pop by my best friend that was living in are house . he has no job, no car, no money, and i have a good job and all i did was love her and gave her the world that she dream of and her 2 kids a big home , a room for each of her kids a new car and she don't need to work . and she run away from me to live in a garage with my best friend .
2007-12-17 17:10:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
good riddance
2007-12-17 17:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♠Mrs Reznor♠ 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It seems you are a possessive person. You want fame by accumulating wealth and wealth related materials such as big house, cars, etc. Have you ever asked her what she loves the most. You also got two kids out of your relationship.
Please ask yourself you had ever love her sincerely. If the answer is yes or no then you have the solution.
She did a wrong thing leaving you and live with your loafer friend. But who is responsible for that..l. you only cent percent because you first gave him the shelter to show ur magnanimity.
You should hv, if at all you wish, helped him by providing him a job that can take care of his requirements. Instead of that, you invited trouble by keeping him at your home - leaving him alone all the time with your wife and there is nothing wrong she fell in love and ran away. Whether she lives with him in a garage doesn't matter to them rather than to you the most. Once she comes back to normalcy after enjoying the sex (only) life with him she will definitely come back. Please bring her home as and when she wishes of her own to come back to you to look after you and kids sincerely. Till then leave it to God. Then you get the purest of the pure love from her.
2007-12-17 18:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You missed the point.
She did not CARE for all the material BS.
She wanted intimacy, care, love, understanding, closeness, emotional support, to be with you forever, never to wait for your coming home, you are there when she needed you, protector, be a man around the house, take the dog for walk, take the kid to the ball park on a Sunday, go pray together in the church, mow the lawn, fix the sink in the kitchen, vacuum the house, clean the dishes, taste the food she cooks, give her opinion on her cooking, compliment her on her dress, her hairdo, her looks, shall I go on.???
Ask me to stop whenever you want.
This list is long. Ever notice in my list all those things you mentioned that you gave her are absent?
Wake up buster. I am a man. I will admit that women are hard to understand. People yeons ago tried to understand them and gave up. Those were very intelligent people. I do not even stand a chance.
No wonder she left you. Go get another woman and do all the things I told you.
Good luck
2007-12-17 17:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a messed up situation. When I read what you wrote all that I hear are material things that come you are mad about. I do not think that is right the way she went about it but mabey there was no affection, romance, open communication or listening. I am married and I love my husband he is a great provider and a wonderful father but when there is no intimacy physically,mentally or emotional that is when the breaks go on. I do not think any one deserves what she has done to you regaredless of the situation at home. but no communication or mis communication #1 in Divorce and Break ups
2007-12-17 17:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by irene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, you have a big problem.
Suggestions:
1. Hire a good detective to document the issue
2. Hire a good lawyer to represent and guide you. Do 1 and 2 at the same time.
3 If you dont do the above, leave her on a short allowance and find a hottie of your own.
2007-12-17 17:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by d m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When will men learn that women (most of us) could care less about material things. If a man in a garage is loving her like she deserves then she would much rather be with him. Money is not a substitute for love and affection. Ask her what YOU need to do to make her happier.
AND she could also be a money-grubbing w h o r e. using you for $$$ and him for the s e x.
Either way find out and do what you need to do about it!!
2007-12-17 17:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lolliebums 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't see it coming, she never gave you warning signs ?I'm sorry your wife did that to you you sound like a man any woman would want.You married a woman who thinks only of herself but i think you know that by now. She will want you back when the fire burns out and it will it always does. That's when she will come to her senses and come running back to you and everything you gave her. I sure hope you don't take her back because if you do she will start to walk over you again. Giving a woman everything she wants isn't always the best thing to do because she knows all she needs to do is sweet talk you. Haven't you ever heard women like bad boys,why do you think that is? Bad boys won't let us walk on them and we don't always get our way but it does keep it interesting. Give us an inch and we WILL take a mile.
2007-12-17 17:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you've been betrayed by your wife and your best friend.
What they did was wrong but you can only learn from what they did and grow from it. Karma comes back to those who deserve it.
What you need to do is realize the relationship with her is over, it's time for a divorce, and that your friendship with this guy is done... neither of them loved or respected you enough. If she loved you and cared about you she wouldn't have cheated to begin with. And if he cared about you and considered you his friend, he never would have done anything with your wife, knowing that's a no-no.
This is probably a huge disappointment for you but you'll have to get away from both of them. Confide in family, friends, and possibly a therapist in order to recover and heal from the hurt they've caused you.
2007-12-17 17:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
an affair with problems in a marriage after sometime is one thing but running off with another guy after only 3 months of marriage...it sounds like lust and irresponsibility. she had 2 kids before u, shes a whore....based on these facts alone i think u should divorce her....
2007-12-17 17:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that is really horrible for you indeed, well at least you found out now only 3 months into the marriage, at least you don't have children together (by the sounds of it they are hers and not yours together) just be thankful, and be proud of yourself for all that you have done, you are way too good for her, and there is light at the end of the tunnel, you will find a lady who will love you for who you are not what you have, chins up and good luck and all the best :) :) :)
2007-12-17 17:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, It sounds like you mad (you have every right to be), But know it's time to move on. I don't know how your relationship with your wife is but she broke that vow to you by cheating on you!!! Also what a ***** to screw around with you friend. It sound like to me that she only cares about herself and not you or your kids. I would concentrate on your job and kids and try to move on. Good luck, I'm sorry for your troubles
2007-12-17 20:55:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋