She went over to her former room mates house and slept in his bed she said she just took a nap but it doesnt sit well with me I kinda feel like ending it any thoughts?
2007-12-17 16:58:53 · 17 answers · asked by Wonderingplz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
engaged we are... own her.... never once wanted that or even mentioned it we got into a fight and she blew up and said im leaving she called 3 hours later and i asked where she went she said "I just woke up from a nap in richards bed"
we have been fighting a lot latley and I do think this relationship is pretty much over
2007-12-17 17:27:38 · update #1
im putting this to vote
2007-12-20 15:58:15 · update #2
What would a girl be doing in a guy's bed? She cheated and she will do it again, just get rid of her.
2007-12-17 17:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by SandCat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I should hope that there is more to the story! Why did she go over there? Was he home? Did they 'nap' together? Would she see a problem with you going and taking a 'nap' at another girls house? I think 'something ' is missing and she is showing you great disrespect. If she is not committed to your relationship, now is the time to know. Your values should be her values. Love does not hurt the other person. She knew her action would hurt you and your relationship - that's a red flag. Sounds like she's not committed. I would not argue with her, I would state what you think a 'relationship' is, and what you expect out of that partner. If she can't deal with it, chances are she is not on the same page you are. Better to learn that now......... Good luck.
2007-12-18 01:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your missing another very important point. She's not worth keeping if she's going to run to another man when you fight. She's set the standard now as to what she's like. Evan if she did nothing with this guy this time, what happens the next time and the next? She'll go to other men to be comforted! Dump her and find a good woman willing to deal with her own problems, or talk to a girlfriend or a family member, but this girl has no devotion to your relationship. She'll cheat, you've learned it already. Don't stick around to let it happen again. Find a woman how will stand on her own two feet!
2007-12-18 01:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Billy Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust you don't have a relationship. If this is something you can't get past, its already over. Don't prolong the agony . Its certainly possible to "just take a nap" but that isn't the issue. When you assume, you make an *** of u and me. When you assume you accept you assumption as truth and stop looking for the truth. Do you want to be right or have the truth?
2007-12-18 01:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by gypsyhands 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't end it. Was it a daytime nap? And does she bring you around the roommate often? If so then I don't think you should end it. It's completely possible for a girl to sleep in a guys bed and nothing sexual will happen. If you feel comfortable with them being just friends, just forgive her and move on. But if this roommate ever becomes an issue after this point, then I would have to keep it movin...But as of now, sounds like it's fixable.
2007-12-18 01:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well considering the fact that they were former room mates, i would be okay. A room mate to me would be like a brother or sister since i had to live with them for a while.
But i guess it depends, was he there in the room with her?
I would not get mad over it, just let her know you were upset and hopefully it doesnt happen again
2007-12-18 01:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by ochoaj127 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on what she really did. If she just took a nap and nothing else, then there's no problem. She's not your property and you don't control her. But if she was up to something, then that's another matter.
2007-12-18 01:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brother, I would dump her in a heart beat. shes totally cheating on you. now a days, when they sleep over , they have s e x. i dont care how innocent she seems nor how much she denies it. you deserve better then that. I dumped my ex cause of certain things , she denies, but i dumped her anyway, for i would rather be with someone I deserve , instead of someone who i catch cheating later, then think 'well i sure waisted time with her". dump her, and no matter how many times she begs, do Not take her back bro.
2007-12-18 01:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she just took a nap, she took a nap. go ask your former room mate
2007-12-18 01:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by cecil 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do what you have to do. that's not fair that she went to someone else, b/c had you done that she would make a big deal about it. Tell how you feel. If she ignores it let her go.
2007-12-18 01:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by imthatgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋