Family & Relationships - 17 December 2007

i miss this boy so much. just got home for xmas break and cant stop thinking about him. we've never hooked up but hes flirty with me and jokingly hints about making out. lately, the sexual (eye) tension has gotten intense but the only way i really know how to show him is to be mean..i have two older brothers and i have a somewhat tough personality when it comes to guys so its hard for me to be affectionate. i cant be the one to make the first move but i'm pretty sure hes kindof insecure about approaching me..i have a tendency to intimidate guys i think. he plays games with me when hes around his friends and tries to get me to admit that i want more alone time with him than he's giving me. sick of the games, just want to be with him but i cant make the first move..and i really dont want to mess up our friendship because we have a lot of mutual friends and i really do enjoy conversation and being around him. whattodo

2007-12-17 17:54:03 · 1 answers · asked by eliza 1 in Singles & Dating

both of our parents invtied us to them for Christmas....i dont know what to do..?? i dont was either of them to get upset..and its our first Christmas together, married.. What did you do?????????

2007-12-17 17:51:59 · 22 answers · asked by my angel is 2 1/2 now:) 1 in Family

2007-12-17 17:49:50 · 8 answers · asked by SweetPea 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Its like 6 hours drive, lots of drama in the famliy right now. I just want to stay at home with my family, chill, relax, play my new wii and not fool with all the stupidity. Not to mention the money to save on gas and eating out. Is this selfish of me?

2007-12-17 17:41:28 · 30 answers · asked by The Dang Penguin 3 in Family

My on-again, off-again boyfriend of 9 months has been planning to come see me on Tuesday afternoon for a few days now. Its been more than 2 weeks since we've seen each other. He has been helping his sister move, and told me that he just needed to help her with one more thing on Monday so he could come to my place right after work on Tuesday.

He called me today and was obviously exhausted. He told me that he couldn't come over until the evening because there were a few last thing he needed to help her move. So I got mad, because this is not the first time he has put me off for her. She is going through a divorce and has two kids, and he has helped her out a TON. Loaned her $5,000 for a lawyer, moved in with her to help her with bills, helping her move once already, and now is going to take over her share of their rent so she can get her own place.

I understand she needs support, but there are other people in their family to help. Am I being selfish or unreasonable?!?!

2007-12-17 17:38:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I am remarried, and have 3 sons from my first marriage. My new husband has 1 son from his first marrage. (all boys) We get along great. I had a Christmas party yesterday, and she brought 4 gift cards for the boys. Should I confront her after I have now found out that she secretly sent her "blood" grandson more gifts in the mail to his Mom's house. His son is 12 years old. Mine are 11.17.20. We've been together 2 1/2 years. Should I talk with my husband first? Should I do nothing?

2007-12-17 17:36:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

What are family and friends usually concerned about the most : the woman's age and being older, or the amount of kids that she has...??
If a younger guy is dating an older woman in her 30's, wouldn't it be an assumption to everyone that she probably has children ??
my younger boyfriend thinks his family and friends will be more focused on me having kids, and not even care about my age......

2007-12-17 17:35:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 22. this all happened after only meeting her twice before....

She gave me her number awhile about a month ago, We had nice conversation and it lead to her telling me about younger guys that she has been with. She said it was fun. I then asked for a kiss, and she said NO. I back off and lost interest when I founf out that I wasn't going to get any. ( I asked for a kiss the second time she came over) Now, when I see her, she asks if I STILL HAVE her number? Why? She already rejected me. IS she playing hard to get? Or is she trying to see how far I will go to get it?

I saw her 2 sundays at a party, I didn't go up too her she came up too me and started talking....then she asked if I still have her #???????????

2007-12-17 17:34:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

was a kid--mostly callous remarks and put-downs, or making fun of me. No parent is perfect, and I love her, but when I'm around her, I feel crazy inside, like I just hate myself. She might be verbally abusive, but I don't know if she's really that bad, or if I'm just a bad daughter (I'm 40). I need some objective opinions about what to do. She won't change--I know that.

2007-12-17 17:29:06 · 5 answers · asked by Robin 2 in Family

I got pregnant and we got married ( I was 22 and he was 23). I moved from North CA to South CA where he live with his family. He told me "you'll take my mom's place is this house and she can rest." His parents still young and his younger sister not even wash her own dishes. He listened watever his mom said. She told him not to spoil me and not forget her because she brought him to this world. I was depressed how he ignored my needs. My pregnant sickness was so bad and he told me I was lying because his mom told him she was fine with her 2 pregnancies. He bought the mobile home, gave my father in law his car, gave his sister money for shopping, bought her expensive gifts but I got nothing from him. I was patient for my daughter's sake. 6 mons ago I've had enough and I moved back to my mom and of course he didn't come with us, "My parents told me they'll disown me if I follow u." he said.

2007-12-17 17:27:57 · 32 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-17 17:27:33 · 10 answers · asked by abbhirami s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My friend is having peculier problem.. he came to me..needs my opinion.. problem is that he is having love with another girl. she is smart, intelligent and looks nice. my friend says..though she is having all good qualities.. she says that she won't bathe daily and only 4 or 5 times a month..that too one bucket of soft hot water..but, regularly she is having face wash.. whereas .. my friend says he is regularly taking bathe, but only washing his fact while taking bathe.. and asked me to give suggestion not to forget her or her love. he asks me to give idea to make to take bathe daily.. i'm totally confused. if he says face to face to take bathe..she can say that it is her personnel matter...my friend is in delecate position.. he wants to marry her and she is also interested in marriage. please give suggesion.. and that should be acceptable by her.. will you?

2007-12-17 17:24:13 · 5 answers · asked by Tamil from Vellore 7 in Marriage & Divorce

I have become an insecure person and its tearing my relationship apart. I was always someone who was very confident, had all of the kids wrapped around my finger, dropped them when they did something wrong. This is my FIRST long term relationship, because I used to end it with guys the first time they messed up. I love my boyfriend so much, but I am starting to really act crazy. When we first started talking we were going to different colleges and the next semester he transferred to a school about 10 mins from me. Before he was staying at home, now he resides in a dorm, and I am afraid that he will meet someone at school and cheat on me. I am so afraid of getting my heart broken. If he doesn't answer the phone i feel like he's with another girl. If he wants to hang out with his friends, i feel like he's cheating. I dont know HOW to not feel so jealous. I just want to catch him, so that I can know that its not going to work. It doesnt make sense but thats how i feel. help me please!!!

2007-12-17 17:23:01 · 4 answers · asked by In Love 1 in Singles & Dating

he makes me soo miserable! i can't stand him at all and he NEVER understands me. So recently i moved to another city and left everyone back and my one chance to go back to visit my hometown for winterbreak, he is going to try and ruin it. He starts to come in my room and yells at me for how unresponsible i am and then i just scream at him back for not being a caring father, then he starts to curse at me and has this smartass attitude like me knows everything about me but he doesn't. Then he says i can't hang out with my friends just because they are not very "rich" or perfect like he wants them to be. He is an alcoholic and i planned with my sister to just leave him and not come back to the house for a while because he is starting to make my life living hell. My mom is gone to missouri taking care fo her sick parents so i never get to see the person who really understands me. What should i do? Is that a good idea to leave?

2007-12-17 17:22:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Please note this is a girl I have known for a long time and been looking to ask her out for as long!

2007-12-17 17:20:53 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think I do, and I've been criticised for it, even by girls! Basically, I think all females are special in their own way (i don't believe the same about guys), i very rarely get mad at a female, if i do it never sticks. And the only I reason I like being a guy is to be with girls. One day, I was talking to my friends about how dumb fat married guys get mad when they can't stick with their plans when their wives say "no". They always say stupid things like "she's trying to kill my dreams!". And I was like "Then WHY did you get married?? When you do, it's not all about YOU and your dreams anymore! You should've let her find someone who understands that!" and one of my friends, a girl, was like "okay, are you a GUY or a GIRL, because what your saying, I don't really know now..." I don't understand that, but I guess some people probably don't undersand me and my gender bias.

Are any of you like this? You kind of favour the opposite gender in all matters?

2007-12-17 17:18:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Recently my spouses place of employment is having a Christmas party. Usually you take your spouse,right? He didn't invite me whatsoever, but tells me that he will be attending, how do I handle this situation, and how shouold I react?

2007-12-17 17:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by myse213 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There's this girl (We are both 14) who I have known for a few years, and I know I could just walk up to her and start a conversation without her finding it weird, but thing is, I am very shy.

It's funny because I've known all her friends (Male and female, and most of them were very good friends..) for years, and THAT is what makes me too shy to just walk up to her and start a conversation.

Am I to suppose I am subconsciously ashamed of my past or something?

I am very understanding, have respect for women, don't treat them like dirt, and I have many other qualities that would make me a sweet, caring boyfriend, and from what I know of her, I do think I am her type, but my worse trait is my shyness, which is never on my side. It would be great if you could give me some tips on overcoming it.

By the way, talking to her doesn't make me nervous, but starting a conversation with her is hard for me.

2007-12-17 17:16:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf and I have been dating for quite a while, and we are serious about marriage. We want to do it and are planning on it, but we aren't yet engaged. I was just wondering what could I possibly do to prepare even more for it?

We don't want to cohabitate first, because of personal reasons. Some other info is that we've been in a LDR since day one, since we met online 5 years ago.

Has anyone else had a similar situation? Maybe not the meeting online part, but just getting married in a long distance situation? we are wondering about where to have the wedding, where to live, etc. Thanks.

2007-12-17 17:16:44 · 4 answers · asked by Xahaira-66- 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Please read this all before you say "stay in school". I'm 18, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years. The first year was normal, and then she moved to Missouri (I'm in KY). We have been dating long distance since then, and see eachother about once a month. I am moving to Missouri after I graduate; if I graduate. I want to be a high school teacher. Currently my grades are a 37% and a 62% (I only have 2 classes because the rest of the day I'm working). I've had a 3.5 GPA the rest of high school. The main reasons I want to move are because I am suffering from anxiety and depression. This is because (1) my girlfriend is so far away, and (2) My father has puched me in the face and thrown me down on the ground until my brother and mother pull him off. He yells at me all the time saying I'll never be anything, I'm worthless, ugly, etc. All of this has happened multiple times, and I'm seeing a psychiatrist. Also, I have no friends at my school, but I do have 1 friend that lives here. My parents aren't going to help me with college, and because of my dad my grades are slipping away no matter how hard I try. Anyway, here's the deal: If I drop out I can move in with my girlfriends family for free. They will loan me money for a car which my parents wouldn't. Also, I wont be so alone. I wont have to deal with the abuse from my dad. I can get off my meds from the psychiatrist. I already have a job if I moved there. I'll get a GED. I'll go to a community college for 2 years, then transfer to a state University and finish getting a teaching degree. When I become a teacher I will be able to relate to kids, especially those dealing with abuse. I know people say dropping out its "stupid" but if I don't I will be stuck here, alone for the rest of this year, still dealing with the abuse. My grades will continue to slip and I may not graduate at all. Then I'll have to get a GED anyway. So, what are your oppinions on this?

2007-12-17 17:16:39 · 12 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family

Do u think I made the right choice? My ex- bf used 2 always make fun of me because I was supposedly one of his biggest gfs he's ever dated. All the girls he's dated were 90 lbs and under. And I'm 120 lbs, but I have a really big rack so that's why I way a bit more. I broke up with him because I couldn't deal with him anymore and I deserved way better. But all my cheer girls are telling me I made the biggest mistake in my life. And also other people are telling me the same. It seems like everyone is against me :(

2007-12-17 17:15:01 · 13 answers · asked by Cheer_babe29 1 in Singles & Dating

pop by my best friend that was living in are house . he has no job, no car, no money, and i have a good job and all i did was love her and gave her the world that she dream of and her 2 kids a big home , a room for each of her kids a new car and she don't need to work . and she run away from me to live in a garage with my best friend .

2007-12-17 17:10:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I mean a kiss goodbye before going to work every morning or do you just walk out and go?

2007-12-17 17:10:26 · 27 answers · asked by ? 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, thanks for dropping by. Alright, sometimes when i'm out alone in public, men cast glances at me and sometimes give the 'second look'. I dont think i'm attractive. I'm 18 but i don't look like 18 at all, i think i look like 15 as i dont have the 'matured' look. I'm an asian and asians tend to look younger than their age.

And for guys, i'm sure you stare or cast glances at girls. So why?

Thanks again!

2007-12-17 17:02:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My Fiance and I were wondering?? We came u in a community were we were all like family.. We all called each others Mom, "Mom". We were loving, and supportive and even though I've moved away we all keep in touch still. They are sooo like family and I love them. I mean we would walk in each other fridges, exchange clothes, wear each others shoes. If one was sad we all were sad.

This is how our houses were each "X" represents a home we were part of.......

X__X__X
X______X
there were 5 houses!

2007-12-17 17:00:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

She went over to her former room mates house and slept in his bed she said she just took a nap but it doesnt sit well with me I kinda feel like ending it any thoughts?

2007-12-17 16:58:53 · 17 answers · asked by Wonderingplz 3 in Family

we had an idea to move to a foreign country to live with my husband and children, im a mother having 5 boys ages: 29/27/25/18/13 years old, we stayed here one year but now we feel its too difficult and no socializing here and i got no friends,so i thought that we go back to my home country with my two childrens: 18/13 as usual and live there,my husband can visit me everywhile and my big boys,so i was thinking do i stay here with them and help my family in the house like: cooking/washing/cleaning and cancel my life which i had it in my home country or i get back to my country and think about myself also? please advise im really confused..thanks!

2007-12-17 16:57:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

What does it mean when a woman refuses to give a man a blood test when she claims he's the father of her child
and she is known for being a whore? she was sleeping with her husband but it was proved that the hubby wasn't the father so now she claims that she is 100% sure that her lover is the father but refuses a dna test?

2007-12-17 16:53:03 · 12 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

OK...so what can a guy who screwed up any relationship a couple could have had in the past by not talking to her and making her feel like hes not interested say to a girl to give him another chance? Please help me....I am going to see this girl I like soon and I really want to start over again with her... She is 19 and Im 21 so if any 19-25 yr old girls could help me I would greatly appreciate it

2007-12-17 16:50:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 17 I know that is very young. But I met my boyfriend last june..2006. He lived in utah almost the whole time we were together and I live in arizona but we saw each other monthly. I love him very much but we have always had a rocky relationship. He has cheated on me in the past more than once..and so after the second time I left him and we saw other people for about five months and we were still very close friends and talked almost daily. This june, 2007, he moved to arizona with his brother and we got back together and decided to put the past behind us. He had to go back to utah for a week and ended up kissing his ex. I was devestated..but forgave him..again. I just recently found out that i am pregnant and when he heard this..he said he was moving back to utah. He says he wants to be together and mary me. But his ex lives with him..at his parents house and they are now "best friends". it is so hard for me to trust him..but i want to so much. we are falling apart and i need advice

2007-12-17 16:46:50 · 5 answers · asked by mags 1 in Other - Family & Relationships