There's this girl (We are both 14) who I have known for a few years, and I know I could just walk up to her and start a conversation without her finding it weird, but thing is, I am very shy.
It's funny because I've known all her friends (Male and female, and most of them were very good friends..) for years, and THAT is what makes me too shy to just walk up to her and start a conversation.
Am I to suppose I am subconsciously ashamed of my past or something?
I am very understanding, have respect for women, don't treat them like dirt, and I have many other qualities that would make me a sweet, caring boyfriend, and from what I know of her, I do think I am her type, but my worse trait is my shyness, which is never on my side. It would be great if you could give me some tips on overcoming it.
By the way, talking to her doesn't make me nervous, but starting a conversation with her is hard for me.
2007-12-17 17:16:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I'm not an aduld (:
2007-12-17 17:28:12 · update #1
Hello and how is your day going (and simular versions of this) are usually good ways and safe ways to start up a convo. Try it with a smile and she will never know your overcoming shyness. Take care.
2007-12-17 17:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by txdollaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Overcoming shyness is helpful by getting out and being around others. I am a very outgoing person well I used to NOT be. Do you and this lady have commonalities?
Sometimes you just have to swallow your stomach and blurt out a topic to begin a conversation. Begin a conversation with, "so, how are you doing?" If their is a festival or some other activity you think she'd enjoy ask her out to that...there'd always be topics for laughs and such at a fair or an art festival. Simple places.
Most importantly be yourself. If she has been your friend for a very long time she has an idea of how you are just don't try to be someone you are not. That will turn her off.
Get a little friendlier. Do you have the confidence to just casually place your arm on her shoulders playfully? This would tell her something you otherwise couldn't or practice flirty looks in the mirror!
Hope this helps...and apologies for some of the 'obvious' or 'cheesy' parts!
2007-12-17 17:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion i think the boy should ask out the girl but that is because i am from Chicago and that is what we usually do here but then some relationships are ruined because the guy is to shy or they girl is to shy in my school we have boys and girls and the girls usually talk to the boys and then the girls usually talk among themselves same with the boys. I'm not shure if this helps it might be a little unclear but that is my opinion.
2016-04-10 05:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you have known her for years. ask when she's free so as you can have sometime with her. get some drinks and sit somewhere with a cool breeze try to overcome your shyness and make it up to her. how do u know for you are a sweet guy maybe she likes you too. don't shiver still a teen boy. I'm also of the same kind as you are. so go get her!!
2007-12-17 18:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mariz J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just 14 and you don't have be shy, and at this young age, i am sure you are not in LOVE as an ADULD yet, am i right ? and further more you are still a teen boy, you can talk as friend,
2007-12-17 17:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Just try to tell her.
If you can find a good moment, like a party or something to tell her (Which you shouldd do a somewhat casually), that would be great.
Try to do it before she ends up with someone else.
And don't use any excuse you can find to avoid the situation.
Just confront her and tell how you feel.
2007-12-17 17:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Psycho Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you sound like you have put so much thought into this that now you've scared yourself out of doing it. one day you need to rack up some courage and talk to her, i understand shyness and its tough to get over, and its so much more fun once you arent bogged down by it anymore. you can go up to her and joke/tease with her, or even something even slightly lame like asking her for the homework assignment in english class. then follow it up by "a bunch of us are going to the movies, do you want to go?" it works.
2007-12-17 17:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the step and start a conversation with her. Nothing crazy or dopey, just be yourself. Don't be afraid to speak with her, she is probably just as nervous as you. If you can build your confidence to speak with others, not just girls but any stranger, you will have a much happier and more fulfilled life. TRUST ME! Go to it my man!
2007-12-17 17:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by smtilley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 best way to flirt without looking like a freak/geek/or wierdo: ready???????
Say Hello.
2007-12-17 17:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as someone you have known a few years, and not as a come-on
2007-12-17 17:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by glenn t 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋