Okay, so lets say thease two just got married, guy doesnt want kids..but he's not extrodanarily firm about this want.. the girl REALLY REALLY wants kids...What happens? should they?
2007-06-01 19:17:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously, the topic of kids needs to be discussed before marriage. But if they just got married they have to get to know each other first. Kids come later when people are more mature and are ready to take care of children. It has to be a mutual agreement. After all. kids are a lifetime commitment. Tell the young couple to take time to enjoy their youth and each other before jumping into things.
2007-06-01 19:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mature people would have TOTALLY discussed this before getting married! If he really doesn't want kids, he needs to get snipped, so he won't be trapped by an unwanted pregnancy. You two just are not a match.
2007-06-02 09:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sticky subject for many couples. You need to both understand exactly what the other wants. Perhaps he wants to wait a few years and not "never." Or, perhaps he does not want children, period.
However, if you are certain that you do not want to go through your life without having children - then someone has to bend or your marriage will break.
2007-06-02 02:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forcing someone into something won't always work.It takes two to make a baby and triking the other one would be cheating.What if the baby is born and the father can not handle it,and he leaves.There are so many things that can happen.Personally i wouldn't go against his wishes for this.I would want him to get excited for the baby with me.I would want his heart to start beating fast,once he hears the baby cry.I would want him to care and be a real father for my baby.
2007-06-02 02:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first thing... this should of been discussed before marriage.. i mean.. this is a big part of marriage.. besides love. . its children..
maybe its not that he doesnt want children.. maybe hes not ready for it yet.. at this time.. but few yrs from now.. as you did say young cpl... he might be.. but i suggest that you have a heart to heart convo with him.. if its that he does not want children at all.. then you have a big decision to make.. will you be happy in a marriage when you will not have children?? let him know how u feel..and how important it is.. its not like u have to have them now.. when the time is right... for the both of you..
ps... a true man.. who doesnt want children..but sees his childs face for the first time.. will no matter wha he felt before.. love them unconditionally.. wid no regrets.. **unless he a dead beat**
2007-06-02 02:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by DiGGiE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should give it some time, but ultimately, having kids would probably be okay. They should set a number, and make sure he will be willing to have them, and when he does, he will fall head over heals for them lol.
2007-06-02 02:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will matter big time later when he realizes what he got himself into. Right now he is not thinking clearly. He needs to step back and look at the whole picture and all the responsibility.
2007-06-02 02:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need to communicate with eachother, talk about wants etc.
as a newly married couple I would wait till you are financialy ready as well as mature in your relationship.Children can sometimes be a stress on a new couple.
Give and take, talk about it and work it out
2007-06-02 02:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ken W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch - you should talk about this before marriage. Sometimes people's feeling on this can change over time, but this can be a deal breaker.
2007-06-02 02:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jimee77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should of thought about that before you got married!
If he wants kids, He'll let ya no when it's time. Don't over whelm him, you just got married.
2007-06-02 02:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by mightemouse2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋