What would you do??

Question

My ex husband is ordered to pay child support and now i find out he quit his job. He started truck driving and hasn't said a word to me about his child support payments. One was due this week, our son doesn't want me to go forward by talking to my attorney because the state his dad lives in pulls their drivers lic till the amout owed is paid. What would you do? I need the money but dont want my son mad...

My son just turned 17 and is dealing with depression , not an excuse for him but hard. He rarely sees his dad and his sistes have not seen him in months either. He has a new girlfriend which he has had for years now and he bought both him and her motorcycles and spends lots on her kids. His girlfriend also has a job so its not like he can't pay it... Thanks for all the answers going to be hard to pick a best....

He also didnt tell any of us he was quitting his job found out when the check didnt show.

Answer 1

I think that you need to sit down with your son and explain that his father has an obligation to pay child support on time and in the amount ordered by the court, and if he is having problems he should tell you and/or the court about it instead of just not paying. Is there a way you could ask your attorney to inquire about the missing payments before a court action would be necessary? That way you could give your son's father a chance to square things away. Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm a truck driving child supporting guy. He is not much of a man if he doesn't provide for his son. You don't want your son to have that kind of example in his life. Make him pay it is his duty as a father to provide for his own. I don't know how old your son is or if he spends any time with his dad, but dad needs to explain why he should pay. Probably dreaming on that one. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

Not sure how old your son is, but I would tell your ex he has a choice he can either pay what he owes or he'll be looking for a new line of work. As for your son you should explain to him that it's the law that he pay that money and it's your job to see that it gets paid. And that, that money is needed to take care of him and make sure he gets what he needs. Hope this helps. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

I am from New Jersey, and if u have a support order in effect, with the courts if he gets to far behind and not making timely payments they suspend your license without telling u. It happened to my husband. The way he found out was he was stopped for speeding and the police told him. So alot of states do it now. Call ur case worker and tell them u would like a court hearing. u have to get him back to court. u can also go to the court house and file a motion for non payment of support. good luck.

Answer 5

The money is for you, not him and the decision is yours to make not his, plain and simple.
I would contact him and let him know it's due, and that you don;'t want to have to hire an attorney cause of the license issue, but if he doesn't pay you would have little options but to.
Your son needs to realise that you need the money, it's not his decision to like or make. The father knows you need the money.
Your son needs to realise things cost money, and money does not grow on trees, and that life is tough sometimes but you have to do what it takes to raise a child, or is your son going to give you the money?

Answer 6

First try to talk to your ex about this. If that doesn't work, do what you have to do. If you don't take measures to let your ex know that he can't do this, he'll do it over and over again. If you didn't need the money, you could be more forgiving, but you need it, and you need it to support your son. Explain this to your son, and hopefully he will understand. Even if he doesn't agree, you still have to do what's best for both of you.

Answer 7

I do not want to sound like a ***** but you should not discuss this with his father I would mention it to his dad and explain to him what the consequences will be. And see if he acts like he cares. If he does not I would then pursue.
I have learned from my kids fathers that my children will learn on there own that there fathers are deadbeats.
My one sons father is in jail atleast 3 times a year my son wants nothing to do with him as we chat.
It is a hard lesson to deal with but I was always told that my sons would learn on there own.
Best of luck

Answer 8

Do it informally without involving the company, if he will go along. Tell husband that you don't want to get him in trouble with his company, so you'll expect a check from him in the amount of (state the amount) by (state the exact date). Set a time and amount convenient for you, not for him. Tell him that even though you don't want to get him in job trouble, if you don't get the check by sundown of the date you set, you're calling the company the next morning. Guys react well to businesslike terms, he'll rise to what you tell him you expect. Don't worry about what son feels. You're in charge of the business of your family, not him. Be tough and good luck.

Answer 9

Talk to you husband. Tell him that if he doesn't kick down his fair share of child support you WILL report him. It may piss your son off but unless he wants to get a job and pick up the slack, he has no say in the matter.

Answer 10

I would tell your attorney. He owes the children that money. Have your attorney write a letter to his attorney. Hopefully that will solve the problem right there. Explain to the 17 year old that you need the money to live.