2007-06-05 12:44:54 · 41 answers · asked by toolmanpei06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal for men to flirt (even ladies do that sometimes). Go ahead and flirt. When you feel like you are crossing the line, think what if!!!! what if your wife was doing that...what if your wife met a guy and she started to flirt and eventually cross the line?....
I think your problem is that you don't think about your kid who will be hurt for the rest of his or her life because his daddy couldn't control himself. And you don't think about your wife who has put so much of her life and has sacrificed so much to be the mother of your children. If you can think all that then you won't cheat.
I am a man and I know sometimes it's hard to think about all that but always keep your morals high and stick to high standards and you will never regret it. If you let yourself get low and get into the gutters, you will never be able to raise your head again. Your choice.
2007-06-05 12:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Tourang B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem; man you sound like you just want be out there as a "player" and getting tired of the "husband" role. Look, at this point in your life; if you know you will cheat; please give your wife the truth and let the relationship go before you really break her heart which she doesn't deserve. She deserve to know the truth much as you being a man and telling her. I can't stand a cheat nor a liar. You have kids but you sure aren't thinking of anyone but yourself and that is your problem. You're selfish and you need to grow up and take responsibility.
Remember an old saying "If you can't stand the heat; stay out of the kitchen"? Well, if you can't stand being a father and husband then get a divorce! Either you grow up and be a man and take care of your responsibility or get out but give your wife the respect of getting a divorce before you go out and do something stupid!
When you got married and had kids; you have to realize that the marriage isn't about you anymore. It is about your wife and kids. It has stopped being about you the day you said "I DO". So be a man and either take care of your responsibility or get out and let someone else do the job you should have done.
It's your choice now!
2007-06-05 12:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by deniseywalker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to risk everything for a night a week or month. Your problem is you do not value your family and wife. Are you willing to have the possibility of your wife finding out. Think how that will ruin your life and how your children will feel towards you. If you can not fix what is broken in marriage then get a divorce and satisfy your selfish needs. Think only with the head on top of your shoulders!!!!!
2007-06-05 14:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by doe7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever done a thorough and searching moral inventory? Have you gotten down to causes and conditions? Have you thought about what would you do/feel if your wife were doing the same things that you are doing? How would it feel if your children were to get married and one day your child came to you and said "dad, my spouse constantly flirts with other people and I think/know they might be/are cheating on me?" Maybe time has come to do a self-evaluation and look at the basic principle of why you got "married" and started a family to begin with.......alot of people have told me they know what "love" is.....alot of peole have told me they don't know what a "family" is......personally I kinda know about both but the kind of love "love" between a man and a woman that you decide to spend the rest of your life together and take vows before "God and Man" those kind of feelings and actions I have yet to experience.
A number of times I have experienced feelings that could have been eventually developed to that situation but eventually I realized there was a lot that I simply wasn't looking at or didn't know. I know what it is to be alone and unhappy. I know what it is to be alone and happy. I now know what it is to just be me...
LOL
2007-06-05 12:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is OK but it depends what your intentions are after that?
Do you flirt in the hope that something will come of it?
Talk to your wife-You either need to go to Marriage Guidance or leave honey because if you do end up being unfaithful you will lose everything..Flirting is ok but it depends what you hope to come of it? Do you flirt in the hope that you can have a bit of fun with someone? It's not worth it,you have a family to think of now and you made your choice when you got married. x
2007-06-05 21:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by princesspooi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it with you men cant you be happy with the wife you have got. A lot of it is the thrill of the chase once you get the other woman your not that bothered.
Go get yourself a useful hobby or something start showing your wife a bit of loving attention and get into the real world not this fantasy you are setting yourself up for.
2007-06-05 12:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were a good looking guy that maybe a problem, if Lady's around you likes to flirt with you...but think about your family! Remember, it is OK to look but do not touch, it will destroy your family. don't let that happened...be matured enough to stay away through the temptations...
2007-06-05 12:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by snowchickmn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your wife isnt giving you the attention you need ..
i dont know the situation but ...i know that sometimes women
forget about whats more important "THE HUSBAND"..i know
because i have been married for 20 yrs and the kids are first
and so my husband has cheated and i have too but all in all here we are still hanging on but the problem is comunication so talk to your wife and let her know that you have needs and the kids are always going to need something if she dont respond then well i give you permission to "cheat" lol and jk
2007-06-05 12:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a pig and your on here looking for someone to go ohhh poor baby and let you know that its ok. WELL its not. If your not happy with the woman you are with then leave her but pls wake up and smell the roses. Does she really deserve to be with someone like you who is waiting for someone to say that its ok? I think the best thing you can do for her is to tell her the truth and then walk away.
2007-06-05 12:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sort out why you want to cheat in the first place!
Something is not right at home, be it wife has lost her figure, lost appetite for sex, whatever, not attractive anymore, are you bored?
Either way, work out what you want to win and and what you you want to loose!
Do you really want to to loose your wife and the respect your kids have for you? Plus other members of family and Friends!
Ask yourself? Are these ladies worth it?
because let me tell you, if she finds out, things will never, ever be the same again!
2007-06-05 12:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by Welshchick 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋