I can't believe it. He got sentenced to a year probation before he met me. Something about harrasment... Anyway - He moved away to a different state and didnt go back to visit his PO after he moved. Apparently there was a warrant put out on him - unknown by his current PO. Anyway - he got arrested on an outstanding warrant when he went back to visit his family. He's in custody and I found out he's sentenced to 6 months now. I'm a litle bummed because we had a LOT of plans for the summer. I really do love him, but I don't know if it will work out in the end. I am pretty sure he will have to do more time after he gets out because he pled guility to an assault charge in the state he lives in and he's missing court on that because he's in custody in that other state. He meets with his private attorney in a week or so. I've never been a relationship with a criminal before. And friends of mine actually work to PROSECUTE them! I'm sad to share this news with thIs them Advice?
2007-06-02 08:59:52 · 15 answers · asked by ani 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PS. We just got engaged last week, and we do have a baby.
2007-06-02 09:49:54 · update #1
This may sound funny at first, but listen, when you sleep with dogs, you get flees. Take it from someone whos been there. My x who I still love very much is in jail and has been in trouble with the police for the last ten years. It starts off small, but it will get bigger and with you it sounds like it has started. This isn't something you want to get involved in. Again, trust me, you will get wrapped up in their dirt before you know it. They are criminals. They lie, steal and cheat all the time. We love them because we have seen other sides of them, but its not (for me anyway) where I want to be. I dont want two kids with this man and the poof he is gone, in jail for who knows how long. Unless, you are a criminal yourself, you probably want and deserve better. Its really hard to let go, but if this is something your not willing to deal with, then you have to. Once a criminal has gone to jail only about 3% ever straighten themselves out (don't go back to jail). That includes those who get professinal help! I really do wish you the best of luck. If you do leave and your having a weak moment and thinking about going back try what I do think of being a single mother with two kids and husband in jail. I know its not the life for me. Best wishes.
2007-06-02 09:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just what is it about these kinds of LOSERS that attract women? I could never figure that out. Is this the kind of "reliable" guy you to be married to? Is this the guy you think will make a great parent for your kids? Think of how crappy your life is going to be 10 years from now when you're having to explain for the third time to your kids why you have to work 55 hours a week as a waitress to support them because daddy is in jail. Again. Honestly, before I started reading questions on this board I had no idea just how many people have such limited ability to think more than a day ahead.
Kent in SD
2007-06-02 12:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the saying love is blind?
Your situation is the reason for that. When people fall in love, especially while still in the infatuation stage, they have just rose coloured goggles on and only see the good in their partners. Then later on things balance out, but it may be too late then.
I dont know how old you are or what you are looking for right now (ie. just some fun and companionship...sex...or longterm romance), but all i can tell you is to step outside your 'love' brain, and ask yourself what this guy will provide you with given your wants.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, and although it might hurt in the short term, it sounds like in the longterm you should stay away from him. You will be much happier and have a much better future outlook with just about any other law abiding man.
This is no way to start off a solid relationship.
2007-06-02 09:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kaboom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no nudes, no longer something very own(Corrections officers study each and everything you write). in case you have no longer met him in detention center in the previous, that's a strict and harrowling technique because of the fact in case you act only the least yet suspicious they have the the best option to deliver you back homestead, or bar you from coming back. do no longer do something which you will not pick the Corrections officers to think of much less of him, or extra decrease than they already think of of him. EDIT: If he's interior the recent River Valley interior reach detention center, those are a number of the best knowledgeable Corrections in Virginia, if he's in Northern Neck, or Blue Ridge interior reach detention center, those adult males are strict
2016-11-25 01:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I don't see any problem at all with this situation. You have been blessed that this happened to you so you would not go any further with a criminal in a deadend relationship. He was probably not telling you everything anyway. You should feel luck as though you struck the lottery ,by this happening to you now before you had children or made any other mistakes.
2007-06-02 09:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband is in prison. I remained friends with him because he had nobody else. You can look forward to sending him money, accepting phone calls paid by you, sending magazines and crap that is expensive. Then you can look forward to when he finally does get out, you will have wasted all that on a total loser who has no respect for the law or other people. Take this time while he is in the"pokey" to poke someone else and get him out of your head.
2007-06-02 09:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from this relationship now. This is ot the type of person anyone should want a long term relationship with. What happens if you get serious and start depending on him and something like this happens?
2007-06-02 09:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a great desire to make a surprise appearance on "court tv" in the near future, end this relationship and find a decent guy. He is already someone's girlfriend in jail.
Good luck.
2007-06-02 10:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tourang B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no ring on your finger, you shouldnt get caught up with his drama. Dont put your life on hold, your not the one thats in jail. He made his bed, now he has to lay in it and suffer the consequences.
2007-06-02 09:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by JenC 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are with a person with "something about harassment" and you don't know what it was? And now you find it is assault? Man sound time to lose his number.
2007-06-02 09:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Bulk O 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋