I am 19 yrs old, and I've only been married for two months. My husband says I don't treat him like I use to. We fight alot, most of the time for no reason. He wants to be intimate all the time but I just never feel like it. He feels like he's not good enough for me anymore. I lay around the house 24/7. I feel depressed alot because we are having alot of financial problems. I want to make this marriage work. What can I do?
2007-06-05 13:16:41 · 23 answers · asked by ILoveMyHusband 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One, get a job and help him out finacially. Working can be so good for your mind and get you off the couch. Good luck!
2007-06-05 13:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look everyone changes the day after you get married totally normal but financial problems can REALLY stress a marriage. You should seek help for your depression and also get some financial counseling also. If there is no real reason your not able to work then get a job to help. About the sex thing there are going to be times when you don't want to or he don't want to but marraige is about sacrificing for eachother and trying to make eachother happy while you are happy as well. Talk to eachother first before inviting outsiders.
2007-06-05 13:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by luvmyhubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job if you don't already have one. If you do, then try and find a better one -- this would be a step in the right direction to solving the financial problems.
If you truly feel you are battling depression, then see a doctor.
The next step would be to see a counselor. If the two of you want to make this work, then you BOTH need to go.
Marriage is a team effort. It can't be successful and grow into a long lasting relationship unless both people are ready to work at it.
2007-06-05 13:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says you are married?
Some piece of paper? Baloney because neither of you act like you care about one another.
And you shouldn't "lay around the house 24/7" - get up and keep busy around the house - or go and get a job!
My first wife was just as lazy, even worse. I can tell you from a man's point of view that when he comes home from working like a slave all day for some ungrateful boss, the last thing your man needs is a lazy wife!
2007-06-05 13:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This is a reverse type situation. Usually the guy is the one calloused. Do this. Think about all the positive things you like about him. Maybe write them down. Then evaluate your response to those qualities.
He needs to feel that you still love him and it sounds like you still do. Intimacy comes naturally when the infatuation endorphins run high. But after that wears, it takes work to create the intimate environment. Be creative and do something that stirs your passion and it will rekindle the passion in the relationship as well. When you're happy and content as a person, it will rub positively into the relationship.
2007-06-05 13:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be depressed and stressed too if I were worried about finances...finances, money are one of the biggest issues that couples argue about. Perhaps if the two of you sat down and made a plan to get in a better position financially, you would feel less depressed and stressed and feel more loving and in the mood? Attack the practical problems first.
2007-06-05 13:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and share in providing financially for your family!
Why do you just lay around the house 24/7 - that surely can't be helping anything.
2007-06-05 13:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First get a job, so that you have some social outlet. Neither of you probably treat each other the same as you did prior to marriage. When you are home, try and look nice, and if he wants to get intimate, go ahead. It's something new, and he will not be able to keep up the pace for long.
2007-06-05 13:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well hello sarah now that isnt very long to have been married but it doesnt sound like your marriage is going to last very long and with financial problems it isnt going to get any better for you either and laying around the house isnt going to help either can you find yourself a job or do somethine to keep you occupied so you dont get depressed for sure that isnt any good for you
2007-06-05 13:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the position as you. Try to be more initmate with him because it honestly helps. In a weird way, it lets you 2 get to know each other in a different perspective. Talk about your financial issues instead of fighting about them and try to get a part time job to help out.
2007-06-05 13:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Neelam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'ma tell you like this its best that he wants to be intimate all the time because most men don't. i am 20 years old and getting married in august. if you really love him give him what he wants sometimes even if you don't feel like it because if you don't some other woman will. when it comes to my husband i am the one that wants to be intimate and he don't want to be all the time. its best to be intimate with him because you will want to be intimate and he wouldn't want to be at that time. but if you do it even if you don't want to he will do it with you even if he don't want to. and the most important thing is you already knew how he was before hand and plus y'all are newlyweds which means y'all can mess around because you have him all to yourself. so don't be depressed have fun with your husband and enjoy your marriage. life is to short to be depressed about anything.
2007-06-05 13:30:20 · answer #11 · answered by Shaundrel O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋