Marriage & Divorce - 2 June 2007

2007-06-02 12:33:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a black woman 29 he is 35 white. He is the first white guy i have given a chance to but i still can't bring myself to be intimate with him. He is such a wonderful guy.probably the best man i have met in person. I really enjoy spending time with him but whenever it comes to us getting close i suddenly freeze & i suddenly notice his race. i don't understand why he is so patient with me. He could easily walk away from me and & himself an other girl(because he is drop dead generous, he has his own money making business and every thing women want in an ideal man). I have been seeing him for 6 months & i have met his whole family and he introduced me to them as his girlfriend. Our friends know we are a couple but they don't know we have never MADE LOVE. He has tried but i have given every excuse in the whole. I often spend weekends at his house. we do share a bed, we have kissed and yes we ve both seen each other naked (so it has nothing to do with my body).Read on at the bottom

2007-06-02 12:19:18 · 23 answers · asked by good_but_naughty_gal 1

My wife and I have been married for 10 years. Every so often, while I am with her I notice her making prolonged eye contact with other men. She usually accompanies this with a smile. I must make it clear that this is not just a friendly smile as occurs throughout all of our days. I am talking about the kind of prolonged eye contact and smile that clearly indicates that there is something more going on. She always denies doing this and then claims to not even remember seeing anyone that she might have "noticed". In one instance, she was making eyes at a guy across the room at our kids band concert. I sat there watching her look at him and him look back, them lock eyes and smile and the cycle continued probably a dozen times. It turns out she knew this guy from work and she talked to him afterwards for about 15 minutes. She completely denied looking at him during the program. I feel very bad, it makes me wonder if my wife is looking to dump me.

2007-06-02 12:15:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-02 12:11:49 · 13 answers · asked by naughty lady 2

I was a battered wife of a very extreme violent man. I brought a car to try and get my license to get away, he stole my car which I reported to the police and they cannot seem to find the details, anyway, I have just received a letter saying that I have an outstanding fine to the total of $71.00 dated 17/06/1998 Canberra ACT, I split with him in 1994. I cant pay that right away. I have never had a license and have never driven anywhere, I am too scared to.

2007-06-02 12:09:15 · 2 answers · asked by isuccor 1

They have been together for 3 years and he still hasnt left the one he has been affairing with

2007-06-02 12:04:27 · 15 answers · asked by missylynn2005_1829 1

I've been paying to put her through school on and off for the past six years. I know she has a lot to do (we have two kids together) but I'm getting soooo frustrated with her taking so long with school, and I really don't feel like she appreciates the sacrifices I make to make it possible. I've been entertaining the notion of divorce for almost a year now, but I don't want to do that to the kids. I think about cheating all the time. I know this isn't healthy, but when I talk to her about it, she says she's doing everything she can. She has about four years left of school, which could easily take her ten, lol. If anyone has any recommendations, please let me know. Thanks.

2007-06-02 11:58:34 · 11 answers · asked by utahbizboy 1

You're 34, your wife is 27 & you've been together for almost 9 years (almost 3 married). There were some problems (obviously) & your wife left back in November 2006 & moved into her own apartment.

In April 2007, she comes to you & says she wants to work it out. You tell friends & family. Then you find out 3 days after that, your wife has had an extremely intense 6 month affair because she has just told you so. Was it done to clear the air or just to repair her guilty conscience?

She's been in contact with the other guy up until last week, even though you have her change her cell #. She's the one initiating the contact with the other guy (phone calls & text messages). She basically bad mouths you to the other guy & tells him she still loves him & is seeing you but not back living with you yet. Has she lost her effing mind?

Both you & her agreed that her teaching job had driven a wedge between you, yet she's going to teach again next year. What's that all about?

Read on..

2007-06-02 11:48:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's a bittersweet divorce, and I am still quite wounded and just finding my way. The divorce papers just arrived today, and I'm not sure what to do or how to feel. I feel lost. Any suggestions for coping for the next while?

*No mean comments please, I'm already pretty low*

2007-06-02 11:41:40 · 12 answers · asked by The_Cookie_Goddess 3

My husband is a jealous man. When i am happy, he is ''scared'' i guess and tries to get me down. When i am down then he is happy. I am tired of this game. He is a jealous man and accuses me of adultry and calls me a flirt because i am a friendly and happy go lucky kind of woman. He feels threatened and is insecure and immature emotionally. I have been faithful and have loved him but i don't love him as a woman to man anymore..and i long to be loved by proper love. I will always love him as a person..in a familiar way..forever, but i can't be his wife any more. Am i correct to divorce him?

2007-06-02 11:37:44 · 15 answers · asked by vilot2000 1

My husband accuses me of adultry all the time and the fact is i am totally faithful and have been for 30 years..He finally put the nail in the coffin when he suspected me of adultry with a guy at work, because i was happy at work and like the people i worked with. That is a no no with him as he is a miserable person. I made the fatal mistake of talking nice about my work instead of pretending it was ''terrible''. But too late. He came up to the office at my work and yelled out loud that ''Ted and i were having an Affair'' and vice versa. I was shocked and the people i knew who knew me know it is not true. I had worked there for a year but some of the ''mud'' stuck and it was an odd atmosphere and Ted's wife never came in as she was scared of what my husband might do. So i quit..i felt sick at work from stress and his threats. I am going to divorce him now. Do you think i am correct in doing so? thanks. I know the answer..i just want to see what you all have to say.

2007-06-02 11:31:50 · 27 answers · asked by vilot2000 1

I like my doctor alot& i think he knows it.I know it's unethical 4 him to date his patients & that he could loss his license.I'm willing change doctors if i know he is interested.But i want to know what he thinks without making a fool of myself.I also want to know if he's married.I ve not seen a ring on his finger& i ve checked 4 it.I think he maybe attracted to me but again it maybe my wishful thinking.So tell me what you think about his body language.He likes to talk about my culture because i'm not from this country.I always ask for the last appointment so i can spend more time with him.4 my last Appt we spend 1hr30mins in his office talking about nothing(we were flirting).he is irresistable.He usually leans forward toward me when writing prescriptions.We ve awkward moments(gazing into eachother).he always walks me out & stands so close i feel his breathe,our bobies are literally touching as we stand.I'm 12yrs youger than him.i want him so much.How can i approach him?

2007-06-02 11:27:29 · 17 answers · asked by Na 2

Please no judement...no children involved... I made a mistake. I fell in love with my boss and he has fallen in love with me. I left my husband shortly after I confessed my feelings to my boss. I have been having an affair with him for 8 months, with a 2month break in between. He told his wife he wanted a divorce lats night...but he let her guilt him into no getting it done. He feels terrible for leaving her because she is from another country who believes women are used goods once divorce. I am so messed up in the head over this, but quitting my job would be a huge career mistake. Need help. He promised me last night that he will leave her, but he will not give me a time and date, he says I am his dreamgirl and this is a crisis he has never experienced, so he is having a hard time coming to terms that this is our situation. Need helpful advice...please nothing hurtful, I dont think I can handle anymore.

2007-06-02 11:15:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am going to be 22 and my hubby is 33 yrs old been married a year.We met at one of my dads company partys for charity.I was 18 yrs old when we met started dating when i turned 19.We had a drama filled on and off relationship but he swept me off my feet anyway romantic dinners gifts ect.I had a lot of doubts on the wedding day and prior but the wedding was paid for with 155 people attending.My parents would not even give me their opinion on the matter.I feel so lonley in my marriage hubby will buy me whatever i want but treats me like a child or a piece of property.I no longer feel like myself anymore?I went to college but have never worked .Recently i ran into an ex.bf and some old friends we all hung out.I felt like me again should i divorce?I think i have feelings for another guy?

2007-06-02 11:00:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is the worst husband ever he doesnt even try to act like he cares but i think i still love him but i cant stand him but im scared to move on what if i never find anyone do u get what im trying to say any advice please oh yeah counseling doesnt work

2007-06-02 10:42:39 · 19 answers · asked by hcj25 2

I am in the middle of a very confusing breakdown of my marriage I don't know what to do any advice? I was married in 2003 i am older than my husband he was lovely at first then when we were married on our actual wedding night he got drunk and self harmed first i saw of it, i was horrified he was very drunk and i did my best to clean him up and bandage his arms, i had been warned of his manic moods but because i had never seen them first hand i disregarded peoples concern, 4 years down the road after a lot of violence from him only when he was drunk mind i have finally given up and moved out to my friends home i can't live like we were anymore the anger and me walking on eggshells terrified to upset him i felt sick everytime i heard the front door go not knowing what was going to happen the violence had stopped about a year ago but it is always there about to happen he wants me to go back i don't know what to do anymore am i going back to the same life i hate being on my own but wot opt

2007-06-02 10:28:36 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Nine yrs ago I gave up rights to my son (thought it was the right thing to do, long story of repeat harassment from ex) my son will turn 18 on the 14th of this month and now his father is in prison(another long story) but my son was adopted by my ex's wife and she has been taking care of him.Total pain in the a** woman, wont let me see or talk to him over last 9 yrs. Now that he will be of legal age, can I contact him and see him (if he will see me, she kinda brainwashed him against me) with out legal reprocutions, she would call cops, file against me saying that I harassed her in some way if I showed up to see my son. If I called she would most likely do the same, I think. I live in Florida and they live in NY. I dont want anything but a relationship with my son, I'm not stupid, I know he has a life there I just want to be able to celabrate his bday with him again. Mothers day, Xmas, all the things we have missed. If anyone has knowledge of NY family law and knows anything about it...

2007-06-02 10:22:59 · 21 answers · asked by Marla L 1

2007-06-02 10:17:44 · 17 answers · asked by cynthia k 2

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We talk about marriage all the time and he always says someday. What does someday mean? I tell him my ring doesn't have to be some big honking diamond or anything because money is tight, but still he doesn't ask me....why?

2007-06-02 10:10:12 · 24 answers · asked by Rachel D 2

2007-06-02 10:04:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

just started medicine and became stable. i have a 3yr old and an 8 mo old, always wanted four but will be happy with three. w both i went through post pardum and they say it gets worse each time. but why should my life choices be forced in not having more when there is help through medicine and support? want to have another before 35 bc more problems can arise then. not looking for short and sweet answers but something deep i can discuss w my husband!

2007-06-02 09:57:56 · 12 answers · asked by gods child 1

My boy friend has MS and receives SSI. We want to get married but have been told that if we do, he would lose his benefits because my income would become his also. I receive SSD and I am paid to care for him. We have also been told if we married, I would also no longer be paid to care for him. That would leave only my SSD for the two of us to live on. It does not make sense to me that his benefits would be discontinued. Does anyone know how for sure how this situation would be handled?

2007-06-02 09:50:36 · 15 answers · asked by Brenda L 1

i found a soiled pink thong in his truck and he claims its his buts its obvioulsly not.
what should i do

2007-06-02 09:47:09 · 8 answers · asked by becky 1

Well, we're not divorced yet. We haven't seen each otehr for months and have only spoken recently re: his mother's health. But I noticed one of his favorite musicians is in town tonight. Should I call him to let him know? I doubt he knows and he could use the stress relief. But I have a BF now (who's outta town...near his own ex!). Would it cause my estranged hubby MORE stress if I say let's hang out tonight? Is it wrong since have a BF?

2007-06-02 09:44:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-02 09:29:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't believe it. He got sentenced to a year probation before he met me. Something about harrasment... Anyway - He moved away to a different state and didnt go back to visit his PO after he moved. Apparently there was a warrant put out on him - unknown by his current PO. Anyway - he got arrested on an outstanding warrant when he went back to visit his family. He's in custody and I found out he's sentenced to 6 months now. I'm a litle bummed because we had a LOT of plans for the summer. I really do love him, but I don't know if it will work out in the end. I am pretty sure he will have to do more time after he gets out because he pled guility to an assault charge in the state he lives in and he's missing court on that because he's in custody in that other state. He meets with his private attorney in a week or so. I've never been a relationship with a criminal before. And friends of mine actually work to PROSECUTE them! I'm sad to share this news with thIs them Advice?

2007-06-02 08:59:52 · 15 answers · asked by ani 4

our daughter just turned 12 and throughout her life my husband and I have fought over discipline. I understand hes a man and he doesn't want to end up on Jerry Springer but sometimes I think his punishment are too much. I'll punish her for a couple days and he'll turn around and tell me i'm crazy and drag it out for weeks Sometimes when she's not even punished hell remember something that happened that week and tell her to go to her room. Then he'll explain that earlier she was being disrespectful and mouthy which I admit she is very testy w/me not w/ him. We are constantly argueing about discipline and my 12 year old has said to me "Why don't you guys get a divorce?" We fight constantly and she heres us. I just don't know if I'm fighting a battle that's not worth it .Or if I have a valid point.I'm just sick of fighting and our daughter uses us against each other. When he says no she'll come to me and Ill feel bad and she knows that.any suggestions?

2007-06-02 08:41:16 · 19 answers · asked by ssamm 1

She says she wants to feel those feelings, but she can't. We have been married for 14 years. What do I do?? She doesn't want to separate or get divorce because first she doesn't believe in it and second we have to beautiful little girls and she doesn't want to just up them out of there comfort zone, if you get what i mean. I don't know what to do, as far as getting or helping her get those feelings back. I don't want to just stay for the kids.. i know it's selfish in my part.. but i am not getting any younger... i don't want to get to a point when my girls are out of the house and we decided to end it... i will be to old to find another person. Please help with what i should do...

2007-06-02 08:40:56 · 4 answers · asked by turbospd 1

2007-06-02 08:15:11 · 12 answers · asked by siri_porter 2

say for example your hubby/wife does something with talking to you or asking your opinion about it, and they do it, would you see them differently? say for example you are really like your wife's hair and she chops it into a bob, would you see her differently.

2007-06-02 07:26:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous