Family & Relationships - 9 December 2007

ive been married 4yrs. icant stop thinking about a man i work with, everything that annoys me about my husband is what this man is what i want my husband to be. my husband is bipolar and is cranky and moody IS CONSTANTLY yelling at me but at other times he is so sweet, funny and caring.they are both so alike except the other man doesent have these dark moods. we are constantly flirting and i think he wants it to go further. my husband gets turned on by the thought of other men sleeping with me and talks about it when we have sex but i dont know wether he really wants it or if it is just a fantasy he thinks about but doesent want to do. i really want to have sex with this guy but i dont know wether to tell my husband or have an affair. im scared he might be ok with it but then use it against me if he gets depressed and wants to lash out at me. i love my husband but his moods are starting to depress me and i just want to be happy wich the other man makes me feel whenever together.help me

2007-12-09 23:59:43 · 22 answers · asked by so confused 1 in Marriage & Divorce

hmm..what should i do???he said he loves me but i dont have the same feelings for him,..so what i did is i said no..now,,he's totally ignoring me,but i want us to be friends...

is there any solution for that??T_T

2007-12-09 23:58:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i wanna go to the movies after skool with my friends..... and the movie starts at 5:30p.m and ends at 7:30pm........ my parents are not alowin me to go and it sucks....even one of my frens calld and told my mum that i wod b safe and that her mum is gonna drop me off wen we finish the movie..........but instead my mum got angry at me and is still not allowin me to go.....wat shod i do ....???.... plzz help...........

2007-12-09 23:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

her sons father is seeing son after 6 years of never seeing him after being put in jail for non child support. now he says he wants her back and is calling her and he don't have job and he dont get to drive and he is a bad lier all the time over silly things like i was shot in the war and never been in it. now he is wanting relationship with her and trying to get her back, but, has nothing to offer her and the son. how do you break it to the girl he is doing it cause he has no job and is just doing it more then likely for not having child support. the son will learn how to lie like his dad too. so is it a good ideal to take him back or run from it? and what is the best way to explain it to her?

2007-12-09 23:52:26 · 4 answers · asked by daisy 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I live in a share house with 2 fellas, one of them - Jim - moved in here with me a few years ago and the lease is in our name, and between us we own the contents of the house (ie, furniture,etc). Anyway, we had a new guy - Todd - move in a few months ago and try as we might we JUST DON'T LIKE HIM, there are so many reasons for this but basically its his personality.
How do we tell him to move out???? We don't want to offend him or have an arguement about it but the fact that we are getting rid of him says we don't like him anyway!
Although I can't stand him I try to make it work but Jim is finding it difficult to pretend.
What would you do!

2007-12-09 23:50:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I live in NYC, and when I go out on weekends to meet women, it is such effort and I get rejected all the time. I'm actually a good looking guy too. I'm 30 years old. But when I travel outside of the US to Latin America, girls are all over me. Hot girls. It's like, why am I still here? Because I guess I can't make any money down there. This whole situation makes me crazy. Please provide me with some input.

2007-12-09 23:45:28 · 3 answers · asked by Scorpio 1 in Singles & Dating

anyone in pinellas county florida! i'm going for sole custody of 7yr old daughter. ex is abusive alcoholic...i have 8 police reports (domestic violence, 1 battery w/daughter present) photos, several witnesses, and police testimony. he was also hospitalized for severe alcoholism. now he is out of state and left my old residence abandoned..he is seeking sole custody also b/c i will not let my daughter speak w/him. he has been abusive to her in the past as well, and continues to be abusive and controlling towards me. i also have 2 dvi's (dropped due to promises to go to rehab) on him also...what are my chances for sole custody??? he never gave a damn about his daughter.

2007-12-09 23:44:09 · 4 answers · asked by lisa c 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfirend of 8 mo. has asked me to marry him like 3 to 4 times now. everytime he does i question him on if he is for real. he says yes then says no i am just joking. he has even told me that he keeps asking because i do not answer him. the one night i did answer him we had been drinking and i dont know if he remembers or not. what my questions is do you think he is really wanting to marry me. please let me know what you think.

2007-12-09 23:39:48 · 24 answers · asked by maraloves 3 in Singles & Dating

I m a boy studying in an non co ed-institution,there are no girls in our college because of this there is no interaction with opposite sex, and when i meet any of my female friends i m not able to talk with them. i feel nervous to talk to them.i want to talk to them but now i dont that much dareing to talk.because of this there is a mis understanding among us.I dont know why is this happening...please help me out........

2007-12-09 23:38:09 · 10 answers · asked by shekhar r 1 in Friends

due to his arrogant, selfish behaviour, I could never like this man, however the relationship with my sister and her children has suffered, would you invite them round for christmas with or without her husband ?

2007-12-09 23:37:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am still loving my ex...

Although I do not know if she loves me or not anymore...

After arguments with friends (he use to tell me everything about what she says), I learned that 2 or so months ago she wanted nothing to do with me, because she found someone new..

They broke up about a month and a half ago, and I've been trying to show her I changed...

So when my friend and her were talking...she said she still loved me...

on msn:

(3:14 PM) -=name of friend=-: she said u were like a chav, n i said ok, n haha u loved a chav , so she said i still do

Is she saying like friendship love? or do you think its real love?

I know I should ask her, but I'm scared and I do not know how to ask!!! I can't think of what to say!

ANSWER MY QUESTIONS, DO NOT IGNORE THE QUESTIONS, DO NOT SAY TO MOVE ON, DO NOT SAY YOU BROKE UP FOR A REASON!!! FFS. JUST HELP ME!

2007-12-09 23:33:46 · 8 answers · asked by SRT8Challenger 1 in Singles & Dating

i'm confused... need it for my debate...

2007-12-09 23:30:20 · 5 answers · asked by Hanna M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I believed that when my husband first met me he truly loved me. He seemed as if he was the perfect man. Yesterday, he told me that he met this homless lady on the bus(he may have known her before me), and he was going to move her into his house without the permission of the landlord. There is only one bed in his house, with no furniture, so obviously she would be sleeping with him. He told me whether I liked it or not she was going to be moving in with us. He even wanted me to meet her. I never knew such a thing was going to happen until that day. He totally surprised me. I feel crushed, betrayed, and confused. It feels like it was just a dream. I broke out into tears. It seems as if substance abuse may have something to do with it. He told me that his nose was bleeding. A few days before this occurred, I felt as if I didn't want him to touch me...it just didn't feel right. How do I get over this?

2007-12-09 23:28:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why do all the good things have to end

i want to be more than just saying im sorry

i've messed up real bad the past couple months

but what i choose is my choice

and there's no changing back the choices you've made

you know that i'm weak

so just sing me to sleep

you need anything, just say the word

i mean anything

2007-12-09 23:27:23 · 11 answers · asked by confused_girlie007 1 in Singles & Dating

There's this gal that I like but we are just friends (i told her last year but some things might change now).
To me: Few days we're quiet but she started by teasing me and conversation... She seemed interested in what i do and once she doodled on my paper w/o my knowledge and once just robs a paper off my hand and say, "let'see what he says..." and smiles teasingfully... During school activity today, she also teased me, seemed interested in conversations and asked for my help. She is also interested in what i do and once took photo when a friend of mine was about to throw me to the pool. Her friends tease her about me.

But, there's this other guy who likes her (i don't know how she feels) but she and that boy doesn't talk much... She doesn't make attempt to see him... She was like trying to avoid him but in today's school activities i saw her talking to him a couple of times - and she was smiling (she was smiling to everyone). One time, she seemed 'interested' and it was like for half a minute. She also talks to other boys though. then her friends tease her and she was whispering to her friend but I notice she occasionally look at me. They were in same group for the activities but didn't talk. Only one or two times inside the bus.

2007-12-09 23:23:37 · 3 answers · asked by unquenchablethirst 2 in Singles & Dating

my recent ex girlfriend has accepted my coffe invitation on wednesday. she broke up with me 2 weeks ago. and was hardly talking to me since then even when i told her that we can be friend. so to day she said no problem she will come to have a coffe with me. is there any slight chance that she still has feeling for me and how should i act when i will see her. thanks guys.

2007-12-09 23:23:26 · 12 answers · asked by Mostafiyur R 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it wrong to have sex with someone when you know they have a girlfriend??

2007-12-09 23:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by Mental health 22 2 in Singles & Dating

I haven't told them and I plan to tell them because i really need help. But how would they feel? would they feel sad?disheartened? If your asking what kind of parents I have, they are very good loving parents who loves me and my sisters very much. I mean I wouldnt want to make them sad right? If they would suffer then I would rather not tell. So how do you think would they feel If I told them I suffer and worry almost everyday of being teased and bullied?

2007-12-09 23:20:23 · 8 answers · asked by George Hide 1 in Family

Ok we started having a relationship past june Till this june- july . She didn't want to go on because of her dad ( who was very strict ) so she tried to break it off 2 or 3 times by saying she's seeing someone else [ but she couldn't everytime] ..finally i lost it. I come from a not so emotionally balanced family ( and so does she ) ..

So I got really angry and started acting possessive jealous..finally it was over ..

Yesterday after months i talked to this girl on the phone for a long time . It was not bad..But today morning i had this dream...

" I was in my church talking to a famous singer ( who was like the church priest ) and after receieving the holy communion from this church I was talking to this famous singer ( who was wearing a priest outfit , i think ) . ... and when this was happening .. my cousin yells out he saw my " X-gf " outside he yells " Anna" Anna" ,

2007-12-09 23:20:00 · 3 answers · asked by sum142121 1 in Singles & Dating

I met a girl I used to know when I was a shorty some 20 years ago when I was overseas in July. We hang out a few days while I was there reminiscing old times and such. The vibe was positive and all was well.

Since coming home I sent her a few books as she loves reading as a thanks for her hospitality. She sent me a handwritten on special paper, letter back in august. the letter was all positive. she requested a letter back but since starting my new job I never got around to sending her one.

Now is December some time has passed. I'm thinking of going back to see her in a few months. I want to see if this means anything and how far it will go.

Question: Do I need to write her more letters?

2007-12-09 23:18:32 · 11 answers · asked by tripppah 3 in Singles & Dating

we have been together a month today actually. But i believe in manogomy and so does he, and he says he cant wait til were together forever... am i thinking wrong?

2007-12-09 23:18:11 · 29 answers · asked by Lyndsay E 1 in Singles & Dating

So far I've given my older sis $400 to help her through a rough patch. I'm only 21 and working as an Intern, and even if I don't have it, I'll use my credit cards to help her if I have to. Tonight while I was watching movies over my bro's house, she calls and asks for $10. 2 days ago, I brought her 5 bucks for lunch. I told her I didn't have it, asks my bro and he says he doesn't either. She hangs up & calls right back saying it's hard to believe he nor I have any money. I only have $260 to my name, and explain to her that I need that for my utilities & credit card. My bro has just enough for their groceries and my nephews diapers. She took us all the way back to childhood saying after all she's been through and everything she's done for us. This pisses me off b/c I've NEVER asked her to pay me back or asked her for money in over a decade!! She cursed me to tears, said she sees how we are now and that from now on she's dead to us.

2007-12-09 23:16:24 · 22 answers · asked by charmed 4 in Family

well there is this guy, well my best friends ex boyfriend, i really like him and he liked me when kept texting each other alot and then we were meant to meet up but he did not turn up, he never text me after that, then i found out he was texting a different friend of mine. what should i do?

2007-12-09 23:15:05 · 13 answers · asked by sportykitten 1 in Singles & Dating

If you left someone whom u were with for almost 5 years...first off could u fall out of love with them , move on , be in love with someone else, and be truly happy in a couple months after leaving the 5 year relationship??? Even also, telling the one whom u left, loving and positive things about u two for the first two months after leaving them??? And secondly, ur the one who left and ur new girlfriend was sending stuff to your ex, wouldnt u think that is sick and morbid when things werent mutual and ended bad???? (oh yeah and the one whom left, please picture this as you, you have bipolar)

2007-12-09 23:12:43 · 10 answers · asked by mjust41 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I've followed your advice and I've been very mean to this girl I liked. I've been insulting her appearance, dress, personality etc. Now she thinks I'm a jerk ,and always flies into a rage when I annoy her.

What's the next step to land her as my girlfriend ?

2007-12-09 23:09:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

But guys are always the one known for cheating. What is up with that...LADIES! I think woman are worst than guys. PERIOD...dont you agree?

2007-12-09 23:05:12 · 10 answers · asked by cheng 3 in Singles & Dating

I really like this guy and I think he likes me. We had sex once and after that i started to think that he just used me for it. A close friend of mine has been through it many times, and says next time you see him joke around and play hard to get because then he will want you more and see your true personality. I appreatiate her advice, but I'm just worried that by playing hard to get, am I doing more harm then good?

2007-12-09 23:04:47 · 15 answers · asked by WaterPrincess 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband can never say why he loves me and he never compliments me. When I asked him what he didn't like about me so I could try to work on it, he wouldn't tell me that either. What's with him?

2007-12-09 23:04:04 · 14 answers · asked by sweetness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have 2 children (boy 8, girl 12). I have a very vindictive ex. She would not allow me to have the kids this past weekend, my court ordered weekend. She says that my place gave my kids head lice (not the real question here, for I will deal with that situation by going to the proper legal channels) She has threatened to keep them away until after a hearing she requested. This may mean that my wife and I do not get the kids our court ordered holiday time.

Now the question. I have court ordered visitation with them today from 4p-8p. There are many many weather related (icy road conditions) school closings. Many school districts, including theirs is closed as well. There is no guarantee that the roads will improve, or that when I get up there she will allow me to have the kids.
I really want to go. Should I call my ex and ask her opinion? Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

2007-12-09 23:04:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

do you like talking or shopping?

which do you like more?

2007-12-09 23:00:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating