I really dont know what to do.....I cant live like this anymore please help me?

Question

OK...so what can a guy who screwed up any relationship a couple could have had in the past by not talking to her and making her feel like hes not interested say to a girl to give him another chance? Please help me....I am going to see this girl I like soon and I really want to start over again with her... She is 19 and Im 21 so if any 19-25 yr old girls could help me I would greatly appreciate it

OK so here is the situation....we never went out even tough we really liked eachother...I screwed up...i was never myself around her and I was really quiet at all times....I think she tought I wasnt interested and moved on....I called her one night after and apologized for the way I acted ( she was seeing some1 then and I was really upset..she could tell over the phone...she told me to call her whenever but I really didnt know what to say anymore. We only talked 2 times in 5 months) she broke up with him and I sent her a message to tell her I had a christmas gift 4 her...to where should I send it... she offered to show up to my job and pick it up. what does this mean?? is she showing up to catch up and amybe see if there is something still there? or she just after a free gift? Im not suggesting any of these answers but if any girl out there would really think this over and tell me why a she would do this please tell me.

I want to tell her Im sorry and please give me a second chance but Im not so sure she feels the same way about me anymore. God, she did everything short of asking my hand in marriage to show me she felt strongly for me but I never knew how to respond to her. How can I fix this??


By the way : This is what I bought her. Its a sterling silver heart shapped necklace with her name angraved and birthstone. Was this a wise choice??

I must add that I did not ignore her because I didnt like her. She is gorgeously adorable but I just never felt like myself around her. Please dont get the wrong idea people. I screwed up by acting the way I did. You know you never really know what you got until its gone.....I never had a girl leave such a lasting impression on me..

Answer 1

I'm a little confused as to your situation. But it seems like you two have lost touch a little bit and you don't have much to lose. You should tell her how you feel, give her the gift. it's the only way to know for sure how she feels. She's probably a little resentful to you right now because you "burned" her by acting not interested back in the day. It's good she broke up with her boyfriend, she could have been holding out for you. I think she wants to see you and this is why she suggested she would come meet you. A lot of girls who want nothing to do with a guy won't suggest that they meet them to get an xmas present. When there was a guy that I wasn't interested in anymore, I wanted NOTHING to do with him, I didn't want to go out of my way to meet him, even to get a present. So the fact that she wants to come meet you is a good thing. You have to be prepared that she just wants to be friends, or that she completely breaks your heart. But also, it could go really well, and you could end up with a girlfriend. The necklace was a good choice, if she's interested in you, she'll love it.

I just want to know why you acted like that towards her in the past?? Why were you ignoring her and acting not interested? It almost sounds like you didn't like her, and as soon as she had a new boyfriend, you got jealous...I hope I'm wrong.

Answer 2

..Well, first off, it didn't sound like u "screwed" up. Sounded like a very normal behavior when u r initially around someone u like;(can't think of ANYthing to say,when u do talk u don't even really know what u said,,,feel like u r almost watching yourself..."screw up".) Don't worry, just means that this girl has a WOW affect on u. Also, shyness can often be mistaken for lack of interest,snobbiness, etc. If this girl takes the time to TALK w/u, then she will discover that u do have things of interest to talk about. This is my next quest. for u: u wrote that u "sent" her the message about having the gift...did u feel u needed to have some reason to contact her so u got the gift??? It also sounded like she sent u a message back ?? I am not sure.; have u talked on the phone at all? Probably not.. O.K., To maybe offer or help w/ some advice here it is: Perahps call or send another message right away that although u appreciate the fact that she is willing to stop by your place of employment, DEFINITELY suggest another meeting place. U r setting yourself up if u meet at work- Way too easy for u to be interrupted & u will probably be on a break. Believe me it is super safe for her to meet u at your work...she knows that u will only have limited time, so if it is uncomfortable or whatever she can leave ..u will be stuck at work wondering why u had her meet u there!! If u had a hard time talking to her anyway, meet her at neutral place. Meaning like a place that is casual, maybe even a park that u can walk (gardens, pond or etc.,) around or sit at a table . be able to actually talk, or just enjoy the park. My point here is to give u some room to regain your self-confidence so when u meet w/her u will not have any limitations that your work place would surely have. THE GIFT,,, sounds very thoughtful,,,and i bet it is beautiful. However, it is what i think is pretty personal & possibly overwhelming for her ..;at least at your 1st" meeting".? (In 5 months) Of course, it may be perfect!! Just don't hand it to her while u r at work !! If she means alot to u, at least give youself all of the advantages that u can as far as showing the real u or more"interested " you. When u leave after your visit together, U BOTH leave, -to be the person who had to go back inside to work sucks-trust me. i bet when u do leave u will already have made plans to go out the next day or something like that. By the way if she starts talking about the last guy & why they broke up...listen!! always good insight for u....if u give her the neclace no matter what happens, at least ask her to open it w/u before she goes...If u really like her u will feel good that u gave her such a nice present. Flash a huge smile , & jump into your porsche or corvette..& leave...(even if u drive a jetta!...) Hope this helps even a little. Have fun, live large...haha.

Answer 3

Don't play with your health. Make a scene of a lot of pain in some ER to get yourself treated. Chances are you may not be faking REAL pain soon if you don't wiggle yourself through the system. In the meantime, don't drink alcohol, avoid sugar and salt in your diet and cut down on large portions of food: if food comes into your body all at once, usually it will try to come out all at once too, applying horrible pressure to your guts. Eat small portions frequently and drink LOADS of water and get an oil supplement like cod liver oil, or replacements that taste far better.

Answer 4

I dont see where you screwed up. Failing to ask her out is not screwing up dude. The jewelry is a bit much, her bf probably didn't even do that for her. Stick with inexpensive gifts like flowers and candy and stuff like that. DON'T SPEND $$ ON GIRLS WHO YOU AREN'T EVEN DATING, THAT'S A BIG NO-NO. Trust me...

Answer 5

i think if she wasnt interested she wouldnt go to your job to see you. you should try to talk to her about things and maybe ask her to dinner. even if she ends up not being interested, at least you tried and you told her how you felt. but if you dont talk to her, youll regret it for a long time wondering what might have happened.

and your gift is really thoughtful. good job

Answer 6

Good God man!! When she comes OPEN YOUR MOUTH!! Tell her that you care about her and would like to see her. Even if she says she doesn't want to see you, it can't be worse than what you are already feeling!

OPEN YOUR MOUTH!!!

Say "Hello, it's so nice to see you! I've thought about you a lot and I'd like to take you out."

Is that so hard?

Good luck!