Recently my spouses place of employment is having a Christmas party. Usually you take your spouse,right? He didn't invite me whatsoever, but tells me that he will be attending, how do I handle this situation, and how shouold I react?
2007-12-17 17:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by myse213 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think first thing you need to find out is if spouses were invited. It may just be an employee thing. Or maybe he thought you would be bored or uncomfortable. I guess it could be that hes embarrassed, but don't jump to that conclusion til you've asked him what the deal is.
I hope its just a misunderstanding, good luck.
2007-12-17 17:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Morley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of companies have cut back on the parties and many of them are not having spouses, just food at the office.
However, if it is big dinner dance in the evening, the spouses normally go, too.
Some options:
Maybe he's taking it for granted that you'll come - just ask what shall you where? if it's a dinner dance?
Get all dressed up and stop by with a box of See's candies or Christmas cookies for the co-workers right before the party.
Or if you find out it's a big party, just show up in your prettiest dress with hair done and a big smile to meet the boss.
Are you friendly with the secretary or any of his co-workers, you could casually make a comment..
Joy to you!
2007-12-17 21:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of reasons for this, but obviiously things have been rocky with you two for some time now. him going alone shouldnt bother you that he wanted to atttend his company christmas party alone, unless there is trouble at home and you suspect he is looking around.. but in turn he should have taken his spouse to the company party out of respect to his spouse. I can see where you are hurt by his decision, but the proper way to react right now is do nothing and just try your best to hold a smile and not a grudge and maybe soon you will get a explination as to why he did this.
2007-12-17 17:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by john d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him if the other spouses are going or is it just an inhouse party. Tell him that he hurt you by not asking you to go with him. Let him explain himself. Remember something dear one, 'Feelings are not right or wrong -they just 'are'. No one has a right to tell you 'you shouldn't feel a certain way' - the point is, you do! So you address that 'thing' that made you feel as you feel. I think you felt rejected. A husband should never make his wife feel rejected! He needs to sit down and listen to you and talk with you - not too you! His first priority should be you and your feelings. Don't let this go by. You questioned if your spouse was 'embarassed' - by who? You? God forbid! Love is not embarrassed! The husband is to love his wife as he loves his own body! If this is an issue, then the 'shortcoming' is with him - not you! As a result, if that is the case, you should be embarrassed FOR him...... He is immature and has a character flaw. Set this straight now. No anger....... just a commonsense talk. OK.
2007-12-17 17:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask if spouses were invited. Mention that you're free on that evening. Ask why didn't he invite you.
Here is a passive agressive way. Organize a girl's night out on that night. Make sure see knows and better yet sees you dress up.
2007-12-17 18:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you checked whether he can actually take a spouse along this year, it may have been the done thing in the past but perhaps he is not allowed to this year? I know my company did that this year, previously you have been allowed to take your other half but this year they said no, due to the cost of it.
2007-12-18 00:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He possibly has some surprise for you. Or you can give him one by planning something completely different for just the two of you. There may be other unsaid issues or is he protecting you from all the men at his workplace! Just talk to him about it or plan something just for you and your family without spoiling your Christmas and solve this issue later. Merry Christmas!
2007-12-17 17:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by mildew 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we'll never know unless you ask him, which is quite hard right?
maybe you could ask him in a nice way like...
"Hon(your endearment), are spouses allowed in your party?"
or you can call the office you are close with and ask if spouses are really allowed to come.
2007-12-17 17:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by << jaguar >> 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Melissa he is taking another woman that's why. I would show up at that party dressed all nicely like he has never seen me b4 and ruin his plans.
2007-12-17 17:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would want to know who he IS taking to the party?
2007-12-17 17:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tweety Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋