Please read this all before you say "stay in school". I'm 18, I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years. The first year was normal, and then she moved to Missouri (I'm in KY). We have been dating long distance since then, and see eachother about once a month. I am moving to Missouri after I graduate; if I graduate. I want to be a high school teacher. Currently my grades are a 37% and a 62% (I only have 2 classes because the rest of the day I'm working). I've had a 3.5 GPA the rest of high school. The main reasons I want to move are because I am suffering from anxiety and depression. This is because (1) my girlfriend is so far away, and (2) My father has puched me in the face and thrown me down on the ground until my brother and mother pull him off. He yells at me all the time saying I'll never be anything, I'm worthless, ugly, etc. All of this has happened multiple times, and I'm seeing a psychiatrist. Also, I have no friends at my school, but I do have 1 friend that lives here. My parents aren't going to help me with college, and because of my dad my grades are slipping away no matter how hard I try. Anyway, here's the deal: If I drop out I can move in with my girlfriends family for free. They will loan me money for a car which my parents wouldn't. Also, I wont be so alone. I wont have to deal with the abuse from my dad. I can get off my meds from the psychiatrist. I already have a job if I moved there. I'll get a GED. I'll go to a community college for 2 years, then transfer to a state University and finish getting a teaching degree. When I become a teacher I will be able to relate to kids, especially those dealing with abuse. I know people say dropping out its "stupid" but if I don't I will be stuck here, alone for the rest of this year, still dealing with the abuse. My grades will continue to slip and I may not graduate at all. Then I'll have to get a GED anyway. So, what are your oppinions on this?
2007-12-17 17:16:39 · 12 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hormones = Bad
You're going to want to get into a safe environment, but do not drop out of school, or you will regret it.
The only good situation would be if you could get into a trade that didn't req a Deploma, if you drop out, but I wouldn't recommend it.
Working too much and choosing it over school is a mistake, you can work all you want, but school is a short oppertunity. Sorry I can't be of more help but it's up to you.
2007-12-17 17:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I know that you just want to leave and never look back at all the horrible stuff that has happened to you. You have every right to feel the way you do, but are you sure that you are ready to move so far away and start a relationship with this girl? Prepare yourself first. If things don't work out with you and her what will be your next move? Think about what you need to do just in case. While you are deciding what you are going to do try to find a family member where you are at and see maybe you can stay there until you decide what is best for you. The next time you dad puts his hands on you, as hard as it is, call the cops. Don't let him push you around any more. You deserve to be happy and so does the rest of your family. Let him know that there will be consequences if he does. If your schooling is not working out and there is no way to fix it then move to the next level and get your GED. Don't let anything or anyone hold you back. You keep moving forward, through all the bumps in the road. You will be happy you did. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-12-18 01:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your dilemma...it seems that the problem is your home life. If you move away, you can focus on being in a more positive environment.
You are 18. Why do you need to drop out of school? Just transfer to a different high school near your GF's family. It is still early enough in the year. If your GF's family will let you live with them, great. However, I would still get a part time job to help pay expenses. Get your HS diploma and move onto community college or a university. Good luck and stay focused.
2007-12-18 01:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Devil's Advocate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you still stay in school but you do it where your girl lives. Your 18 and can transfer to the school there. If your a senior you don't have much time left. Move and try to enjoy the rest of your senior year. Prove that you will be worth something.. prove your dad wrong.
2007-12-18 01:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by froggygirl_1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one....... There is no way you could maybe go to a charter or alternative school where your girlfriend lives? Just transfer out there?!?!? --- I would say "stay in school" until I read on......... That is tricky an this one I think you should listen to your heart... I am sure you are a fine man... an your old man needs help.... I am proud of you that you are taking actions in your own hands by getting help by a psychiatrist. =) Listen to your heart... I think maybe you should try an transfer to a highschool out there!?!? Or is that out of the question?!?!
Good luck to you!!
&& God Bless!!!!!!!! â¥
2007-12-18 01:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate the thought of you dropping out in your senior year. I mean you've made it this far, you don't have much longer. Rather that dropping out I would see if you can transfer to a school where your girlfriend lives. That way you can have your cake and eat it too!
2007-12-18 01:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Izzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you enroll in the high school where your girlfriend lives? Just transfer there and finish your senior year while living at her house. Then graduate and do the rest of your plans.
2007-12-18 01:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by suigeneris-impetus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting a ged, then community college, and state university might sound easy, but it's very hard, and just imagine if you break up with your girlfriend, where else can you go?
just hang in there buddy and finish high school, and get the hell away from that place you were never liked.
2007-12-18 01:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by HanZ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move with the girlfriend and transfer there. You can finish your senior year and then go to college.
2007-12-18 03:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stick with your plans to be a teacher.if you drop out you have a less of a Chance of your dreams. the GED test is harder then high school.I drop out my self and re grate doing it.i mist out on a lot of things like graduating with my class and friends.it is essy to say ill get my GED.
2007-12-18 02:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋