2007-06-05 14:14:28 · 10 answers · asked by katherinekimbrough 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have a better relationship with my mom than i do with my dad so and they told me not to choose sides so i'm just supporting the one that i live with which is my mom.
2007-06-05 14:33:34 · update #1
How about your dad? Are you taking sides? It is good that you want to help but remember that a marriage is what 2 people make it. Each have their opinions on what went down, so don't start taking sides. You may never know exactly what went down so stay Switzerland. Keep it something simple and that both of you can commit. Try to take a cooking class together?
2007-06-05 14:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are off on the WRONG foot!
Right off the bat, you have picked a side, even though you really should stay neutral. There are only two reasons why you should pick sides and they are abuse or abandonment. Any valid reason for picking a side will eventually boil down to either of these two issues.
Unless your father has violated either of these two issues, then you have no right to choose a side.
Both of your parents are going to need your support at this time, and it will not help matters if you get involved in any of their problems. Their divorce concerns problems which they have created in their marriage and you should steer clear of them at all costs.
Remain neutral or as my kids like to say "I'm Switzerland!"
Your parents were on the right track when they asked you not to pick sides, and they would have no right to drag you into their crisis! It could only lead to hurtful verbal exchanges, and possible alienation from one or both of your parents.
Love and respect both of your parents, listen to both of them and support them through their divorce, but if you remain neutral, you will find that at the end of the road, you will still be loved and respected by both of them.
Good luck with that!
2007-06-05 15:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by txmagic61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents got divorced when me and my sister were still in high school. so...i would say don't take sides with your parents. sometimes parents try to put children in the middle of divorces when they really shouldn't be. if you need the support i'm sure that there are online support groups for people in your situation. or you can go to your friends...or to simply write out what you are feeling. but please...don't get in the middle of it. because that is not fair to you. although my parents tried to put me and my sister on sides..neither of us fell for it. that divorce was over 10 years ago and they get along much better today than they did in the past.
2007-06-05 14:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce support goups are most helpful, such as at YMHA and YMCas, like in Little Neck, or Commack, along with -these books:
Creative Divorce
Rebuilding ( When Your Relationship Ends)
The Divorce Handbook
2007-06-05 14:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her as little cause for concern or to be upset as you possibley can. Be certain that your actions are not adding to her burdon at this rough time in her life. You can try to help out around the house and swallow any arguements you might have for the time being. Be nice to her she is having a very bad time and she will need you to be a friend to her at times. She does not need any of the regular kid crap that happens every day so be on your very best behavior and that will help a lot more than you know.
2007-06-05 14:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents are getting divorced too. Just be there for her, maybe try to help her out around the house a little bit. Sometimes she's definitely going to cry, so just try to be supportive and strong. It's going to be difficult for a while, but you guys will get through it.
2007-06-05 14:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by Deseo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom that your on her side make sure your dad knows that and just tell your mom that shes there for you and tell the people that you want to live with your MOM!! you go girl
2007-06-05 14:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure your mom knows you don't resent this decision of theirs (if you don't). I don't really have too much experience in situations like this because my parents divorced when I was 2. Anyway, just remember, it's probably for the better. Good luck.
2007-06-05 14:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dan L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you support your mom? By loving both of your parents, by not judging them. By accepting and trusting their decision and their love for you.
They LOVE you - just not themselves. Be strong for both of them and when they feel the pain (which they will) don't chastise them, don't try to impose your will. Just be there and listen and show you care.
That's the best way I can think of. Good luck and may you find peace in your heart.
2007-06-05 14:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you are very painful now when your loved mum and dad is trying to get a divorce, no matter what they feel they are still your parents!!!!!!!!!1
why dot you try something to save your parent's marriage,this is what you should do!
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hope that can help you! honey!:)
wish your family can turn normal!
2007-06-05 21:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋