i mean i just broke up with my girlfriend because i think i loved her too much and she loved me too much. too much to the piont where we figured that we shouldnt be together. And really she was saying it, then i was saying it and now we are both saying it. Our lives just didnt match up. but our love for each other was pure yet us being so young didnt bind us together in an enviroment of training and changing like they do with the married people. and i really dont have the confidence or patience to wait until 4 or 5 years until she grows up and realizes that i was what she needed, (or maybe thats just me) but its all good and im moving on but i know i still love her and she loves me, but theres just something there thats not meant to be, and i hate it. has anybody been through this? and whats the best thing to do in anybodies opinion?
2007-06-02 12:59:24 · 6 answers · asked by the sponge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, they can love each other enough to break up. You shouldn't have to wait for her to grow up. You can move on from someone and still have love for them-it means you're doing the best thing for YOU. Look out for you because nobody else will!
2007-06-02 13:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in high school I fell so terribly in love with my boyfriend, it almost hurt. I realize how rediculous that sounds, but we really were so in love that it almost didn't feel right. I don't even know how to explain it... One day, for no reason, I broke up with him. I just couldn't do it anymore. And it wasn't because of him or me, or us... It was so hard. I cried ALL the time, and I missed him so much. Eventually I moved on, got over it, but I would still think about him, miss him occassionally. Even thought I dated other people, he was always at the back of my mind. Three years later I ran in to him at the mall, and long story short, we're married now with 2 beautiful little girls. I know if we had stayed together we never would have worked out. I think we were always meant for each other, but we each had to grow up a little, and experience some life apart from each other, so we could even more so appriciate life with each other.
So yes, I understand what you're going through, but you said you're young, so you both have plenty of time. This seperationg will give you, and her time to grow, and live life. You may go your seperate ways, learning from the love you shared, or who knows... five years from now you two could find your way back to each other.
Good Luck!
2007-06-02 13:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Loving each other so much that you can step back and objectively see that you need to let one another go is very mature and loving in and of itself. You are willing to allow her to grow up, even if that means you lose her. She is willing to let you go. Loving one another does not necessarily mean that you are meant to be together in a romantic relationship. True love transcends romance. If the relationship is supposed to lead to partnership and/or marriage, then it will when it's time. It is a compliment to you both that you are able to determine that romance does not fit into the equation of your relationship at this time.
2007-06-02 14:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by dancing_in_sunlight 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say nice work. If something is missing then let it go and it may or may not return. Too many force relationships that result in negative results. I think a great to handle it is wish her well deep in your heart. Keep good thoughts about the whole thing.
2007-06-02 13:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of us isn't robots, with an identical programming. no count how properly 2 human beings get alongside, it is impossible to agree on everythng. human beings are persons. Love does no longer make that perso into you. He/she continues to be a diverse individual. A dating works best while the two human beings study to comprehend one yet another's modifications and individuality. the different individual isn't your puppy, toy, or the different form of assets. while it is obtainable nevertheless, regrettably, maximum surviving couples are previous and grey... study to comprehend modifications early, and your relationships will exchange right into a magnificent deal extra good, once you're nonetheless youthful.
2016-11-03 11:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of those noble sacrifices people can make for each other. Loving each other enough to know that we don't have the basic compatibility needed to make this relationship work. Give it some time and you may find your way back to each other.
2007-06-02 13:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋