My on-again, off-again boyfriend of 9 months has been planning to come see me on Tuesday afternoon for a few days now. Its been more than 2 weeks since we've seen each other. He has been helping his sister move, and told me that he just needed to help her with one more thing on Monday so he could come to my place right after work on Tuesday.
He called me today and was obviously exhausted. He told me that he couldn't come over until the evening because there were a few last thing he needed to help her move. So I got mad, because this is not the first time he has put me off for her. She is going through a divorce and has two kids, and he has helped her out a TON. Loaned her $5,000 for a lawyer, moved in with her to help her with bills, helping her move once already, and now is going to take over her share of their rent so she can get her own place.
I understand she needs support, but there are other people in their family to help. Am I being selfish or unreasonable?!?!
2007-12-17 17:38:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They really are brother and sister, I've met the family and also helped her move once. To take it a step further, my point to his as to why I was angry was because I took time away from work and my "surrogate" family to make time to be with him Tuesday. As the things he's helping her move are at the apartment they shared and it's nothing she needs right away, there is no reason he could have declined and helped her later in the week. Or had her ask another family member if she insisted it be done Tuesday.
2007-12-17 18:54:09 · update #1
He is doing a bit much...... Almost make me think it isn't his sister. he can't spend the rest of his life bailing his sister out of her problems. Seems like she might be dependent upon him. I really don't know what to tell you. But if in fact it is his sister then you might be a lil selfish i guess depending on how you look at it. But at the same time how does he plan to have a relationship when everything he does revolve around his sister? Give it a lil time to see if things get better. And if it doesn't then do a lil investigating to see what the real problem is. I've known one sibling to help the other but their is a line that has to be drawn.
2007-12-17 17:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Thang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little bit, yes. He is not blowing you off to hang out with his friends or to see another woman. He is helping his sister through a rough time. He is showing some really honourable qualities!
You say you guys are on again off again, which to me doesn't sound overly serious. I would expect him to put his sister first, shes his family. It would be different if you were his wife, but you aren't.
2007-12-18 01:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Morley 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are ONLY a girlfriend... and it sounds like he only gets with you when he has nothing else going on... the ol' "port in the storm" routine.
His sister is family. Family is forever.
2007-12-18 01:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure this is a sister ? better check that out...
2007-12-18 01:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋