Family & Relationships - 4 December 2007

My girlfriend and I are at odds with each other...She wants a wedding that is going to cost about 10K easily. I think that money would be better spent on getting a house. I have been married before and had a wedding (3k in costs), this will be her first time. I have offered alternative wedding plans to her such as a deffered wedding on our anniversary date, small intimate ceremony, etc. She has no money saved up..I have about 25k in savings. She has dreamed about a wedding all her life and a nice house as well...but there will be no house if we have an expensive wedding. Am I being unreasonable about not having her dream wedding?

2007-12-04 05:03:16 · 36 answers · asked by inet_cadet 1 in Weddings

Story: I started seeing this guy in July & fell head over heels. Things went well for a long distance relationship we were both happy until Oct. We had stormy times, & broke up at his request. I was devistated. We have not seen each other for 6 wks. He wanted to be just friends - I thought it would be too hard. But after two weeks agreed it was better than not having him in my life at all. We e-mailed, talked on the phone, etc since Thanksgiving.

Problem: He wants to be "just friends" and told me to move on. I had a date last week, while he knew I was out, he sent me 4 e-mails and was still on-line when I got home, said he couldn't sleep thinking of me with another guy. Okay, so I think he's wanting to be more than friends again. Last night while I was at work, he sent me a text asking how I was. We texted back and forth on my way home from work.

This morning I get an e-mail asking me not to contact him ever again?

What does he want from me?

We're 40ish, not kids!

2007-12-04 05:01:21 · 8 answers · asked by Tauri Athena 2 in Singles & Dating

What do you think? We seem to have great chemistry and have a lot in common. I know my family is ok with it except my older brother. Any advice?

2007-12-04 05:01:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

And instead want to just spend their lives with someone? Don't they know that legal marriage is not a sign of true commitment? I mean hello, look at the rates of divorce and infidelity. How can people believe that the married man who cheats on his wife throughout the marriage is more committed than the man who doesn't get married but remains faithful to his non-legal spouse simply because the guy is married? I'm just curious because I see a lot of negative responses when heterosexual people ask about commitment ceremonies and things like that.

2007-12-04 05:01:02 · 9 answers · asked by TresJolie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-04 05:00:38 · 32 answers · asked by sweetie23 2 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend has about 15 videos downloaded on his computer plus about 2 full pages saved into his favorites on the web browser. plus he watches it daily on a forum he is registered to.. the forum ones he looks at even when i'm sitting right next to him. as soon as theyre posted he checks it out. is this a normal amount for guys or could he be a little obsessive? the porn itsself isnt whats bothering me, it's the amount that he has.

2007-12-04 05:00:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-04 04:59:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-04 04:53:30 · 13 answers · asked by ShadowW_99 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It feels like you reached in and grabbed our hearts and step on them. It physically and emotionally hurts another human being.

How about the rest of you that has been cheated on. Tell us how you felt.

2007-12-04 04:51:09 · 17 answers · asked by Babe 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been w/ my husband for 11 years. He has always been considered the black sheep of his family. When he was a teenager he did some things to deserve this, but now he is respectable, has a good job and a nice family of his own. However, my mother-in-law, father-in-law, sisters-in-law and brother-in-law treat us very badly. They make snide remarks, don't invite us out with them and don't treat our children as fairly as the other grandchildren. I wish we could just write them off and have nothing to do with them, but my husband sticks up for them and for some reason feels he deserves this for what he put them through as a kid. This leads to many fights between us. I hate to see them treat my husband and now me and my kids this way. We only see them on holidays and birthdays, but with Christmas soon approaching I am beginning to dread it. How can I make it through? Should I say something, if so, what can I say that won't uspet my husband?

2007-12-04 04:46:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Guys, I'm afraid that the feeling will not be as pleasurable as before. Guys. Share your experience. Will this affect my marriage?

If I buy a condom at last, should I buy a banana flavour or strawberry flavour instead of a normal condom?

2007-12-04 04:44:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't smoke pot and I'm not around it at all but the other day I went to visit my brother and his friends were smoking pot in his apartment. I made them go on the other side of the room and turn on the fan as I have a drug test to take in the next 72 hours so I need some help...how likely is it that I could fail the drug test from secondhand smoke?

2007-12-04 04:44:32 · 13 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Singles & Dating

when someone likes you?

2007-12-04 04:44:30 · 3 answers · asked by Crystal B 2 in Singles & Dating

my first year wedding anniversary is one week before christmas, what do I give my husband? one big present for both occasions? two big presents because it's our first wedding anniversary? What do guys like, he's so picky!

2007-12-04 04:43:57 · 4 answers · asked by Priscilla A. 1 in Weddings

Or do you think it would eventually turn sexual?

2007-12-04 04:43:01 · 16 answers · asked by Kim 6 in Friends

Ladies. When a couple is arguing, why can't the man ever seem to win? No matter what the man says, the woman always proves that he is wrong. However, if he agrees and says, "Yes Dear. You are right.", he appears to be either weak or just not wanting to hear her scream. What is a man supposed to do?

2007-12-04 04:41:48 · 37 answers · asked by K Dragon 1 in Singles & Dating

Im 20 own my own home, work am about to graduate college. I started dating my high school boyfriend (its been about 4yrs). We are great together, engaged and he moved in with me. But my parents HATE him because they think that he will never make much $ and they are very materialistic and they think his family is under us because his mom doesnt work and are lower middle class, but live in the same neighborhood my parents house is in and theirs is even nicer! My mom just moved back to the area and is trying to stay with me to be closer to her job, but I cant tell her my bf lives with me and Im so scared shell find out, so I keep making excuses y she cant come by. Shes lived out of state for 3yrs Im not used to her being around by how can I get her to let me grow up, she is putting so much extra strain on my life because I just cant open up to her, Ive been out of the house since 17 and they treat me the same as when I lived there they act like no time has past.

2007-12-04 04:40:17 · 11 answers · asked by sarah 5 in Family

My boyfriend and I have been together 6 years. In that time, naturally, his friends have become mine and vice versa. At the least, we all get along. However, one couple we know (friends that were his before our relationship) seem not to include me in their friendship. They just had kids and so, they don't really hang out anymore. So, he'll go to their house for dinner spontaneously. But, I only hear of it after the fact. The latest is, they sent him an invitation to their party. I usually get mine in the mail the same day, but did not. I moved a year ago. The excuse will be that they don't have my new address. They didn't ask for it either. When I mention this strangeness to my boyfriend, he says that there's no diabolical reason behind it. Still, I can't help but feel like they just... dismiss my existence. The relationship my boyfriend and I have is great. This isn't about him - it's them. I just need a way to put this in perspective. How should I deal with this?

2007-12-04 04:38:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For my Bridal Shower and Rehearsal Dinner. The Rehearsal Dinner is going to be very casual, BBQ and such. The Bridal Shower however is going to be a little nicer. I have no idea what to wear.

2007-12-04 04:38:25 · 17 answers · asked by bella_babe_86 3 in Weddings

What to do? Sometimes I think he is trying to get me pregnant for a way out of his marrige. I don't want a baby I just want him. He said before he came to see me that it was his last time coming over. He has said this before plenty of times. I just ignore it? Maybe he is trying to get me to fight over him. I don't know? I really want things like they use to be. WHAT TO DO

2007-12-04 04:38:13 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok.. Me and My wife were dating for 2 years and have been married for another 2.. a total of 4 years. we have a 19 month old daughter.. Shes 23 and i am 20(please know that the age difference doesnt matter as i am more mature than most men older then me) .SO here is the situation over the past 6 mothns my wifes been acting different towards me.. i felt like she didnt wanna be with me and i approached her about it in a nice civilize way.. We spoke and she told me that she doesnt know if she still love me anymore.. She told me is not my fault because i am a nice guy and a great dad and that i support her and i listen to her when shes speaks....we are financially stabled. and i help around the house alot, Since i get off one hour before she does from work i pick up my daughter and go home to cook... She told me that she tells her mind that she wants to be with me but that her body tells her differently...She says that sometimes her body rejects me and that she doesnt know why...

2007-12-04 04:36:55 · 22 answers · asked by Lp2287 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok I gave my friend a note to tell give to him that I REALLY REALLY liked him. And when he recieved it...he blushed and walked away. I still get a feelings that is a bad sign :/ I'm scared if I told him too soon cause he WAS surprised about the letter. I'm worried he will try to avoid me or act differently now and we won't be able to talk :( HELP!?!?

2007-12-04 04:36:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you had a partner that was faithful to you, let you manage all their money, and treated you like a queen/king. Would you be willing to except them telling ALL your business (except sex) to their opposite sex friends(including ex's). Would you be willing to honor your partners view that as long as they give you actions and give them words, and as long as their coming home to you every night it shouldnt matter.....Or would this make you feel like nothing's sacred??

2007-12-04 04:35:57 · 7 answers · asked by RelentlessOne 2 in Singles & Dating

He is 32 and still rents a roon in a shared house

he goes on the sunbeds more than any female i know and asked me if I thought he was naturally that brown..when i said i didnt really think about him that often he went quiet.

He called me a witch both when he was drunk and sober..he walked in from work and he said to the pet rabbit whilst i was stood there "did the witch not feed you"

He broke up with his girlfriend and has taked over 2 weeks off work he said he has a bug but was well enough to go to the gym and for a sunbed- and then moaned that he would get in trouble when he goes back to work???

what do you think!!

2007-12-04 04:35:30 · 7 answers · asked by racheal m 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I... we are like inseperable. He is like my other half and I have no idea where I would be without him in my life. We talk on the phone until around three in the morning or later every night. That is the problem. We are talking to much and are running out of really good things to talk about. And- I am severely lacking sleep. Sometimes, like right at the moment, I feel like my body is just going to crash. It is hard to be aware of my suroundings. It is also showing in my school work. He is 17 and I am going to be 15 in a few days. What is a good approach on how to talk about this with him and how to end the phone call?

2007-12-04 04:34:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been with my boyfriend 5 years nearly and I thought I really loved him. I would of done anything for him. Recently he has started to doubt me and says he doesnt trust me. Everytime I go out he will casue arguments which ruins my nights out. To add to this mess a lad from work has started to pay me a lot of attention, he tells me he is not happy with his partner and he always compliments me and I think I have totally fallen for this guy, I have tried not to but I cant help it. I seriously dont know what to do, I cant get this situation out of my head. It feels to me as if I have grown up in our relationship and my boyfriend is still a little boy. I have told him how I feel and he says he knows it is him, but I really dont know what I can do? Please help

2007-12-04 04:33:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have recently re-connected with this guy that I really like. We have talked a couple of times. However, when I asked if he has a girlfriend, his answer was "ya", and then after that, he stopped talking to me. What just happened???

2007-12-04 04:33:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I fancy a boy in my class and i don't really know how to approach him as I am not the most confident person in the world. I have never had a boyfriend before- please help! (I am 15 by the way!)

2007-12-04 04:32:42 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How many women or your girlfriends have ever had sex for money or other favors? Be Honest Please. Everyone is not completely innocent.

2007-12-04 04:31:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know she likes me because everyone says she talks the world of me when I'm not around. Nothing has gone wrong or is going wrong in our relationship, but I still worry because I've never had a relationship work out as well as this one. It is almost to good to be true, but it is true. Ahhhh, I'm going insane. Please email your reply to krobertw@hotmail.com

2007-12-04 04:30:20 · 20 answers · asked by Kyle West 1 in Singles & Dating