why do women stay with their cheating spouse?

Answer 1

they feel trapped, are being threatened, emotionally abused, being convinced that no one else will love them, don't wanna lose their security, don't have no where to go, could have kids and want to stay together for the family, they don't care, there's other things at stake, there are numerous reasons, you'd have to talk to the individual person to know for sure

Answer 2

1).maybe because the cheating spouse is great in bed
2) because they depend on their cheating spouse financially
3) because they have low self esteem
4) because they blame themselves that their spouse cheat
5) because they believe they can make it better and things will change
6) They have children and stay for they children so that the children can have a whole family (worst reason ever)
7) they will abused as childern
8) they are scared of their cheating spouse and cannot leave even if they want to.
9) Do not have money to go through a divorce
10) they still want the world to believe they have a great marriage especially women "thye are keeping up appearances"
11) They are waiting for the right momnet to kill them EVER WATCHED "Snapped" on Oxgyen real life stories where women kill their husbands.

COUld be any reason but whatever the reason it's still bad to stay with a cheating spouse. i think they don't even deserve a second chance.

Answer 3

I think it is often because we (I say we because I have been there and so I answer from the experience of being one of those women), are afraid to go forward alone. I loved my ex husband. I thought we were married for life. I had the fairy tale dream in mind and his decision to find someone else shattered it all. But having four children and twins on the way, of course I was frightened. I had tied my worth up into my title as wife and also into how he viewed me. I didn't know how to stand on my own, alone. Well, ripping out the dream does a good job of teaching one about this. For the good of my children and for my own self respect, I had to walk away. It was very hard, at first, but the darkness you see at the very beginning gives way to the brightest of light. It isn't the end, as it feels, but a beginning.... Learn to depend upon yourself, love yourself, accept who you are and never let another person determine your self worth.

Answer 4

I did exactly what queen dori did.Then he remary the woman he cheated on me with and now for about 6 or 7 months he's been cheating on her with a coworker.He even bough the lover a puppy for mother;s day ....lol by the way everyone in town knows about it and the current wife is on denial.

Answer 5

Because the society some of us grew up in tells us that marriage is forever. We work hard to make things right because we don't want to fail at our marriage!! Because we have children who we don't want to see splitting their time between mom and dad. Because we don't want hosts of "Uncles" and "aunts" in our kids lives- just the real ones they were born to. Because we have husbands who gradually begin to tell us we could never make it on our own. They take over the money, they tell us we are lucky they put up with us and that no one else would ever want us. They tell us if we leave we will be broke and living on the street. And in the meantime, they spend OUR money, do as THEY please, and somehow convince us we are lucky they are around. And when things get rough, they know how to cuddle up and make you feel as if all the problems are in your own head. And you feel sorry for other women stuck in bad marriages, because, God forbid YOUR marriage was bad.
*sigh* No- I am an educated woman.Won't even now accept welfare or even unemployment when I was too distraught to go to work after catching his lowly butt in MY BED with a filthy lowlife Catholic nursing home housekeeper who worked for him (they since have started a wife-sharing thing with her husband. Any wonder my kids-19 and 22- won't talk to him?!?!)
I would have been married 25 years last week. I was appropriately divorced on Halloween and he is not legally bound to do ONE THING for his kids in college. Even threw their belongings out of the house we left and gave their rooms to his "girlfriend's" kids. I am struggling like hell but I will survive!!!!!!!
I should have cut it off at 7 years when he first started cheating as I was nursing his INFANT SON. I would have been in better shape at this age in my life if I hadn't let him convince me I could never make it on my own. Got a choice ladies?? Don't wait! My kids told me they secretly wished for years I had thrown him out. What a lesson I learned. The hard way.

Answer 6

i see all these answers of "b/c she's too scared" "she's scared to be alone" "she has no backbone" blah blah blah ...


anyone ever thought that SOME people simply find marriage to be so sacred that there is nothing that can't be worked through? ever thought that SOME people believe their marriage is not worth ending because of one mistake? anyone ever thought that SOME people can forgive better than others?

sorry, but I'm just a bit irritated about hearing how "weak" women are who take back their husbands after an affair.

Answer 7

Loads of reasons. Sometimes it's the kids, sometimes they have an open marriage, sometimes it's financial, sometimes they fear change, sometimes it's because they are willing to overlook the cheating for love, sometimes they think they deserve the treatment, sometimes it's for social reasons, or fear of judgement from others, religious reasons, it could go on and one. Could be several of the reasons above or for other reasons entirely.

Answer 8

Not all of them do. Take me for example: the split second I found out my then husband was cheating on me, I promptly had him served with divorce papers. I don't waste time. I have ZERO tolerance for cheating.

Answer 9

my sister does because she has four kids and doesn't want them to lose their security. Although, they are old enough
know and understand why she would leave and they understand why she stays. Which is pretty bad when your
own kids watch their father treat you badly.

I also have a girlfriend who dated a married man for 15 years
and his wife has caught him several times with her and she
doesn't kick him out, yet he doesn't leave but he spends MOST of his time with her at her place then he does at home.
Figure that one out !!!!

Answer 10

They have no pride, they dont mind coming second. They dont need to be loved exclusively. They like the idea of having a husband and dont really care that love and intimacy has gone. They need the title of wife and thats about it. They have lost thei pride...pure and simple.