Im 22 yrs old and have been with my fiance for 5yrs, lived with him for the past 2yrs. I love him dearly but in reality he makes me feel like worthless crap!
For example he owns the house we live in but im paying half of his mortgage, and he says that if i dont he'll throw me out! the problem is im stuck in a dead end jub that i hate! I want to go back to college to get my nursing degree and also pass my driving test and he says go for it but how can i when he is taking nearly all my money off me!
When all the bills and mortgage is paid im left with only £150 for the rest of the month he has £1000!
We both work full time and i have to do all the house work, cooking, cleaning, washing and ironing, he just sits on his **** and plays on the computer!!!
am i being stupid or do i need to take action!? and if i do what action do i take?
2007-12-11 23:17:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are way too young to tie yourself to that. If you have debts down the middle, the pot should be down the middle. You really need to think about where you see yourself in 5 years. I wouldn't marry a guy like that - he has a lot of growing up to do.
2007-12-11 23:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all fairness you cant live anywhere for nothing sweetheart.
But making you do all the household duties isn't exactly fair. If you haven't already talked to him about how he makes you feel. Then you need to do that. Without yelling or screaming sit down and talk to him like an adult. If this is something you cant do I really don't see your up and coming marriage to be of any good.
An as far as the holding you back from getting your license or getting your nursing degree... that's BULL SPIT!! You need to explain to him that you NEED to do these things in order to make sure the two of your are financially stable for the rest of your lives together. If he don't the majority of the bills and what not are going to HAVE to come outta his pockets. Which by the sounds of it he is going to have a problem with it.
Either way good luck and if all else fails run away now don't marry him. But that's JMO.
2007-12-11 23:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dana B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to start saving RUN money. My mother always taught me that, incase you ever need to leave. Even if you can only save a little at a time, go and open a secret bank account that he doesnt know about and start your saving. Go take the driving test and make sure you can pass it the first time! Do everything around the house make him happy, whatever. If he really make you feel like you say, then he isn't any good for you and you know what you need to do in this situation! Get out of there as soon as you can, and make sure you let the door hit you in the @$$ on the way out to give you a jump start!
2007-12-11 23:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Grants a tractor luvr! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find you another place to stay, or go home to your parents. This man is using you. by taking everything you have, he can control you, and know exactly what you are doing. He does not sound like a very good person, or he would want to take care of you. That home will not be yours if you andhe split, so why should you pay the entire 1/2 of the mortagage? On top of that, you are both working. Why should you have to do all of the chores??
Get out before you become pregnant or married to this man. He will make your life miserable. You have already wasted enouhg of your young years on him. You can't get those years back.
2007-12-11 23:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank god your not married you still have a chance to make yourself happy leave him he isn't going to change this is who he is, if you love him then you can try and make it work but your gonna have to face a reality of never being able to do what you want, You need a man who will support you in what You want to do not a daddy to rule your life after all that's what it says in the vows you make at the alter(Do you promise to support her in sickness and in health till death do you part)You may have to sacrifice what you have help make but it's only materialistic and you will make it back. what's more important money or your happiness.
2007-12-11 23:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this. You arent happy in your relat and it sounds like you are sticking with him only because of convience. Its a bad sign when you have been living together for 2 years, are engaged yet still operate from different bank accounts...leave him.
2007-12-11 23:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by katie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Arrange/prepare everything on a clever way, and one day go home from the work at 10 a.m., pack yor things together and disappear. Leave a paper on the table with that " I became fed up with you, so bye-bye".
2007-12-11 23:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get married hes a horrible boyfriend. hes abusing u
2007-12-11 23:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by ..... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM and what ever you do DONT MARRY HIM!!! hes ruining your life, you can do so much better!!!
2007-12-11 23:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by emesumau 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him however you can. He is just taking your money . Please don't let someone control you like that.
2007-12-11 23:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋