Family & Relationships - 11 December 2007

I asked a similar question yesterday and THEY ALL SAID YES. Today I am asking it directly, and asking in the relationships section and not business and finance to see if I get anyone to answer otherwise. I deleted the question because I don't want people to read those answers when they're doing a search online and possibly add to the propaganda on the web that says bad credit= loser. However, to all the people who swear up and down this is the case, I hope you lose your business, your job or your house and have to run through not only your savings but your credit so that your family can eat. I really do. Then you can rethink your position.

2007-12-11 23:59:08 · 12 answers · asked by hmm 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I asked my boyfriend if he's ever hit a woman before(he told me he dragged his sister by the hair once),and he said he did once and he gave his girlfriend a black eye,he said he would never do that to me,if i got him angry he would just hit the wall or something. My question is if he's done it before could he do it again?

2007-12-11 23:58:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have written in before about how my partners parents accused me of making up the fact that I fell pregnant and had a miscarriage (also saying that I am thus 'sick in the head and should be institutionalised').I have had to contact my dr and get her to write me a letter confirming the above actually happened, she was horrified at what was going on and made me cry because she asked me if I was okay.She is one of the first people to ask me that And I'm not. She also asked if I needed to talk with someone - & I do. It makes me feel sick that I should even have to give a letter to them proving I lost their first grandchild. Why should I have to keep on proving that I lost my baby? I am still battling to deal with it (it is my 2nd miscarriage and I know the hurt never entirely fades away) myself and now I am having to defend myself and what happened....I am so hurt. Now is the time when I need support from people, yet instead I am having to defend myself. I don't know what to do. :( .

2007-12-11 23:51:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He says that it was all my idea and that I wanted to have a threesome with another guy really bad and suggested it. I do get wild when I'm drunk so it's possible that I did initiate it all but I don't even remember! If he remembers, shouldn't he have been to rationalize that it was wrong? The scary thing is that I do remember crying and hitting him and asking him why he let this happen that same night but it's all very faint. I also know that they were talking about someone having XTC so could they have slipped it to me? This is a bf of 8 YEARS! It isn't some casual, short-term relationship. This is the guy that I thought loved me with all his heart and I'm so confused. He keeps calling me since it happened and telling me not to worry and that no one remembers anything or no one is talking. Is is possible they raped me? I do have tons of bruises and I don't recall how I got them. I know that I have a serious drinking problem but he rarely drinks. What do you think of this?

2007-12-11 23:47:15 · 28 answers · asked by jessica 2 in Singles & Dating

That drags the children into arguments over the phone. I moved 1000 miles away from him and now he is moving here to get closer to the kids. But he has never been around much to raise them. He worked all of the time out of time and when he did come home everything else came first and he still has control issues. I filed a petition that he couldn't contact me for 1 year b/c the children are old enough to talk to him alone over the phone. He begged me back over Thanksgiving and the feelings have been killed over the years. When I said NO he is trying to tear up the peace in my home. The kids are happy and want to be here b/c the yelling has ceased from him and he still keeps digging and digging at me through them. What are your views on this. Thanks in advance =)

2007-12-11 23:39:57 · 10 answers · asked by Sparkles 4 in Marriage & Divorce

please help me!!! what would you do in my situation?!!!

I'm a freshman in college. I started college with this girl I was good friend's with. She transfered after 2 days and moved out. Then, they put me with a Jehovah Wittiness who wouldn't allow me to listen to rap, wouldn't allow me to curse, wouldn't allow me to watch any movie with any sort-of profanity in it, wouldn't allow me to have visitors, and stuck up post-it notes all over my stuff of quotes from the bible.

Eventually, I moved out into another dorm. Then, the girl in that dorm's roommate came back so I was forced to move again.

I moved into a new building where the girl I was supposed to room with became an RA and got her own room and now I have my own room.

I was very upset and having a VERY hard time here at college so I decided to withdraw and return home for a semester.
Last week, the week before finals i made a TON of friend's and now I don't want to leave!!

HERE IS THE PROBLEM!!!

2007-12-11 23:35:27 · 6 answers · asked by Nnay 1 in Singles & Dating

I was with my boyfriend and this guy sat next to me at the movies 3 weeks ago.The movie is playing and all of the sudden I feel tickling on my stocking foot and it went on for 5 minutes.I thought it was an accident but it started again the stranger next to me was playing footsie with me!I wasnt sure what to do I didn't want to make a scene so I moved my foot over but he reached to touch my foot some more.But I was getting turned on a little bit because it was dangerous.So I took off my shoe and played back I was really getting horny because this was so taboo.We spent the rest of the movie fondling each others feet did this stranger uncover a hidden foot fetish?Should I tell my boyfriend?

2007-12-11 23:31:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I dated this girl for a year and a half and I was head over heels in love with her. I thought that we were going to get married and spend the rest of our lives together. However, about 6 months after we started dating she felt like certain things were missing, but the thing this she didn't tell me about those feelings until a year later. and when she finally did tell me about them she never even gave me the chance to try and fix things and she dumped me right on the spot. I know that she's not seeing anyone else, but I'm trying to figure out that after a year and a half of being together that she not tell me her feelings, break up with me and not even give me a chance to try and make a difference. Any thoughts?

2007-12-11 23:27:02 · 7 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Singles & Dating

She is probably my best female friend. She recently started dating a guy who told her right up front he has herpes. She said he told her that she can't get them because he's never given them to anyone. But she's been telling me that she hopes she gets herpes, because if she does that is her sign that he and she are meant to be together forever. Is this stupid of her?

2007-12-11 23:23:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was thinking of sending a Christmas card. Years ago I tried calling an old girlfriend but that backfired but this is a male friend.

2007-12-11 23:17:50 · 1 answers · asked by Bill Spry 4 in Friends

Im 22 yrs old and have been with my fiance for 5yrs, lived with him for the past 2yrs. I love him dearly but in reality he makes me feel like worthless crap!
For example he owns the house we live in but im paying half of his mortgage, and he says that if i dont he'll throw me out! the problem is im stuck in a dead end jub that i hate! I want to go back to college to get my nursing degree and also pass my driving test and he says go for it but how can i when he is taking nearly all my money off me!
When all the bills and mortgage is paid im left with only £150 for the rest of the month he has £1000!
We both work full time and i have to do all the house work, cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing, he just sits on his **** and plays on the computer!!!
am i being stupid or do i need to take action!? and if i do what action do i take?

2007-12-11 23:17:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

not long found out my boyfriend cheated on me by kissing another woman- my mate. i tried to forgive him for it, it lasted about a week. i went home last night and told him to get out the flat and now hes gone.
i feel quite sad, also quite guilty. i shouldnt be feeling guilty should i?
i know he loves me and he keeps beggin me to go back to him
how do i stay strong? anyone been through a smimilar situation?
i was with him a long time and before that he was my good friend.

2007-12-11 23:13:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The first commandment is "'You shall have no other gods before Me".
Besides, she's only a fat woman, making money off of peoples problems, living it up before she dies.
If you think she's helping you, you need to get a life. Help yourself.

2007-12-11 23:12:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i was mad about someone years ago that i was with on and off for a few years ,i met the man i am with now 5 years ago and married to him but i cant stop thinking about my ex even after all this time sometimes i can go for months with out thinking about him then all of a sudden im doing it again and it makes me feel depressed , i do want to be with my husband i just dont know how to let go of the past

2007-12-11 23:08:52 · 17 answers · asked by janey1971 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what do i do? i don't want to date a boy i m 23 yrs old and single. but he is so excited to date me and has asked me in so many sweet different ways. how can i say him that i do not want to date him. he lives 3 blocks away from my house.

2007-12-11 23:08:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How do you tell them that it you would love to be in love with them?

2007-12-11 22:52:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There is this girl at my work who has become somewhat of a friend and she loves me. She has made it very clear that she wants me and that she is very interested in me. Only thing is, is that she is too fat and she looks like a retard and she has facial hair.....how can I tell her this nicely that I don't find her attractive?

2007-12-11 22:49:24 · 17 answers · asked by dumbenuf 1 in Singles & Dating

Im not good at confronting guys because I dont want to be judged, but when I get to know guys, they tend to like me. Oh, and Im also a guy. Aka, Im gay.

2007-12-11 22:48:04 · 3 answers · asked by anddyrew5 2 in Singles & Dating

My daughter, who is 26 years old and have 4 kids age ranges from 2-8 need a place to live. She is living with me without my landlord permission and I want her to move out and give me my freedom again. I love her, I don't want to sound selfish or be mean, but her and her kids been living with me (again) for 5 months. She makes close to min wage, dropped out of HS.
I convinced her to go back to school but school is over now she needs to pay to take the GED test. But to make a long story short.

Are there any USA States that will pay for her rent & food while get a better job that can allow for her to provide for herself and kids ? There are other details with the family but cutting to the chase, I want her, and she want to her self – To get her own place.
Does anyone have any real suggestions without getting smart and disrespectful?

2007-12-11 22:28:21 · 10 answers · asked by hanoverjack 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel like my heart is going to pop becoz im so in LOVE :P

2007-12-11 22:11:27 · 14 answers · asked by Dee R84 2 in Singles & Dating

Me and my bf have been together for 2 months. I have really been falling in love w/ him. This past w/e we spent together and everything was great. He was really sweet and went out f his way to bring me a rose and make me breakfast among other things. He left my house frustrated on Sunday b/c he left later than he planned and missed a chance to work on an assignment w/ a friend (he's in college). We got in a bit of an argument on sunday night on the phone as we were both a bit grouchy. He was upset I was acting needy. We both said we didn't want to fight and made up. The next morning I sent him a text saying sorry and explained why I acted like that and I wouldn't do it again. He didn't call or text me all day (which he has never done). I called him before bed at 10:30pm and he said that he was neglecting his school work b/c of all the time he spends w/ me and is so overwhelmed w/ school and work and me that he doesn't have any time for himself. PLEASE KEEP READING BELOW...

2007-12-11 22:09:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I can't stop thinking about my EX. =(

She went to study abroad in Europe for 4 months which is why we broke up and she is coming back the 15th but we haven't emailed in 3 weeks and I think she's over me. She expressed she will "probably want to be single" when she returns.

But I don't want to move on in case we might get back together and there's nothing I can do even though I want to talk to her right now and I always think about her. I miss her terribly and I'm afraid she won't even be friends with me now.

I keep looking at her facebook profile and looking at old pictures of us. It's not that I'm worried I won't find anyone else, it's that I have all these great memories with her of college and I can't get that with anyone else... it's just not the same..

2007-12-11 21:49:21 · 5 answers · asked by brodis36 2 in Singles & Dating

i recently posted a question about trying to locate a retired
air line pilot. one gentleman replied saying he thought he
could help me. time must have elapsed and i do not have a
way to contact you. if you see this again, maybe you could
respond. also is there a fee for this? either way if you
see this please reply. thank you.

2007-12-11 21:42:54 · 2 answers · asked by Jerry S 7 in Singles & Dating

I am seeing this guy and we both agreed to take it slow, but I get the feeling he is not that interested. Some days he rings and txts and others he dosnt bother. Is he not interested or is he just playing games?!?!

Do men play hard to get like women????

2007-12-11 21:34:17 · 29 answers · asked by billy j 1 in Singles & Dating

I always hear things on the news about men raping women, guys hitting on girls, men cheating, guys trying to impress girls, guys getting in fights over a female and of course there's the usual, "guy gets girl" story. I hardly hear of women taking this sort of role that men take. Is it because they're not that interested in men? It always seems to be the guy who goes after the girl, even to the point of sacrificing his own life to get her, but it's sooo rare that I see a female taking this role.

2007-12-11 21:30:09 · 15 answers · asked by sg-7 1 in Singles & Dating

The guy i was seeing for about 4 months is married, and i just found out about a week ago. it turns out his wife and i have the same hair dresser, infact i found out through my hair dresser. i've actually met his wife before, you know passing in and out of the salon and having brief conversations, she seems like a doll and i was going to tell her but it will kill her, he doesnt know that i know he's married, i've kinda just been ignoring his calls, should i let him know that i know he's married. or just continue to ignore him. i know it might be dumb of me to just let him slide. but i dont want to be the one to break up a marraige. i will let someone else do it. i feel like screwing his life up, but if i do that he wont be the only one affected, she will feel it also. so should i just continue to ignore him. or let her know. since we were only seeing each other for such a short time does it even matter? .. im sooo confused i dont know!!

2007-12-11 21:29:13 · 12 answers · asked by Cami♥ 4 in Singles & Dating

For no apparent reason at all? For instance, I added several people that I knew from college. One of them happened to block me although I did not add this person. Some others did not claim me as a friend although I did nothing wrong to them. I even knew these people and thought they were nice. Turns out they were not the people that I know and used to think they were real friends.

To be honest, I was a little hurt by the rejection from some of the people that I used to know from college. Has anybody else experienced this same situation?

Your responses would be appreciated greatly.

2007-12-11 21:26:04 · 3 answers · asked by ChocLaddy 2 in Friends

and i am much scared for wedding night. is it possible to remain virgin??

2007-12-11 21:21:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

If I have the money on my phone I will usually call people and find out how they are. I am quite sociable and have many friends/acquaintances but no one ever calls me back. I feel so lonely.

I have asked if I have offended them or whatever and they just say no, was busy etc. But No one EVER calls me except my one friend and we have been friends for about 10 years.

2007-12-11 21:20:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have been with my girlfriend on and off for a while, about 7months, but for the past month we stayed together the whole time, i have known her for almost a year and i really love her, emotionally.
But the thing is, im not as attracted to her phisically as i was before (it happened after i found out she cheated on me, but i dont want to mention that if i break up with her because i care about her feelings and know she regrets it). I dont kiss her too much, when we have sex, i tend to fantasize it with other girls, or else it just dosen't feel too good.
But she is the best perosn i have ever known and she cares so much about me and i care about her more then anything, we are allways together, but i sort of see her as a friend.
What should i do?

And how do i not hurt her feelings?

2007-12-11 21:15:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating