I was engaged to my ex and we had been together for 3 years just bought a house togther, when one night he came home and ended it and told me that he no longer loved me.
Of course I was heart broken and totally shell shocked but after a week of crying I realised that this was the best thing to happen to me as I had been unhappy for quite a while.
Two weeks later he decides that he wants to come back to the house and expects me to let him come back and that we would pick up right where we left off!!!!
Since then I have moved on and I am in a happy relationship - the break up is coming up to two years ago and my ex is so bitter and angry towards me - Does anyone have any idea why he is angry with me -when he dumped my A$$????
2007-06-05 14:27:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the record I'm not stressing bout it at all - just curious as to why he would waste his time and energy on being a bitter, angry man
2007-06-05 14:36:01 · update #1
Unlike the rest of these answers, I don't believe he still loves you.
I think he figures that you are supposed to be sitting by the phone, a box of kleenex beside you, eating a gallon of ice cream, crying into your pillow yearning for him to call or show up so that you can gratefully get back together with him and bend over backwards trying to please him so that he never leaves again.
Because of course, in his eyes, it was your fault he left in the first place, right?
When it turned out that you were actually relieved he was gone and realized that you could have a life that you weren't miserable everyday and weren't dependent on him for happiness, it pissed him off royally.
How dare you move on in life instead of pining for him the rest of your days and dying miserable and alone.
Shame on you.
The h e l l with him, if he is bitter, that's his problem.
2007-06-05 15:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mr R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk that realised he was a jerk and tried to come back and expected you to forgive and forget what he did to you. Now since you did not do as he expected and you had the nerve to dump him AND find someone else he is angry and bitter but mostly he is kicking himself because now he knows he was and is a jerk for what he did to you. Forget him and go on with your happy life. Remember living well and being happy is the very best revenge.
2007-06-05 14:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is bitter because he is jealous of the fact that you are doing well and he realised what a stupid mistake he made. And the sad fact is that given a second chance he would likely do the same again. He is probably angrier with himself and is taking it out on you. You know the old saying "the best revenge is living well". Go you!
2007-06-05 14:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by childofhistory1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they usually have another relationship going and think they are going to be so happy, but the relationship blows up in their face and they have to blame somebody, you just get to be the one, even though deep down they know they are the one to blame, we don't like to blame ourselves. I know I have an soon to be ex that thought he was going to be so happy with his new lady who had slept with everyone around the company they worked for, people tried to tell him but he thought he was so special that she would change for him, guess he found out he was just another notch on her belt after she helped him spend what he had and now he is in a little one bedroom apt. and has not much of a relationship with our son or anyone else because he is afraid they will say told you so. I feel like he got what he deserved for throwing away a 30 year marriage for a tramp.
2007-06-05 15:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
{People are only bitter when they don't get what they want. It's as simple as that. It has nothing to do with love and caring. It's a matter of control, not love. Stop stressing about why an old boyfriend can't get control over his life and move on with yours.
2007-06-05 14:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex didn't expect you to move on, he has made a big mistake by ending the relationship, because he still loves you or either he has been obsessed with you. You will have to be harsh with him, make him understand you have moved on and there is no turning back.
2007-06-05 14:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by stargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a stupid decision. He expected you to whimper an cry for weeks, and you didn't. You did not give him a chance to make it up again, and he apparently thought your time together gave him that right.
2007-06-05 14:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Laurence W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simply by fact shes the two jealous or nevertheless in love with you. positioned your self in her shoes... shes probable nevertheless feeling the discomfort of the divorce and youre no longer... she might experience like the courting you 2 had meant no longer something to you, or decrease than it did for her. be slightly extra sympathetic. she might look bitter on the exterior, yet shes probable in simple terms harm.
2017-01-10 15:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he had a sudden epiphany that he let a good one go. And you had one too, in that you did not want his ass after all. He is not angry with you but at himself for being so stupid.
2007-06-05 14:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im pretty sure that your ex had another relationship going on when he dumped you so suddenly, he is bitter now because whatever he had going on didn't work out and he expected you to be miserable without him, his loss ha! ha!
2007-06-05 14:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by cheryse26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋