Today I feel very lonely and lost. I spent my day shopping as usual as it has become an obsession since I lost my job. Not that I spend much money, of course, I don't. Just takes my mind off the reality: I still don't feel like I belong to the country I live in for 7 years now, my marriage is going down the heel, my husband is more like a housemate for 3 years now, no kids, no job, family far away back at home. In 15 minutes I will go to bed to crawl on my side of it. Sometimes if feels as if loneliness is suffocating me. I caught myself looking I never thought I would be in this place. No wonder my friends are not dying to spend time with me - who wants to spend time with a sad person? My husband keeps telling me that I am agressive.. I am so tired of his criticism. Not all bad - of course, I am grateful I am healthy, not bad looking, have a place to live, cats, some friends.. So what shall I do if I feel like crap? Been there before
2007-06-05 13:22:24 · 9 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not really the one who feels sorry for themselves. I go for job interviews almost every week, but no luck so far.
2007-06-05 13:35:10 · update #1
We tried counselling, but it did not change much. I am telling my husband how I feel, but he keeps it to himself, seems to me.
2007-06-05 13:41:02 · update #2
You need to take up a hobby that challenges you and pulls you out of your funk. Do something you have always been afraid of doing. Good luck!
2007-06-05 13:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from depression. Instead of going shopping go to the gym. Exercise is good for improving mood. Get a complete checkup from your doctor and make sure there is nothing medically wrong that could cause how you are feeling and discuss depression as well with the doctor.
Get some couples counseling for your marriage and some individual counseling for yourself. Try having a date night every week with your husband.
Find another job, go back to school. There are many places that can help you with your career.
If you miss your family back home, write or call more often.
2007-06-05 13:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by jane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need a purpose in life especially since you don't live close to your family and country. Get some hobbies, join some clubs, get involved in your community or your religion. I'm sure your husband would enjoy seeing you happy and alive and things would change for you with him as well. Go back to school and look at having a career. There is so much you can do rather than pining away and being miserable. This is your life too. Take charge of it.
2007-06-05 13:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break out of the slump. Losing a job and the closeness of your husband is an awful double shot to take, but it's not fatal. Let your husband know what you're thinking. Do what you can to get busy again. The more you sit and think, the more depresed you'll be. At the very least, learn to smile and breathe deep
2007-06-05 13:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are the only one who can control how you feel. IF you do not like feeling down all the time, then just stop it...and don't tell me you can't. IF I chose, I could sit around and feel sorry for myself all day long...I choose not to. I have better things to do with my life...and you need to find a life! So, go get a job. They are out there, you just are not looking. And until you find one, volunteer to help those less fortunate than you are...there are plenty around.
2007-06-05 13:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider what you would do if your husband was no longer around, and work to a goal that make your life easier if for some reason this occurred. Consider finding something rewarding and productive to fill your time--expand your horizons--learn a new skill, learn a new business trade (real estate, insurance, accounting, law, mediation, computer repair, and etc.)
2007-06-05 13:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as in case you have tried your suited to get to be attentive to and characteristic a delightful relationship along with your housemate, yet to no avail. it is complicated to describe yet there are cases whilst a guy or woman basically would not like yet another. There seems to be like an on the spot dislike without logical reason for it. I even have had this a pair cases in my lifetime--the persons weren't "undesirable" people yet I basically did no longer like them. i did no longer act like your housemate, although. do no longer take it in my opinion and obsess approximately it. i could basically act as though she would not exist because it quite is in all probability what she could desire. you do no longer could desire to be her chum or confidant.
2016-11-26 03:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new hobby, what do you like to do? really, think about the things you like to do. Don't be so negative. Remember, everyday is a new day. Start a new project. Maybe gardening, crafting or remodel a room.
2007-06-05 13:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno what to tell you other than keep your head up and move on
2007-06-06 06:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by jessica29154 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋