It's a bittersweet divorce, and I am still quite wounded and just finding my way. The divorce papers just arrived today, and I'm not sure what to do or how to feel. I feel lost. Any suggestions for coping for the next while?
*No mean comments please, I'm already pretty low*
2007-06-02 11:41:40 · 12 answers · asked by The_Cookie_Goddess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't have much to offer I've never been through a divorce.
But I know that you'll find a way to get through this.
Seek comfort from friends especially one that were not mutual friends of your ex. If no friends, then family, if no family, sympathic strangers, this only as a last resort.
2007-06-04 05:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you do feel low, it is the end of a part of your life. I don't know how many years you were married or the cause of the divorce. But anytime something that was so much a part of us ends, we tend to be low. I am waiting for the same thing, our divorce is not final yet, we are in the process. I dread the day of signing them and then getting them in the mail. I was married to this man for 30 years, since I was 17, I have always felt like I went from being my dad's little girl to my husband's wife no in between, so I know getting the papers is going to be tough. I have to build a new life, at least I have a very special son who has been her for me and been very supportive. I also have a very special friend who I have known for 25 years and she has been through divorce, she is my sounding board when I need to vent a little, hope you have someone you can talk to. Good Luck to Us Both! They say time heals all wounds.
2007-06-03 22:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married 33 yrs too and have been divorced 3 years now. I have remet my high school sweetheart and things are fantastic...what got me through it was MY GIRLFRIENDS and my Dad. Find someone you can confide in who has known about the bad marriage all along. I survived 33 years of verbal, mental and at times physical abuse..but I raised my 3 sons and now they are on their own. Yes, I still feel guilty but it was the best for ME. Go to a male conselor as well so you can get the male viewpoint. Mine had been wonderful and he told me "I was responsible for leaving but I am not responsible for the how others handle it". It is time for you...go back to school, move, travel, take care of YOU as no one else has obviously for the past 33 years. I know!
2007-06-05 07:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel down. Play good music, and start working out. After phisical exercise you will feel better. If you don't like it, then sign up for some Dancing course - music will cheer you up, you will look forward to something, you will meet new people, etc.
When I got divorced, I felt relieved. It was a bad marriage, but shortly after felt bad and so on. If you want, send me e-mail, maybe I can say something that will make you feel better.
2007-06-02 11:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♥ alma ♥ ♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this and I'm going to be there in July I hope, after 33 years of marriage, I spend a great deal of time beating myself up on why did he do what he did to me, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through really it's hard, boy do I know mine has been in the works for two years now. Take a mini vacation if you can, I wish you the best, one day at a time right so it is written.
2007-06-02 12:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm in a similar situation mine will be coming in a few weeks, the way I look at it as letting go of something that was never meant to be and guess what in a way its nice. Now you will have room for someone new in your life and trust yourself and be hopeful that this person will be way much more better in every aspect, just keep your hopes high and you will meet him/her and when you do you will never look back :)
2007-06-02 14:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by fluffydog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hon you gonna have plenty of ups and downs like this goin through divorce. There is no right way to feel...... get through it by havin 'ME' time do something you wouldnt normally do even if it is just a facial, gather your friends and know that you are a great person, not the one you have been made to feel right now. Good luck...
2007-06-02 11:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by turkeyhug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A divorce is like a death, and there is a grieving process. Just take it one day at a time, as you get used to the idea that you're now divorced.
2007-06-02 18:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel.
I felt much the same when my divorce went through.
If you need to sign anything, and return it, get it done now.
Try to spend some time today with people you care about, friends, family. etc.
See a movie, watch a dvd, or just sit and relax. you've been through enough.
Just take it one day at a time.
It really does get better, but, like with anything, it takes time.
2007-06-02 11:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found a great support website. Lots of caring souls there who have been in the same boat. I feel for you. Been there, done that a short while ago.
2007-06-02 11:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋