married over 10 years. we are in our 30's.
do men have this prolbem,
or is he a loser. I get mad cause he never has energy.he never comes on to me. never, i have to to him. i know he is not cheating so please keep that thought to self. he has never been a go getter. he slacks at home, but he works his butt off at work. what would u do?
talking to him is like talking to the wall. my dad is sick and he asked me what are you bringing home to eat--dad is hospital --
tried of this---------------------------what do u think?
he has cryed saying that he just does not have desire to do it- now how would u feel? he wanted to go to doctor. he ssays it hurts and crap.sounds gay to me.that is what i said
2007-06-02 17:59:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi, I am having the same problem with my husband the no energy etc. and now I am sitting at home alone being blamed for everything because I apparently nag him. Do you still love your husband? 'Cos if you do, don't push him to leave you. Maybe he does have a medical condition. I was actually trying to get my husband to go to a doctor, and couldn't. So think yourself lucky that your husband is admitting that there may be a problem. If there isn't a medical problem, he may just be getting sick of you like my husband is of me. It is hard when someone feels like they are pulling away from you, that is why you are so upset about it.
2007-06-02 18:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take a day off from work because he's been workin g too hard & you need some private time together - maybe, make it a long weekend with just the two of you. Also, be sure to make an appointment for him to go see the doctor too, & then be sure he keeps it.
Have you thought that maybe he doesn't know how to "come on to you," or maybe he just never learned the right way? So why not teach him how -- it could be fun! Good luck to you & hope your dad gets better soon!
2007-06-02 18:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. You are only thinking about yourself and your own needs. There is such a thing as burnout at work, office politics, not getting promoted, etc. That is going on every day and it can drive anybody to a burnout.
You seem to imply that he is at fault and force him to deal with it. Why couldn't you deal with it? Why must a tired man come home to tend to his wife's various needs? Is he an ox? What make you think you are entitled to the royal treatment?
2007-06-03 00:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be tired (you said he works his butt off at work), he could be clinically depressed or he could have ED or some other physical ailment. I think I would be more worried about him than angry with him. Sounds like he needs to go to the doctor and maybe some marriage counseling for both of you. It sounds like you are under a lot of stress and have some anger issues, as well.
2016-03-13 15:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is something medically wrong with him.
To answer your question, no. Most men are not that way, he should be hitting it with you at least 9-12 times a week if not more.
Time to trade him in for a new model, this time pick better.
2007-06-02 18:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how much do you love him,or did you ever love him,when you took your vows it was for better or worse,this maybe one of the worse times, put yourself in his shoes, he is asking for help ,,he does not want to feel this way,he may be going thru a state of depression, alot of people go thru it, and the only reason they are all gong ho at work is because it pays the bills, have you gotten to the point were you love yourself more, and have decided to put yourself first before another.. you and your husband are suppose to be as one, everthing that affects him is going to affect you, and its not going to get better untill you both work at it..but if you have given up on your marriage then you never really expected yourself to keep your own vowels of marriage..
2007-06-02 19:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by yukd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says it hurts then he should see a doctor. There could really be a medical issue here causing the problems and the tiredness. I would go that route first and then take it from there.
2007-06-02 18:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor, he obviously has a medical problem, too bad his wife can't love him enough to be supportive of that.
2007-06-02 19:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is going through a midlife crises
2007-06-02 18:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by ChooChooTrainsAreFun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the truth.He's just not that into you. Sorry.
2007-06-02 18:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋