk about ,let's sit down and talk it over" learn to get in the mind of your mate.Slowly insert your feelings of concerns allowing him a chance to understand that he is hurting a family.Know this that when the verbal abuse does not satify the beast in him any longer the rage become phyical.
Be safe and Be Blessed And LUV much
2007-06-01 17:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by preacherluv66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to come right out and say "this treatment can't go on." Verbal abuse can be as damaging as physical in the long run, not to mention it's not a good environment to raise children in. They learn behavior from their parents, and follow examples set by you. If he shows you no respect and verbally abuses you and the kids are witnessing this they won't learn to respect you.
2007-06-01 18:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 45 I've learned not as much as I'd have hoped, but I do know I've never had success changing anyone. If you don't invite his talking down and think it can't be fixed maybe its time to move on, financial independence is so key to dealing with bad behaviour in a partner! I should take my own advice.
2007-06-01 17:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by LINDA W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will not be spoken to like that, simple. That if he cannot talk to you decetly, you're not listening at all. If he can't handle that, time for a dovirce - abusive men need to be stopped before it gets physical, and it sounds like that's getting closer and closer.
I'm glad you realise this, and see that it's him, not you that is the problem.
He wouldn't talk to everyone else like this, but seems to think you'll take it.
No more kids for you two though!
2007-06-01 17:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal abuse can be as worse as physical abuse. If you have never talk to him about it, I suggest you do. If he doesn't attempt to get better than you have to do what's best for you and 3 children. Your children does not need to be expose to this type of behavior neither should you.
2007-06-01 17:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try counseling. My husband did the same thing, we tried counseling, but we had no children and maintain an amicable divorce.
You have children to think of, so counseling is the best option, I think. Good luck!
2007-06-01 17:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by LadeeBug Buddha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After cooking dinner tomorrow night throw the hot grease in his face then beat him with the frying pan.
2007-06-01 17:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by Stepchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the nuts. Or just simply leave him for good. You are a woman, you do not deserve to be talked to in any foul manner. If he cant respect you he can leave...just that simple.
2007-06-02 01:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by auroras_garden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't ned to be abused by anyone. tell him how much you disapprove of his behavior.
2007-06-01 22:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋