What i mean she wants to be the one the give my husband all the updates on thier son.Examples are when my husband called the school to get a copy of his son's report card his ex got pissed when she found out.She told him "i allways make sure you get this stuff" True but why would she care they have joint custody?She also make it very clear i am not to call or get any info from the school/daycare ect regarding thier son.Any info my husband needs she is the only one to give it to him not me.You would think she would be happy hes such a involed dad and i care about her son.they have been divorced for over 5 yrs and we are married and happy.But she has been in and out of relationships and i think this is the only way she can "cling" to my husband as he left her.why do u guys think she is acting like this?
2007-06-05 14:19:30 · 7 answers · asked by heather8lucus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is pissed off at you for what she sees as taking her husband and trying to take her family and she is not going to have it with her children... that is a reasonable attitude as well.... people have a right to privacy regarding children and maybe she doesn't want her child to form a mommy attachment to you... the younger the child the greater the chance that it could form an attachment to you that she doesn't want... she also wants her husband to realize that just because she is not his wife that she is still the childs mother... she is having difficulty making the adjustment there to the role... when people are married the woman usually is the center of communication for the family.... especially when it comes to her children and their lives.... she is having trouble letting this go.....
one thing you should just plan on is that this woman will always be involved in your life until that child she shares with your husband is no longer living with you and by then the relationships are usually so different anyway.....
just things I have seen living in this world
would you want your son calling some other woman Mommy?
that is where she is at
2007-06-05 14:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you were the cause of the divorce. I too wouldn't want a stranger calling about my child. See this is what happen when people decide to have families and leave them. You have to understand that they have a bond that you can't and will never have with him. Yes even if you are happily married. If she doesn't want you involved in her child's life, why can't you understand that. Even though that kid grow up to love you, ask them this... If they could have their parents back together again, would they want it? Bet you they will say yes. The ex wife sounds like a sable person, that keep up on her child's well being. So what are you trying to do? She have been in and out of relationships because she is scarred and I hope your presence had nothing to do with him leaving her. You have tried to down the mother for seeing other people, you better hope that the ugly doesn't come out in the one you're married to. Are you jealous about her relationships? How do you know about her relationships? Maybe you are being insecure. Maybe she is not trying to hang on to your husband, maybe she just doesn't want you to break or come between something that was already est.
2007-06-09 13:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a position to be gracious. You're happily married to the man. She is obviously unhappy and obviously has control issues.
Unless this is bothering your husband to a degree that is affecting your marriage, I would suggest ignoring it, since there's nothing you can do about it. She should indeed be grateful he's an involved father, but she's apparently more interested in using her son as a go-between/link to her past. It's too bad, but it's out of your hands, and your husband's son is the most important person in all this. Any potential damage to him can be minimized by refusing to react.
If the child is happy and healthy, try to be patient and ignore the ex's fits. Try to respect her wishes and allow your husband to handle all contact regarding the boy. If she thinks she's causing trouble between you and your husband, she'll continue. If both of you graciously ignore her drama fits, she'll stop. But if you take it upon yourself to complain to her, you're only making trouble for yourself and giving her dysfunctional behavior a big, juicy payoff.
If it's really bothering your husband, he needs to ask himself why he's still invested in arguing with his ex. He needs to avoid unnecessary conflict with her for the child's sake.
2007-06-05 14:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by sparticle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is still carrying a torch for him, my dear.
Stop trying to get any information for your hubby. He is a big boy and can do it himself. But he needs to put her in her place once and for all: EX. He needs to tell her he can get this info on his own.
She is all about CONTROL. She wants to CONTROL the information and thus, control him.
Since joint custody is the situation, there is NO reason for her to call. It is time for him to stop allowing her to control him.
Good luck.
2007-06-05 14:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by LilyBelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but he had a child with her. You knew that when you got together with him. Their son needs them both. Did they break up over you? If you are happy why are you asking this question?
2007-06-05 17:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by QuantumB 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did they divorce because of you?
2007-06-05 14:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
did they divorce over you. dear he still loves her fact it fact is fact. my opion?
2007-06-05 14:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋