I started dating him at 15, we got married when I was 18, had 3 wonderful kids,& a great grandson who is 16. we were happyily married for 30 yrs. when he died suddenly at the age of 53..I love & miss him so much.
2007-06-02 14:40:30 · 11 answers · asked by chercinbob 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I lost my best friend, lover and sidekick five years ago and although I am now with a wonderful lady, I still have the other woman's photo on my desk.
I still think about her, still see her everywhere I go and sometimes when I think of doing something stupid, she holds me back.
You haven't lost him. He's still there, inside of you, guiding and protecting you. And he always will be.
But the thing that helped me to cope with the loss was to finally realize that she would kick my butt if she saw how I was walking around like a zombie without her.
Honor him. Respect his memory and the happiness the two of you shared. and honor him mostly by living in the light and joy the two of you shared and brought into the world.
2007-06-02 15:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would ask your husband "Do you want to lose the only link we have left to our son?" This baby is seriously the only thing left of him. Sorry that sounds terrible. I am so sorry for your loss. However, your husband needs to realize that this girl needs your support. She has this little blessing coming into the world and no one else to help her. We all know it takes a village to raise a child. Every mom needs a support system. Most of us are blessed with family, friends, and a partner to help us raise our child, but your son's girlfriend doesn't have that. I would point blank tell my husband that if he didn't like it then he could take a long walk of a short pier. This girl doesn't sound like a partier, she doesn't sound irresponsible, she sounds like she just needs love and support. If I were you I would tell my husband that this is the way things are going to be: he WILL stop harrassing her. He will be kind and accepting while she gets her life together. He will love this grandchild and he better be kind to the baby's mother because if he isn't he WILL lose his grandchild as well as his son. No one should suffer that, so don't let him take this baby away from you. I don't know how a new mother could stand to be away from her child at all, but if the language course will help her towards a life goal and a career, then by all means she should do it.
2016-05-19 22:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never stop crying over him. My step-mother is going thru the same thing you are. My father died last year, after they had been married for 40 years. She misses him very much and not a day goes by that she does not still dream about him.
2007-06-02 14:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darlin', you don't say how long your husband has been gone. There are no hard, set in stone rules about grieving. Don't let anyone tell you that there are! We each grieve at our own pace. Don't let anyone tell you that you should "just get over it" because look at the history that the two of you shared. YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE GRIEVING IS EASING UP AND YOU WILL KNOW WHAT'S GOOD FOR YOU! No one else can do this for you and don't let them tell you that you've either grieved too long, or long enough. But, honey, it will NEVER go away. It will ease, but will always hurt. GOOD LUCK, MY DEAR, AND MAY GOD BLESS AND PROTECT.
2007-06-02 14:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by MAGGIE MAE 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry my dear. I don't think the pain will ever go away even when the tears stop. Time is a great healer it can fog the memory and ease the pain but it will never go away. Just be assured that you loved him and he you nearly all your lives. Take care and talk to someone you trust and they may help you .
2007-06-02 14:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married almost 32 years & I can't imagine being without him.
I think you should cry & grieve for as long as you need to. Stay close to your children and your friends and they will help you move through this awful time.
I'm so sorry.
2007-06-02 14:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that you will ever get over his death. All that I can tell you to do is remember the good times that you had with him. You still have to live your life. you will need your family for some emotional support to help you to remain strong and move on with your life.
2007-06-02 14:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by S G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so sorry for your loss. My mom died five years ago at age 69 and my dad still cries. Everyone grieves in their own way. Live your life as best you can and honour your dear lover's memory as you wish.
HUGS
2007-06-02 14:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry you lost your husband... i lost my son at 17 teen four years ago... I talked to a counsler and it help some.. Passing of time help more... you will have to fill in the space...that doesnt mean stop loving him...that mean your life is changing and you are going to have to do something for other people...sometimes when you help other you help yourself....get in agrief support group...
2007-06-02 16:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Annette G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all hurt. Just know that he lived his purpose GOD had him on this earth for. Live right so you can see him again one day. No one can understand a loss like that unless they go through it. It gets better with time. Be Blessed.
2007-06-02 15:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Monique 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋