She is his door mat. She does everthing for him and nothing for herself. He does everything for himself and nothing for her. The only time he does is when he brakes things of hers because she didn't do what he said such as... Once she charged 38 dollars he broke things of hers because she was told not to spend money. He can do anything he wants and there is no ? asked. I have a feeling he is cheating because of his lame excuses I have talked with her about it and her comment i don't want to know let him do what he wants. I have talk her carefully about how unfair he is, but she is in denial. I have even seen him hit her. Its ok to her because she thinks its her fault. A part of me now wants to end this friendship. To see her go through what she deals with pains me greatly
I feel great resentment twords him . I cant become too involved because he will turn her against me. This is killing me because my hands are tied. This is now effecting my life.
2007-06-05 13:36:01 · 5 answers · asked by doe7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consider remaining friends with her, and not bring up any issues related to her husband. At some point she will need someone to lean on for support--when she has finally had enough.
2007-06-05 13:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with the first answerer.....you need to let go of this friendship. You should be honest with her and tell her that you feel like her husband treats her poorly and it's hard to watch her being treated that way, and you are getting too emotionally involved. Just be honest with her. She will probably continue to be in denial, but you at least will have let her know that you don't think it's right and you can sleep at night knowing that you did the 'right thing' by bringing it to her attention, trying to get her to see her predicament etc...
2007-06-05 20:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hands are not tied. Try to have the most serious conversation with her one more time and tell her you will no longer defend her husbands actions. You should have reproted him. She obviously has problems where she can't leave, money low self esteem. If you can figure out a way to help her if she leaves present it to her but make her understand she has to be serious and move forward or no, you should not stand around and watch. You should still report him to the authorities. She does need your help but to keep the pattern going and just talking is not going to help you or her. Try to set her up so if she is to leave she can file for divorce, take her to a group councelor with you who is free, ect...Good luck
2007-06-08 02:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by city girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly you can't do more. She is not amenable to hearing about him or changing her life. Sometimes, you have to leave friends that cause this much stress in your own life. You are not responsible for her demise. If you have offered everything you can and she still is in denial then move away and save yourself the daily grief. It isn't wrong for you to do this. Don't make her life yours.
2007-06-05 20:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to say, but you do need to walk away. You've tried to help her, but she is in huge denial. You can't let it affect you; and it will affect you emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. Tell her that you love her, but you can't just stand by and watch him abuse and tear her down. Let her know that perhaps somewhere down the road, if things change, you could be friends again.
2007-06-05 20:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋