Family & Relationships - 5 December 2007

I admit I do not help with any work at home. My wife does it all and she does work full time. I work 4 days a week and have the option of working any overtime I want. My wife on the other hand does have to drive around 500 miles a week to/from work while my commute totals about 80 per week. She also makes a lot less than me. She sat down with me & gave me some options that I don't like but she is being stubborn. Either I start pitching in and helping on my days off OR she is quitting work and I can work 2 days of overtime a month which will make up for what she was bringing home. She says that it would beneift us more if she stopped working and I worked 2 extra days because it would cut back on insurance since the mileage would go down & with the cost of gas right now it is eating into what she makes. But she said she would keep working only if I help around here. I work hard at my job (physical) & I don't want to work at home on my days off & I don't want to work overtime. Am I wrong?

2007-12-05 23:57:06 · 39 answers · asked by Love_to_Fish 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was asking someone if she's ok with what i will do and that was the reply.

2007-12-05 23:52:09 · 5 answers · asked by bing 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok theres this guy that Ive secretly liked for a while and then he asked me out. And my friends probably wouldnt approve of him...Im not sure though...And I really want to say yes... And my mother also doesnt even know that I think about boys, she thinks Im still in 1st grade and thinks boys are icky! But Im a really boy crazy person. So should I say yes to him. Or no?

2007-12-05 23:44:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-05 23:42:26 · 24 answers · asked by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My mother has heard horror stories about nursing homes. Her hairdresser said she has to go every evening to feed her mother as the staff doesn't have time. Some friends said the more visitors you have the better care you get. Another person told her if you always have candy or cookies to pass out to the staff they come in your room more often to "check on you". Mom is afraid that when the time comes she will be neglated or abused. How do we answer her? The few visits we've had to different homes we've seen people sitting around in chairs staring at walls or appearing to be doped up.

2007-12-05 23:42:14 · 6 answers · asked by twin_fawn_acres 2 in Family

so do you guys get super turn-on when you see pretty girls strutting in heels?haha,just want some opinions.

2007-12-05 23:39:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my mom said i am mean because im not spending much on my daughter this xmas because she has lost 3 mobil phones i have brought 4 her .i warned her that if she lost the last 1 she would have the value deducted from her xmas money...iv done it caus i think she has 2 learn that it all costs me money.........i feel bad but feel i have 2 stick 2 my guns........so what do you think?.......and my daughter is 10!

2007-12-05 23:39:15 · 36 answers · asked by me&my girl 1 in Family

guys, ar brainy women more attractive to you or its just the physical look that matters?

2007-12-05 23:39:08 · 27 answers · asked by anfy 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay, this is an extension to an earlier question.
Some background: I'm 22 years old and after I finished college, I started working at a newspaper in my home town. The rule in my home is that you do not move out unless you're married or working in another town/city. So now I'm staying at my parent's house. I feel this is the best until I find my feet. I've already applied for other jobs in another city. This shows my need to get out of my parents' house. My sister is 6 years older than me. She has a great job and an even better salary.
Now the problem: She's also still staying at my parents's house. She refuses to leave!!! I mean, I can't wait to get out, and she wants to stay there. And that's not all. She earns almost three times the amount I am, but she's forever borrowing money from my mom. AND... never pays back!!! How can I kick her out of the nest without hurting her feelings... or her butt.

2007-12-05 23:36:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We have been seperated for a year now, she get maintenance and extras frm me to keep the house and children.
I also do favors and do more than my share regaurding child care.
The other day she got stropy with me for not doing mainenance work ( bathroom lights not working and a problem with a tap ) This year I painted 200ft of fence with hardley any reconition for this.
Do you think I should pay mainetenance and do all the repair work to the house ?
Or should she get a man in to dothe work ?
What should I do ?

2007-12-05 23:34:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

They gave told her to hire an attorney and that they would send him the money for court.....she is not good with money so they sent it directly to him. We are court ordered to pay an amount every month and have cancelled checks showing what we pay. My question is this....since she lied, are we going to be able to recoup the court costs and attorney fees for this? This is not the first time she has pulled this.....$1,000 - at Christmas time no less......realy very wrong.

2007-12-05 23:31:37 · 14 answers · asked by Ali C 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-05 23:31:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Here's the deal: when I'm with my usual friends or people I know well, I'm always talkative, outgoing, etc. and they absolutely love me.

But when friends try to introduce me to some of their other friends or when just meeting new people in general, I get incredibly shy. I won't talk until someone talks to me, and even then I reply with boring answers.

That /really/ bugs me because I come off as a really boring person and I'm not actually like that.

So how do I cure this curse?

2007-12-05 23:21:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-05 23:20:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hi I have been married for 2 years and my husband has being married before,
when he divorced his wife they had some outstanding debts she had a personal loan of 8,000 and they had a joint loan together of 30,000 my husband said he would keep up the payments on the joint loan, this was not listed in the divorce it was just a mutual agreement noting was said about her loan as it was in her name.

he pays csa to his ex which she only receives £10 per week of as she is on benefits (which really does my head in ) as we pay nearly £400 per month!!

Anyway yesterday we received a ltter from her solicitor saying that she had being sent a letter by a debt collection company for the outstanding amount which she has told the solicitor my husband agreed to pay and they now want the money from us!!!
They have being divorced for nearly 5 years he never agreed to that can they really make us pay it??? I can't believe she has done this as we all get on well now she has blown that for good.

2007-12-05 23:14:44 · 10 answers · asked by shala 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been told on several occastions, that I don't give a person a chance to finish his or her story. Its like I don't even realize I'm doing this, and I do try very hard to listen before speaking.

2007-12-05 23:09:24 · 7 answers · asked by onyx 1 in Friends

Do they believe in destiny? Do they have any regard of a plan ? Or, Do they just go with the flow of life?

2007-12-05 23:01:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-05 22:56:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Everytime I have a problem with school or with a boyfriend, I've never been able to talk to my mom. Honestly, I think it's easier to talk to a complete stranger. I can go to her crying and asking for advice and either a.) She walks away, shaking her head or b.) says "Christina, What exactly do you expect me to do about it.?" My mom has never been the one to "show" love, but she provides us with the things we need so I guess I shouldn't complain, but there is so many things that I have concerns about and I know she is busy with four kids and two jobs. She does make me feel like one less kid (me) might make it easier. I'm 16 and I do have another place to stay, but she keeps me around for who-knows-what. I'm not whining but I feel like I'm in the way like a problem child. <--( whole different subject itself).. I just don't know what to do anymore, I have gave up trying to talk to her.

2007-12-05 22:43:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I always get her perfumes/bath and body stuff and I want to get something else. Something unique or creative maybe? I'm on a college student budget...up to $40-ish dollars maybe. Any good ideas?

2007-12-05 22:39:56 · 11 answers · asked by Nole't 1 in Family

we are friends... i wont say we are a couple but just hanging around and stuff.. and he wants me to meet his family .. is this a good thing? is it a sign that he want to pursue more than being friends.

sorry i'm not really good at relationships and stuff
thanks

2007-12-05 22:34:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We are three children. My sis, the eldest, is 28 years old and my brother is two years younger than me, making him 20. From an early age, I have learnt to share everything with my bro. We were kind of brought up as twins - being treated equally. But he was just spoiled more, being my parents' only son and the youngest to boot. That has never been a problem for my sis and I and we spoiled him also. However, recently things have changed. He always gets his way, whether it's my car, money or just the tv. When we complained to my parents, they tried to punish him if he forces his way. But I fear it was in vain. He just continues doing what he wants. Now they have started to emotionally punish him, calling him names and stuff, and my sis also participates in this. I've tried the reasonal approach but nothing seems to work.
Please help

2007-12-05 22:27:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-05 22:10:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a loving and caring boyfriend but I wish to be with my ex just one more time should I or not

2007-12-05 22:07:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Things haven't been going well recently, she caught me cheating with a younger woman and I think that the trust between us has been damaged in some way. The sex has never been great between us, although she does her best to keep up. This is what probably made me look elsewhere in the first place (am I being unreasonable?). I’m thinking of doing something to put the WOW factor back into our relationship but I’m having difficulty deciding what would be best. Any suggestions?

2007-12-05 22:01:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay get your minds out of the gutter. I'm wondering about diamonds!

I'll be purchasing an engagement ring here soon and I'm dreading it. It's not because I don't want to get married, it's just that the price of diamonds seems so grossly overexaggerated.

Anyhow, I would like to get a colorless of near colorless very good to ideal cut ston that's VS2 or better. Considering that this would be a fairly high quality diamond what size is a good size? Is under a carat too small for an engagement ring?

I want to make sure that I get my soon to be fiance something she will be proud of and happy with for years to come, but I want to make sure that I can still cover my mortgage and all of the bills.

2007-12-05 22:00:59 · 16 answers · asked by Wasting Time 2 in Weddings

...date a girl who likes skateboarding and rock?yes/no/maybe?why?

2007-12-05 22:00:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I went out on Friday and a stranger guy approached me and gave me his number. He seemed decent/nice and cute... I talked to him on the phone today and he seemed nice. He said he's 30 years old... even though he looked younger and I'm 18... and he said he's attracted to me and that's why he gave me his number. Is it a good idea to go out with him? I never went out with anyone before. Should I do it? And to those who just say no... please think that no men approached me before especially my age... I never dated and I'm pissed off that the the boys my age always stare at me and sometimes smile but they never ask me out. He seems decent and cute... He told me he never approached a girl like that before and that he thought I was beautiful and he didn't know what made him approach me but something pushed him.. So should I go out with him?

2007-12-05 21:58:18 · 17 answers · asked by Seductive Girl 1 in Singles & Dating

a friend of a friend lent me twenty pound a while ago, they knew i had no money and only lent me it because they wanted my friend to come out and I couldnt go cos i was skint (my other mate wouldnt go without me) she has been being funny with me and now eventually asked for it back - i had totally forgot and have twenty pound to last me till the 20th, this girl always gets money off her boyf and even laughs about that. do i pay it back or make her wait?

2007-12-05 21:56:59 · 10 answers · asked by sharon you 1 in Friends

My mom is coming over and she will see our new T.V. . She will have nothing but snotty remarks about the t.v. and anything else we would buy that she doesn't feel is important. How do I handle this ..Tactfully when I am almost 30 years old ..even if she doesn't say anything right away she will bring it up later or sigh and roll her eyes!!!

2007-12-05 21:56:18 · 9 answers · asked by halburg 1 in Family