and i am much scared for wedding night. is it possible to remain virgin??
2007-12-11 21:21:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its possible if you both agree to it, but don't worry. It may be a bit uncomfortable, but you don't necessarily have to consumate the marriage on the first night. You may want to spend a little bit of time getting to know each other.
You may want to learn about foreplay if you haven't because usually it takes ladies longer to orgasm than it does for a man.
2007-12-11 21:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Runa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it, I think that men in your culture consider you property and I would run from an arranged marriage. I would want the chance to fall in love and really care for the person that I give myself to. I know that it is your culture, but don't you want to leave that culture behind and find true love. Don't you want to be something more than a piece of property to some guy? IF there is any way you can run away from this situation and move to a place where you are considered a person with rights, I would do it. You are a valuable person and you should be able to choose the person that you want to have children with, and the person that you want to give yourself to. I can't imagine anything worse than having to sleep with someone that I was given to like a piece of property. This is the year 2007 and there are places all over the world that women are not property and they are considered equal to a man. Maybe you should run away to a place like that and find someone you love. I feel so sorry for you and they way they treat women in your culture. I will pray for you.
2007-12-11 23:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by gigi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to remain a virgin for ever then perhaps you shouldn't marry. But on the contrary if you are scared of the wedding night then its baseless, you can talk to hubby and tell him the way you about it, maybe he will understand and not force anything on you until you are ready.
2007-12-11 22:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about arranged marriages but sex should be between consenting adults. I would hope he would be patient with you and allow you time to get comfortable with him and want him before you consumate the marraige. Sex is pretty wonderful between two people that care for each other and I hope you get that pleasure. Can you not talk with this person? If you have to wait until you are married, ask him to have patience with you and give you some time. But you need to know that sex and marriage go together. I am so glad to live in the US and be able to be my own person and chose my own life. I hope it works out for you.
2007-12-11 21:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your religious or spiritual path is, but I hope that the man your parents arranged for you to marry is a good man. If he is a good man he will be gentle with you and take his time with you on your wedding night, and only take your flower when you are ready. If it is also going to be his first time, then you must both be gentle and take your time with each other, telling each other what feels good and what doesn't. I hope he is a good man and this is the first time for both of you and you have a surprisingly wonderful time on your wedding night.
2007-12-11 21:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Toadstoolie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to lose your virginity then of course you can stay a virgin. Tell him on your wedding night, you are not ready to have sex, and hopefully he'll be understanding. If he forces you in anyway, you should go the police and accuse him of rape. I don't know how your religion would look upon this, but rape IS a crime, and if you don't want to have sex, you shouldn't have to. Sex is something that two people share when they are in love. It's completely normal to feel scared the first time.
2007-12-11 21:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If your in a country where parents still arrange marriages, then, no, you probably can't say no, and you probably can't remain a virgin because you probably have no rights. Oh, I thank God that I'm an American women!!!!
2007-12-11 22:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you want to remain a virgin then you need to not get married. Otherwise its going to happen. Dont do anything you dont have to. Hope that helps.
2007-12-11 21:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No one this days can force you in to having sex so by signing a peace of paper doesn't mean that he can do this on the night of the wedding but you can relax and see what happens you might be surprised.
2007-12-11 21:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by lile w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Arranged marriages are wrong in so many ways! If you have to deal with this, simply do what you feel is right for you. Don't let the thought of others doing things change how you feel.
2007-12-11 21:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋