both of our parents invtied us to them for Christmas....i dont know what to do..?? i dont was either of them to get upset..and its our first Christmas together, married.. What did you do?????????
2007-12-17 17:51:59 · 22 answers · asked by my angel is 2 1/2 now:) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Explain to both that you have to call at the other place as well and then divide your time between them.
Hopefully, they will understand. Don't let it cause an argument between you then.
2007-12-17 17:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by Put on your boxing gloves boys! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your parents that your very first Christmas ever together has been planned as a "new husband and wife" celebration. Then, two choices: a.) offer one day close to Christmas for each set of parents. b.) Ask both sets of parents to join the new bride and groom for a "new family" Christmas on a day close to the holiday that's agreeable to all three families.
2007-12-18 02:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by chalkduster74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first christmas when I got married was complicated. We spent christmas eve with my parents, then went home and had christmas morning in out home. We went to his parents house around noon on christmas day and spent time with his family.
Sure, we missed some stuff with both families, but you have to compromise. Spend time with both, and make time for jsut the two of you as well.
2007-12-18 01:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have Christmas at your house and invite them all to come there. IMO once a new family is begun it's time for the old folks to adapt themselves to the new family's routine especially once the grandkids come along. Running back and forth to other houses and trying to fit everyone in so there are no hurt feelings is simply ridiculous. Tell them to come to your house and you can even ask them to bring part of the dinner because "no one cooks xxxx like you do, mom." That should do it.
Congrats on being newlyweds and may this be the biggest problem you ever encounter in your marriage.
2007-12-18 01:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by RandomAct 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sure is late to be just now figuring this out....
explain that this is your first Christmas married and you want to spend the day togeather.
tell both sets of parnts you are willing to share the EVE with them...
Spend half Christmas Eve with one and the other half with other....
spend Christmas Day with your spouse.
2007-12-18 02:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by MonMon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend half the day with one parent and the other half of the day with the other parent. But if you think that's gonna cause a problem just stay home with your spouse and visit your parents the following day.
2007-12-18 01:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Thang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's tougher if they are not in the same state but we spent Christmas evening with my folks and Christmas morning/day with her folks...or vice versa. Either way it worked out really well! Good luck!
2007-12-18 01:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by sivdog21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1/2 a day with one the other half with the other parent.
2007-12-18 01:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by jalady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
easy did this for years go to one parents on christmas eve the other on christmas day
2007-12-18 01:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents will understand.
If they chose to split, then they have to realize that it will be difficult to expect to be treated as if they were united.
In every relationship gone bad, everyone has to suffer, in one way or another.
I used to worry about pleasing both parents.
I used to care about whose feeling get hurt.
After the breakup, everyone gets hurt.
Christmas time just reminds us again of these pains.
2007-12-18 02:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋