who do i choose between my wife and my mother?

Answer 1

Mother is never by choice she is by birth,but wife is by choice. Even if you choose your wife, your mother always remains your mother, but your wife today can be wife of some one else tomorrow. Now make a choice whom you want.

Answer 2

Dear Buddy,

No intelligent woman would have landed you in such a situation.

Have you ever heard this question from you Mom? I am sure you must have not.

See, with the nuclear family concept our circle is as such becoming smaller and now with these sort of demands you will get totally cut off from your parents. And that too at that point of time where they may require you more than anything else because of factors like old age, health etc. This is too big a gamble - where leaving parents would be the greatest loss.

I am not saying that your wife is not important. But it is very unreasonsble on her part to make such unreasonble demands.

Councel your wife and if required your mother also. But I think these are self created problems (whatever they may be) as far as your wife is concerned.

Try to make is happen - if it works our excellent. If it dosent take a call taking everything into account.

You should be able to face yourself more than any one else.

Answer 3

Choose the one who is more reasonable and understanding.. at the time of fight choose none if you feel both are right.. still wife needs a preference over mother as she shares everything with you not your mother and you have to live the life with her and i don't think you need to create difference with her. mother is always there for you and she needs to care for you rather than you need to care for her.. She is elder, matured and expected to be more matured so first of all she should not create the Situation to make you choose between the too..

Answer 4

Dear Rohit, I think this questions should only be answered by married people only. Those not married may not be able to understand the reasons behind asking this question. I strongly feel that there should not be anything like choosing between the two. Both of them have their own places and importance in your life. I think there may be many situations that one will face where he has to take sides either with mother or wife. In such situations the matter should be handled without taking anybody's side. If it becomes mandatory to support either of them then take your own decision then which one of them is more logical and making more sence. But try to manage the situation diplomatically.

Answer 5

The bible say when a man marries he leaves his mother and cling to his wife. Being that said when you marry your wife comes first. Doesn't mean you disrespect your mother. But you let her know your married and your wife is #1 in your life now. But also there should be more detail on why you asked the question.

Answer 6

Why does a choice need to be made. Is compromising not an option? Well, if you really do need to make that decision, you may find another wife........ but I have never heard of anyone having two mothers. Still though, work it out it at all possible.

Answer 7

you dont theres not a choice why are you even going there
your mother will always be your mother your wife well you have already made that decision you married her so whats to choose if your mother and wife have a problem let them sort it out

Answer 8

You have no choice.......it's your wife, isn't it? But then again, what kind of person is a daughter-in-law who would force her husband to "choose" between herself and her mother-in-law? Usually, a son who has a close relationship with his mother makes a very good husband. I wish your wife could see that and see that she doesn't have to compete with her mother-in-law. It will sadden your mother, but if your wife is that demanding, what else can you do. Your mother will still love you. But, will miss the closeness you had. Always remember her on Mother's Day, birthdays, Christmas and special holidays.

Answer 9

I guess I would need more info. However, you CHOSE your wife, and when you marry, you leave your parents to start a new life with your spouse. If it's an issue of your mom being jealous that someone has taken her baby from her, you should stay with the wife and reassure the mother. Wish I had more details. Anyway, it's unfortunate that you are even in this position. Good luck.

Answer 10

Well, if you want your own family, then get married and have a wife and kids. (Looks like this might be where you are at since you do have a wife.)

If you want to remain a child, keep Mamma happy.

Regardless of your decision at this point, eventually you are going to have to walk in the shoes of an adult male. Look down the road. Mamma had her husband and her children. She's had her own home.

Are you now entitled to wife and children and home? Or not?