We have been married for 7 months and my husband wants his brother to stay with us but his brother is a drunk.

Answer 1

You had better not allow the drunk to move in.
If your husband does this, you need to set a time limit for him being there... as in one month and he has to be out by "___ date". You should also put a keyed lock on your bedroom door (or at least your closet door) to keep this addict out of your stuff, lest he steal you blind.
You cannot trust an addict, because they will cheat, steal and lie to keep supporting their addiction... and have you supporting it too!

What my sister did to get rid of some freeloading relatives:
Stopped the cable TV and internet service. Had the phone company disallow all long distance phone calls. Put a lock box on the thermostat. And QUIT buying groceries... except maybe the bare minimum peanut butter and bread. They moved out.
You will have to get rid of any alcohol and cough syrup around the house, and seach to eliminate it from among his stuff. The tougher you make it for him to live there, the better.

Answer 2

Dear SweetPea,

You didn't mention why your husband wants his brother to stay at your place! Is it to help him control his drinking problem? Is he homeless and no place to stay? Where was he living before your husband invited him into your home? Did your husband address this issue with you in advance before he decided to do this? Does he know your against the idea? Does this man get crazy drunk? Like belligerent,
hostile,clumsy,moody.? If you answer yes to all the above. Then I would say NO DICE. Under no circumstances should you have to tolerate such behavior.
If he ends up moving in with you and you just can't take the atmosphere he helped create. Then this is the time I would call to my husband and tell him straight up. This man has got to go .If he doesn't tell him you will leave. And you won't come back until he is out of your house. Otherwise you might find this to start creating problems in your marriage. I don't think either one of you want to see this happen. Brother or not. Your spouse always comes before anyone.

Good Luck,

Sincerely,

Marseille

Answer 3

DO NOT DO THIS! I cannot imagine WHAT your husband is thinking! I had a brother-in-law who cost us a minimum of $300.00 every time he stepped through the door til my husband finally wised up and quit listening to his lies. He was always going to quit drinking... he never has...and has managed to mangle many lives along the way. Help is available for your BIL.... when he's been sober a year, you and your husband might think of inviting him over for dinner....til then...steer clear! Good luck to all of you!

Answer 4

You set the ground rules. You will call the police the first and every time there is any untoward behavior. If he is trying to help his brother get his life straighted out be supportive but you have the right to demand proper behavior. This is called tough love.

Answer 5

You say no: not unless he has a job and he pays half the rent and for half the groceries. He keeps his stuff picked up, does his own laundry, and when he dates, he does not bring the women into your home. He keeps his boozing under control or he sleeps in his car or the garage. Do NOT back down!

Answer 6

Organize an intervention.

At best he will get sober and live a healthy life. At worse, he will run away from the intervention and then the problem is solved.

Good luck.

Answer 7

How to get rid of him? Flirt with him in front of your husband. I hope you can stoop so low to do that with a drunk. Yukkkkk. But you got to do that to get what you want.

Answer 8

Tell him you think his brother is SOOOO hot! He'll rethink his decision!