married over 10 years. we are in our 30's.
do men have this prolbem,
or is he a loser. I get mad cause he never has energy.he never comes on to me. never, i have to to him. i know he is not cheating so please keep that thought to self. he has never been a go getter. he slacks at home, but he works his butt off at work. what would u do?
talking to him is like talking to the wall. my dad is sick and he asked me what are you bringing home to eat--dad is hospital --
tried of this---------------------------what do u think?
he has cryed saying that he just does not have desire to do it- now how would u feel? he wanted to go to doctor. he ssays it hurts and crap.sounds gay to me.that is what i said
2007-06-02 17:55:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh well, it just seems like a lagging marriage. No hot, steamy nights in the hot tub, no dinners by candlelight, no walks along the beach in the moonlight, or just cuddling and snuggling up while watching a movie. No fire or energy or action. All day and all night. Dull. Maybe its time to just move on and find a real special someone!? =<)
2007-06-02 18:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Grandmaster Adler von Chase 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could just be tired (you said he works his butt off at work), he could be clinically depressed or he could have ED or some other physical ailment.
I think I would be more worried about him than angry with him. Sounds like he needs to go to the doctor and maybe some marriage counseling for both of you. It sounds like you are under a lot of stress and have some anger issues, as well.
2007-06-03 02:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by eunosgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One possibility is that he could be clinically depressed or have something else physical going on. If it were me, I would encourage him to go to the doctor to get it checked out. Of course this happens to some guys, but it's not normally expected to happen this way. You sound really angry about it, so I hope you find some way to deal with the anger that doesn't damage the relationship, if you want to get it working again. Would you be willing to try couples' counseling?
2007-06-03 01:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dan H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your husband is a work-a-holic who likes to avoid real issues and compensates for his lack of fulfilling you sexually and emotionally by overfunctioning on the job. id on't know if he's gay. you say he had never been a "go-getter." he may have some serious relationship issues regarding women. he sounds like he may see you more as a mother than as a wife (the mention of YOU bringing home food while your dad is sick). i think he is accustomed to you "taking care" of him. he is being a big baby about going to the doctor, and if he cares about you and your feelings, he will buck it up, be a man, and take care of his issues. (sorry for sounding so harsh, but it's the truth).
2007-06-03 01:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by diamond heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to take it personally. He sounds like he is suffering from depression, and he really might need some treatment. He could also have another medical condition causing these symptoms. Ask him to get to the doctor ASAP.
2007-06-03 01:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by DK Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress a little more slutty at home on "date" night even if yall dont do the date thing. If fishnet stockings , no underware and 6" heels don't get his attention I am sure there are some high school seniors that would love to taste your treats..
If he doesn't want to take care of you, take care of yourself and / or get help every now and then from a neighbor boy =).
2007-06-03 01:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Money Shot 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could be developing ed. Lack of sex drive is an early sign. Be a little patient with him. Stressing him out about it will only make it worse.
2007-06-03 00:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nag nag nag ...hard to kiss the but that chews your but... all day. You don't sound like you are very loving. You might give it a try sometime. You have to like the person you trying to ****maybe you should try to be more likeable. You might get laid.
2007-06-03 01:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by gigigal906 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youhave nothing but contempt for your husband. This contempt is probably communicated to him, either implicitly, or explicitly (I'll bet you nag him, don't you?). And, as a result, he sees you not as a sexual creature, but as a blood-sucking harpy.
2007-06-03 01:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by neil k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't push him! I would feel bad, but he probable feels worst!
2007-06-03 01:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by vlw12091 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋