Why did this bother me so much?? It's not like he was cheating on me.?

Question

While my hub & I were out w/ friends, he asked me a couple times to dance, & I turned him down. I'm pregnant, so I was the only sober one & not having near as much fun as everyone else (even though I was trying to fake it). Plus earlier I got hit in the ankle by a dang pool ball (lol).

This skanky girl was totally getting on my nerves, playing the "drunk, stupid, oops my boobs are hanging out" role. All over everybody. Next thing I know my hub is dancing with her! I was mad, and a tad embarrassed. But I tried to play it off and just give him a "that's not cool" look. A hint. Apparently he didn't pick up on it, cause he kept dancing w/ her. I ended up storming out like a 12 yr old.

I know he didn't have any intentions of cheating on me or anything like that, but it still upset me for some reason. Have I turned into the over-dramatic, crazy jealous wife? Or maybe it was because he recently told me he likes going to bars because all the women flirt w/ him? Maybe I was out of line?

Answer 1

I really don't believe you were out of line. He should have had respected the fact that you were with him, you are a couple and you are pregnant with HIS child. He was rude, inconsiderate and just plain stupid (especially telling his wife that he liked going to bars because women flirt with him). You need to give him a paper cut using your marriage license and pour lemon juice on it.

Answer 2

I don't think you were out of line, im sure if he saw you dancing up on some drunk guy while he was..well i guess not pregnant but atleast sober, he would feel the same way. Flirting is innocent, but its not something i would want to see my husband doing, leaving was probably the best thing you could have done because you didnt cause a scene by going over and pulling him away, and also it showed him that it upset you without showing anyone else..if he were you he would have felt the same way.

Answer 3

I think it was a little bit of pregnancy ups and downs and a lot of what your hubby said his reasons are for going to bars.

I would suggest that you not make a big deal out of the fact he was dancing with another woman, however, what should be addressed is why would he need the attention of other females flirting with him, if he's happily married and about to have a child.

You wasn't out of line for being a tad bit jealous but you could've handled the situation a little better.

Never allow your husband to know that you get jealous when another female pays him attention. He will use this against you one day. Instead of storming out, you should've cut in and danced with your husband, with the biggest smile on your face. Nothing hurts another female who's trying to get with your man, than being in control of your emotions whenever she's around.

Good luck and talk with your husband about him going to bars.

Answer 4

You overreacted on your storming out but as a married person dont do that, wait no matter how angry you are, always wait till you come home. Acting out is public gets old quick and turns him and friends off noone will want to go anywhere with you or even like you anymore. Part of being mature and in a healthy relationship is talking it over. I would have been embarrassed to by his action but see i would have cut in or asked him to sit down or i would have reintroduced myself to this broad, all of which i would have done in a low voice and with a smile on my face. Needless to say in stemed by your husband telling you he likes going to bars cause women flirt with him, hes wrong there and hes a fool but maybe because you are pregnant you havent been paying him much attention or compliments

Answer 5

You were not out of line. Your husband disrepected you by dancing with the other chick, especially since she was acting easy. I am 37 wks pregnant and would have lost it if my hubby did this. His main focus should be on you, not on any other woman or partying. How would he feel if you did the same? You had every right to storm out. Personally, I would have left him there.

Answer 6

The one thing I've figured out is all men can't take hints. Everyone gets annoyed by skanky girls but as you weren't enjoying yourself to start with and watching your husband dance with someone else couldn't have been a comfortable situation. Just talk it out with him and relax if you can.

Answer 7

What in the **** are you doing letting your man dance with another woman?

You know, a slap upside the face would have put a stop to what you describe. You decide who should have gotten slapped.

Several of the preceding respondents gave moronic answers.

Answer 8

You were out of line, but not by much. Just forget it and act like it never happened, believe me that is exactly what your husband is hoping for too.

If he was drunk, it wasn't too out of line for him to dance with her. Just as if she was drunk it isn't out of line for her to act like a tramp. However he should have kept it clean and one dance. After that all bets are off. If you have no reason to think he would have done anything wrong, it is not worth fighting over.

Try to stay out of drunken situations and that goes for your husband too. Less problems that way.

Answer 9

I think your hormones were raging and you were not quite in control of your emotions. You see yourself as being pregnant and unattractive and then this woman comes up and dances with your husband and you get scared that she will steal him from you.

As you realized later you knew he had no intentions of cheating on you so just laugh it off. Show your husband when you get ready for bed, "Oops, one of my boobs is hanging out."

Answer 10

Your husband danced with another girl, its not like he was fawning over her at the bar and he did ask you to dance before dancing with her.

Blame it on the pregnancy, my wife did when she did some things that were - shall we say - "uncharacteristic" when she was pregnant.