My friend is having peculier problem.. he came to me..needs my opinion.. problem is that he is having love with another girl. she is smart, intelligent and looks nice. my friend says..though she is having all good qualities.. she says that she won't bathe daily and only 4 or 5 times a month..that too one bucket of soft hot water..but, regularly she is having face wash.. whereas .. my friend says he is regularly taking bathe, but only washing his fact while taking bathe.. and asked me to give suggestion not to forget her or her love. he asks me to give idea to make to take bathe daily.. i'm totally confused. if he says face to face to take bathe..she can say that it is her personnel matter...my friend is in delecate position.. he wants to marry her and she is also interested in marriage. please give suggesion.. and that should be acceptable by her.. will you?
2007-12-17 17:24:13 · 5 answers · asked by Tamil from Vellore 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask your friend this man. Is he willing to spend the rest of his life with her like that. open his eyes to the facts. Make a two column notes like the 7th grade and make pros and cons. If he is willing to TOLERATE her habits like that then thats cool. Obviously hygene should be a priority. but if she does keep herself clean then it shouldn't be a problem. Adam and eve were butt naked and had Cain and Abel but do you think eve washed? ok that might be a bit to extreme. Just tell you friend to weigh the option and see which he values most. And ITS NOT WRONG to consider your soulmates hygene issue. Just like being attracted to someone who is just HOT. I mean she can be the most Hottest girl in the world but she can have a cold heart. But remember if your friend likes her a lot then so be it he can tolerate a smelly pitted area that cool with him.
Check this out man. I know a its a little off topic but if I was in a relationship with a woman for four years. Loved her so much. yeah she was perfect in every aspect. To me she was the best at everything. For God sake she was raised to be a wife! but then I saw something that was flawed. She was temper mental. I didn't how to deal with it so I dumped her. This was six months ago infact. Now.....I miss her so much that almost every night I think of what I've done. I thought about everything. I realized that I jusr pointed that IMPERFECTION and blow it up like a bomb and tell her to get the f*ck out of my house. Now I'm a sad a lonely person giving people advice about relationships. Tell your friend to not make the same mistakes like I did. He will regret EVERY minute of it.
2007-12-17 17:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by akefuyung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is really important to him he could suggest they take a bath together.
Some people mostly in middle eastern countries (I have learned) have a different view on the frequency of bathing. Perhaps she thinks it is a waste of water, perhaps she grew up being told not to take more frequent baths, your friend might want to investigate the reasons for her not bathing more and only washing her face. Perhaps after she goes to the bathroom she does the common thing of rinsing with water and thinking this is clean.
He could buy her some baby wipes to help clean down there after goign to the bathroom (that would help) He can go for a few days of not bathing and show her that it is not so good to put off bathing.
There could be many reasons she feels that bathing more might be bad.
When she does bathe he could try over praising her. Such as.."OH you smell so good after a bath I just love to smell you hair when it is clean." For many people this type of thing works to encourage the good behavior we want in a person.
If all else fails then he can say to her, "Honey, I am sorry to tell you this however when it has been a few days since you took a real bath you start to smell a little, do you think it might be better if you bathed 2 times a week." Even that would help. But only after trying to encourage her subtly first.
2007-12-18 03:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like the above answer ask her to bath with him
2007-12-18 01:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by RD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have reasoning for this... go by that to decide how to approach her on this.
Maybe he should invite her in when he bathes...
2007-12-18 01:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely advise him that you want to mind your own business.
Good luck.
2007-12-18 01:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋